Need some Fathers Day Advice/help

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Hi guys,

So I have this tradition of taking my Daughter with me to my Dad’s house in Canada for Fathers Day weekend. We live in Seattle, so it’s a bit of a drive, but that’s part of the fun.

Anyway, this year my daughter’s mom, who I’m not with, got her(our daugher) tickets for a concert by some YouTube “stars” right on the Saturday of that weekend.

A little bit of background: Youtube has been a source of strife because I feel (and so does her Mom to some extent) that she spends too much time watching it rather than doing productive stuff. I’ve had to confiscate her phone/ipod before because of it.

Now basically, its ruined my Fathers day weekend. My Dad’s 84 now, and has one of my kidneys keeping him alive. I don’t know how many Fathers days I’ll have left with him, and now I’m in the position of seeing my Dad for Fathers day, and not getting to spend it with my kid, or spending it with my kid and not getting to see my Dad.

I could lower the boom and say we’re just going up to Canada for the weekend, but then my kid would hate me because she’s been looking forward to this for months and is going with a friend. When I even suggested it she burst into tears.

Am I right to feel like this is a huge slap in the face? I honestly don’t think it was intentional because the tickets were bought back at Christmas and I really don’t think they realized it fell on this weekend, but that doesn’t change how s~~~ty this makes me feel.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Anonymous 54]

Women know dates of holidays.Hey,you gave your Dad one of your kidneys? The worlds Greatest Son!! Spend the day with your Dad,try not to think about the rest of it.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Keep your tradition, visit your father and spend father’s day with him.
Compromise with your daughter, she can go to the concert if she “promises” to drive with you on your next visit to your father.
If she agrees, set a specific date to do so, and make sure her mother knows (text for paper trail)
Add a little guilt: Remind your daughter how much her grandfather loves her and loves to see her.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

XSDBS wrote:

Compromise with your daughter, she can go to the concert if she “promises” to drive with you on your next visit to your father.

Ya, that’s not a problem. We go up there fairly often (once every few months or so) . It’s just the fact that the one weekend a year I actually care about has been stomped on. The rest of the time I’m pretty flexible.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Fire up skype and let her talk to him.

Will do. We all actually talk pretty often on phone and skype, I’m just hurt because Fathers’ day is something pretty special to me, and I feel like I got put in the position of being evil mean Daddy or having something important to me get stomped on.

Be glad that lady is your ex.

She could be a lot worse – I’m usually able to see my kid about as often/much as I like, I just got f~~~ed-over (unintentionally) for fathers day.

I am really glad I never married(or divorced) her. Kept things friendly (mostly) when it comes to our kid.

Thank you for your advice and support guys. I just feel a bit gut punched cause they’re normally at least a bit considerate of things like this.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Biggvs_Dickvs wrote:

Hi guys,

So I have this tradition of taking my Daughter with me to my Dad’s house in Canada for Fathers Day weekend. We live in Seattle, so it’s a bit of a drive, but that’s part of the fun.

Anyway, this year my daughter’s mom, who I’m not with, got her(our daugher) tickets for a concert by some YouTube “stars” right on the Saturday of that weekend.

A little bit of background: Youtube has been a source of strife because I feel (and so does her Mom to some extent) that she spends too much time watching it rather than doing productive stuff. I’ve had to confiscate her phone/ipod before because of it.

Now basically, its ruined my Fathers day weekend. My Dad’s 84 now, and has one of my kidneys keeping him alive. I don’t know how many Fathers days I’ll have left with him, and now I’m in the position of seeing my Dad for Fathers day, and not getting to spend it with my kid, or spending it with my kid and not getting to see my Dad.

I could lower the boom and say we’re just going up to Canada for the weekend, but then my kid would hate me because she’s been looking forward to this for months and is going with a friend. When I even suggested it she burst into tears.

Am I right to feel like this is a huge slap in the face? I honestly don’t think it was intentional because the tickets were bought back at Christmas and I really don’t think they realized it fell on this weekend, but that doesn’t change how s~~~ty this makes me feel.

Hey man. If I was in your shoes this is how it would go. My daughter would be made to come with me to see my father who is way more important than some bulls~~~ Youtube show.

If my ex had a problem with this, I would say ok then, you f~~~ing take her to the Youtube concert because I’m still going to see my father no matter what.

Your father comes before anything considering his age and his health. Your daughter can go to one of these s~~~ty Youtube concerts any day of her life. How long is your old man gunna be around for?

Cheers.

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