Never married and MGTOW

[MERCHParticipant 56]

Ive never been married before.
Ive thought about it a few times in ignorance and mostly in a fantasy like way. My father was divorced by my mother when i was at the impressionable age of 15 and i soaked it all in. I realized the danger of getting married and felt what it did to our family, and most of all, my father. he was ruined.

Of course Time Wounds All Heels, but i would like to think that if it never happened i would have ended up just the same. it scares me to think of it.

Does being predisposed to divorce give men an sense of “being on their guard”?
does it help them in the long run? or does it make them dream of one that COULD work if they worked for it?

I don’t know the answer to these questions. but i do know that in my case I saw my father loose everything. he was superman, and it only took a woman to make him crumble. I believe it influenced me as a man today, and it is the reason i haven’t married yet at 28.
Has anyone else had experiences similar or different? and has it changed who you are today?
MERCH

[Anonymous 11]

I am the same. I almost got snared 20 years ago though.

I do not regret not ever getting married even at 48. My married friends tell me to never get married. They would know more than I so I heed their wisdom.

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Insightful post, Merch. My parent’s aren’t divorced but are constantly at each other’s throats. Its worse because they also own a business together. DON’T GO INTO BUSINESS WITH WOMEN!! They will bail and give up when the business doesn’t make money fast enough. Men try things out and fail and get back up again. My father worked his blood , sweat, and tears into the business as he was self-employed, while my mom helped but was more of a drag on the businesses success. She worked full time at another job that was very routine and didn’t feel like putting intelligent effort into managing an actual business. I hate to say this, but spouse businesses make relationships HELL because emotions and self esteem KILL PROGRESS.

This has had an impact on me personally because this can be generalized from business to life in general. Im 22. I don’t know everything. Heck I know very little. But what i do know is that women are experts at stalling your LIFE PROGRESS by wanting to live with you, having you spend money on them, making you give them children, etc. I told my father that I feel bad he is stuck with a woman who doesn’t care about the health of a marriage or business. If my dad gives me the family business when he passes, there is no way in hell I’m having a woman help me manage it. Its not sexist. It’s personal preference.

Oh, and f*ck marriage. That sh*t is for the birds.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

MERCH wrote:

Ive never been married before.
Ive thought about it a few times in ignorance and mostly in a fantasy like way.

Well, staying single is a very good plan!

I’m going single all the way, thanks to the disastrous examples of married life I’ve seen all around me. I could care less what other people say they think I should do!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 11]

Fermat wrote:

If my dad gives me the family business when he passes, there is no way in hell I’m having a woman help me manage it.

No better way to destroy your family business than to let a woman control it via you by proxy. She’ll happily run that business into the ground for baubles.

My brother’s wife was instrumental in the failure of his business. She just would not feel like answering the phone so she did not.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

RoyDal wrote:

I could care less what other people say they think I should do!

I think you should do what ever you want!

Ha!

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

I can honestly say that my experience came from my marriage. I didn’t crumble, but I was damn sure knocked to my knees.

I have been my own lesson.

But to be completely honest, I didn’t fully understand my experiences with women and especially with my wife until I discovered this site. This was where experience and knowledge came together for me. Because of this I gained understanding.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[MERCHParticipant 56]

RoyDal wrote:

Well, staying single is a very good plan!

I’m going single all the way, thanks to the disastrous examples of married life I’ve seen all around me. I could care less what other people say they think I should do!

I think this is the best option, in all honesty. I wonder sometimes if nature looks at me and shakes its head.
But then i remember that I just don’t give a s~~~.
I have an estimated 85 years on this earth or the next one we find (excluding medical advances) and I don’t intend spending them as some kind of society driven indentured servant.
I refuse.
There are so many things that I want to do in this life, why would I ever pass them up?
You shouldn’t either.
MERCH

[WallyParticipant]

My parents never divorced, but my mom put my dad through hell both financially and emotionally. He told me he regretted getting married and told me close to his death ” son never get married, you will lose your freedom.” I have never said that to my mom, love her despite what she did to my father. I have heeded his advice despite stumbling occasionally and thinking with my pecker.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[MERCHParticipant 56]

Wally wrote:

My parents never divorced, but my mom put my dad through hell both financially and emotionally. He told me he regretted getting married and told me close to his death ” son never get married, you will lose your freedom.” I have never said that to my mom, love her despite what she did to my father. I have heeded his advice despite stumbling occasionally and thinking with my pecker.

words of wisdom that i feel many men have uttered too late.
my father told me the same thing but i just brushed it off as “old man nonsense” when i was young and dumb.
It never hit me until i was older.
Im glad that you could understand what he was saying, for all our sake. I also heeded my fathers warnings.
if us men don’t learn from each others mistakes, then we are as good as dead already.
MERCH

[MERCHParticipant 56]

Anonymous wrote:

My married friends tell me to never get married. They would know more than I so I heed their wisdom

I feel like married men are like crack addicts sometimes
they tell you never to do it
it ruins their life
they end up living in poverty
need therapy, sometimes court mandated
and statistically a good percentage end up going right back to THE ROCK. you know what i mean.
MERCH

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

Your story resonates with me. My parents divorced when I was in my teenage years as well. My father told my sister and I that our “mother didn’t love him anymore.” For many years, I felt like it was a mental tug of war on my head trying to please both parents during that time. Still to this day, I don’t want to get married or have kids, because I don’t want to end up telling my kids the same thing about their mother. I love both of my parents very much, but it’s time for me to take care of myself and progress. Merch, I suggest you do what YOU want. Concentrate on YOUR goals, YOUR aspirations. Do what makes YOU happy.

[MERCHParticipant 56]

rebelandboltman wrote:

Your story resonates with me. My parents divorced when I was in my teenage years as well. My father told my sister and I that our “mother didn’t love him anymore.” For many years, I felt like it was a mental tug of war on my head trying to please both parents during that time. Still to this day, I don’t want to get married or have kids, because I don’t want to end up telling my kids the same thing about their mother. I love both of my parents very much, but it’s time for me to take care of myself and progress. Merch, I suggest you do what YOU want. Concentrate on YOUR goals, YOUR aspirations. Do what makes YOU happy.

we definitely coincide as far as experiences go with our upbringing life stories, in a way,
I can see it as clear as the blue skies and as green as palm trees now, you don have to worry about me,
never marrying seems like common sense to me at this point, like 1+(-1) =0,
looking out for myself just comes naturally,(with life lessons directing me), self preservation without explanation,
i have mentioned before that I have a list of things to do, this is not a metaphor, or a bucket list
I LITERALLY made a list of things that i want to do, and i have been checking them off as i go
Its a great idea and i think men should consider it if they haven’t already.
make a list of things they wish to do in their lifetimes, and simply do them.
why not?
MERCH

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