Since I started the other thread to introduce myself and explain my situation, I will open this one to talk about the new ongoing developments.
I wrote this in the other thread, but I was extremely surprised to see that she has unblocked me from her FB. Photos of me tagged with her found in her account all of a sudden showed up on mine out of nowhere. In the past, whenever she decided to enter ‘self-perservation mode’ AKA I don’t give a f~~~ about you and will selfishly look out for myself first, she always blocked me from all the social network sites we had in common. In the past, when she decided to unblock me, eventually would contact me or try to establish contact in one way or another.
I don’t know if that’s going to happen again this time. As a matter of fact, I am doing my best to not even think about it cause it’s a waste of time. And I already prepared a reply to her little chess move (sorry but I love chess, I’m really passionate about the game!), today at noon I’m going to write her an email asking her to have the newest version of my agreement ready for me to be signed by the end of the week. She has been taking her sweet time to ask her lawyer update a couple of lines on the document and that seems odd to me.
She knows that if she does not expedite this process, I will file here on my own, and enjoy the advantage of jurisdiction on our case in my state.
On the good side of things:
I keep losing weight, gradually and slowly, and since I started lifting my body and facial features are becoming more defined. I am looking, as I said before, like I’m in my early 20s again. Actually, I have had a couple of people recently telling me that they can’t believe I’m in my early thirties since I look so young. Feeling better and better day after day. I also resumed writing my doctoral dissertation, after two months of paralysis due to this BS.
I also talk to my mom more often these days, and stay in touch with my best friends a lot. I talk to her literally every other day. When I was in a relations~~~ with her, and then marriage, I ignored my family for years. She never asked me to do that, but she truly became my world and I started paying less and less attention to my family and other friends. Chatting with my mom here and there, eve if it’s about nonsense, has been nice. She’s my only parent left, my dad died when I was very young and she took great care of him. I will write that story here some day, to illustrate what a great woman truly is, and as imperfect as my mom is, she belongs in that category, and so do some of my aunts (will write about them in the future too!).
After two months of no drinking alcohol at home, at all, I bought a bottle of good wine and have had ONE (emphasis on one) glass a night. It’s nice, it’s comforting, and it’s very relaxing. I don’t plan on going back to the old days of litters of beer a day, every day. That just gave me too many useless pounds to deal with. It’s not worth it to make it a habit to drink that much on a daily basis.
On the spiritual side of things: being a believer has been great for me in this situation. This would have been way harder than it has been if I had been and atheist. The comfort and calmness that religion provides me with in these situations are just priceless. Whether you believe in him or not, god is looking out for you brothers. Trust me.
Will update this thread in the future if new developments arise. Hope to turn this thread into my log during this journey until the day I’m completely free of the person that hurt me so much.
Soldier-Medic 4 years, 4 months ago.
