New house

[JasonmaxParticipant 0]

Hi sorry, new here so forgive me if im posting in the wrong place

Me and my girlfriend just bought a house (well mostly my money)

Needs a few jobs doing, was planning me and my dad decorate it. Shes got all her family down, her and her dad out buying tools with my money, painting the house, building boxes to hide the gas meter, all s~~~ that I wanted me and my dad do.

S~~~ is wrecking my pride, no longer feels like my house. Right now I’m sat in work while they decorate the house all week. Am I being unreasonable? Should I be putting my foot down?

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Is it too late to set the house on fire and flee to South America?

What in the world are you doing buying a house with a girlfriend? I say move out, dump her, stop making the payments and let them foreclose if she can’t pay for it. Destroying your credit rating is going to be far less painful than the reaming you’re in for at this point. If you can’t let this house thing go, then this female has you by the b~~~~ and there’s no way she’s letting go.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome aboard.

You are not alone in this bind. Many a man has walked this difficult road before you. Search the various forums and you will see.

Good luck.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 42]

Doc, Thumbs up on the first line. Hey Jaysonmax (halloween/road warrior) Good handle!

As much as I’d like to burn everything, I’m not!  Jaysonmax, loose those house, sell it! If she doesn’t want to, it’s already a leverage tool, and you’re not in control of anything! Every man needs to be at the helm of his life, anything less will accompany feelings of inadequacy! A slippery slope down to a furnace, you will ‘BURN”. I don’t give advice on a whim, I’m conveying my convictions, what I believe to be true. Any captain not holding the wheel, or cannot control the helmsman, is headed for the shoals, and hid life will be smashed to pieces, leaving him nothing, but his life, if he is lucky.

I don’t want to sound like a prick, be it I am; someone needs to lay it on the line with you!

Fast forward, House is finished, You fighting, she’s thinking how to f~~~ you before you realize it! My brother walked in his house and found his (wife),,,(vomit),, in his bed with a C~~~ in her, and a strange man connected to the c~~~! “Devastated” it ruined him for years to come… toss the helmswoman overboard, and keep the house for yourself, or sell it and part ways! First thing is first grow a set of B~~~~, take charge! If others do not yield, they are in control of you like a cheap puppet! You and your property become defacto owned by someone else, and they are the operator of YOU! You become the property of others. Don’t let that happen, it will ruin your soul and heart, and shred them to confetti, you will become less than a MAN!

I know this boils your blood, truths have a way of doing that all on their own, Good luck and thanks for stopping by… Cheers

[BubParticipant 1405]

Wear a condom or better yet ABSTAIN …. DO NOT go to “baby jail” for the next 18 years of your life.  Get out now…. Can’t say it any plainer.

Just rolling down the road

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Who does what to fix up a house is not the critical question that I see here.

If you don’t control your own money, you send a signal that communicates “come and control me…”

Your girlfriend’s attempt at controlling your money is also a signal that communicates, “I want to control you. Can I?”

If you don’t respond, this signals back “yes, you can”

If you respond favorably, this signals back “yes you can”

It seems as though you have a different signal to send, my friend. And it’s important that your words and your actions send the same signal. Hostility may not be necessary, but clarity is.

As of right now, you have communicated to us what’s in your head MUCH more clearly than you have communicated to your girlfriend.

Most of the men on this site have long since given up the idea of EVER letting a woman live in our homes. We don’t care how women feel or respond to this decision. But you seemed concerned that your girlfriend might not like or approve of what’s in your head if you speak as clearly to her as you have to us.

Why are you more concerned about how she feels than you are about how you feel? Perhaps she has convinced you with some unspoken messages of her own that how you feel is not as important as how she feels? It’s your decision to decide how much you are worth, then your responsibility to yourself to speak and act accordingly. You might not like the situation that results, but as long as you like yourself and the way you have behaved (according to what you know you’re worth) in that situation, it matters less wether you like that situation or not.

If you keep your focus on you… and navigate your life toward what makes you like you, you will most likely end up liking yourself regardless of wether you like you situation.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[…Spectator 1165]

jasonmax: ouch! i hate to say this man but you are f~~~ed. her primary goal is to extract your resources which she is doing very successfully. put you foot down? better hurry the f~~~ up man. jesus. you are in some deep s~~~. good luck.

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