Need some advice

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

I still have nigthmares with my ex wife.
Imagine you are sleeping and someone hugs you from behind and that person is frozen, so you feel like you just were touched by ice block on you bare skin.

Thing is my birthday was a few weeks ago, turned 33, I got a mail from my ex, congratulating me, and “I’m sorry how things ended between us”
I know she is lying, and things didn’t ended, she ended them.
Well thing is since then my nigthmares came back. I don’t wanna know s~~~ about her, I don’t care if she is alive or dead.
I didn’t answer the mail.
But I hate the fact that she contacted me, it’s like if she still own me some how.
I don’t wanna have anything to do with that thing.
Any advice? Any point of view? I don’t want her to contact me ever, ever again.
She is a doctor and if I was sick I rather die than let her touch.
🤢

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Carnage wrote:

But I hate the fact that she contacted me, it’s like if she still own me some how.

You have the upper hand brother! She is the one who is contacting YOU. If she is ended things and is contacting you, there, right there is a contradiction.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[JVBParticipant]

Stay on track bro. Zero contact as this sits in the subconscious and the dreams will continue. You are correct that she doesn’t give a f~~~ and she is only reaching out to play games. The best way to get your message across is go dark, and act as if she doesn’t exist.

One thing a women hates is to be ignored. Good luck brother. It will get better for

Peace is > piece.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Carnage wrote:

I didn’t answer the mail.

Good.

Carnage wrote:

But I hate the fact that she contacted me, it’s like if she still own me some how.

This is normal and expected.. trying to stay in your head. She’ll treat you like a yo-yo if you let her. I have also been contacted by exes before. They want to keep one eye in your life , peeking in and making little judgements…. even if she’s married.

One married ex asked if we could be “friends on Facebook”.
NO. I ignored it and pretended she didn’t even say it.

Carnage wrote:

Any advice? Any point of view? I don’t want her to contact me ever, ever again.

Don’t let a woman live in your head rent free.
Get and stay busy. Too busy to think about it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

I knew this already.
I was doing great but the nightmares came back.
Well I will just deal with it.
I just want to be out of reach of that woman.
Hell wish I never meet her.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Thanks km, and I’m really busy. Working 7-20.
And extra shifts weekend.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[VassagoShaxParticipant 255]

I occasionally get ex’s who, for reasons that escape me, get in touch. It’s especially tricky for me because I am one of those guys who just has to have the last word. So when they get in touch my immediate gut reaction is to reply. Even before coming here I learnt to bite my tongue and resist the urge to respond. There’s one or two girls I know however who are persistent and will keep messaging. They are always the same “How are you”, “Missing you”, “I haven’t heard from you in a while, are you okay?” etc.

In the end my only solution was to destroy all my social media presence, literally the lot. It’s not easy to do if you have a lot of friends or family (ha ha, sure) who you keep in touch with. But it was necessary. Even went as far as changing my numbers and frankly if I could, I would move house too. I will return to social media again, but I will let things die down for a bit and even when I do I shall use an alias.

As for your nightmares, well that’s a tricky one. I could probably throw out the ‘ol line about time heals all wounds thing, but that’s not exactly helpful. Perhaps by shutting out any avenue she has of contact or at least curtailing it, perhaps by doing more of the things you enjoy and make you happy then maybe things will improve for you. I sincerely hope they do. We deserve better. And a belated Happy Birthday.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Ohhh well I will end my shift today. And spend a few hours on the beach shadow boxing.
😀😀

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

On email I create a “rule”. I program it so any message from their phone or email account or accounts go to trash bin.

That way I never see it.

Not sure about phone messages but I bet there is a way to set auto delete.

Peace brothers

[Anonymous 42]

They can’t just f~~~ you up and leave you alone, they can’t stand the silence they created, It’s just not right that an orbiter to her holiness go dark and silent.

Don’t acknowledge her existence, those days are ended, she needs to know this by your eternal silence…

let her go play the games of life on someone else. Nothing is real to them, they live in their minds unaffected by reality and repercussions.

[Anonymous 7]

I must be a real prick to exes, for they never contact me after a breakup.

I’ve bumped into a few, but never been contacted outright.

Not sure there are bragging rights here, but it is a different experience than what I usually read about from you guys.

I guess they are just too revolted by me at the end, or something.

[Anonymous 18]

She is a c~~~.

C~~~ do things men with code of conduct do not understand.

You are a man.

A c~~~ contacted you. Because she is a c~~~.

What you having for lunch?

[GregB0Participant]

MGTOW_Mike wrote:

She is the one who is contacting YOU.

JVB wrote:

she is only reaching out to play games

Keymaster wrote:

This is normal and expected.. trying to stay in your head.

Her attempts to contact you have nothing to do with you, it’s all about her. To make herself feel better, to have something to talk about with her girlfriends, to just be mean and evil, regardless it’s all about her wishes and desires.

DorkShit wrote:

I program it so any message from their phone or email account or accounts go to trash bin.

That way I never see it.

Great advice. It’s too easy to block communications with someone in a digital age, take advantage of it.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Lonestar you lucky f~~~er.
😂

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Carnage wrote:

Well thing is since then my nigthmares came back. I don’t wanna know s~~~ about her,

JVB wrote:

Zero contact as this sits in the subconscious and the dreams will continue.

I don’t really have any advice but I will tell you that I went through a very bad break-up nearly thirty years ago and I still to this day have reoccurring unpleasant dreams about her.

I don’t know if this is normal or not but just know that you’re not alone. If having a bad dream once in a while is the worst lasting effect of the relations~~~ then I guess I can just live with it…

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Agreed auto lite.
Im a lucky men I got out, with no economic backlash, no kids, my career and alive.
That’s why I don’t want that woman to contact me.
I had it pretty good 😊

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[finallyfreeParticipant 341]

An ex I absolutely despise still contacts (texts only) me every 3-5 months like clockwork just to keep in contact I guess. She always has an excuse every time – “Dont forget to vote the election is in a few days, I saw this facebook meme and though of you, is there a generic for Relpax yet?, Sorry to hear about your Uncle passing, blah blah blah, etc… The last time she did I responded with 1 and 2 word answers, straight to the point in an attempt to get it through her thick skull that I’m done with her games and couldn’t care less what happens to her.
Like Mgtower wrote – They can’t just f~~~ you up and leave you alone. I know I can just block her number but I feel like that would show that I’m still mad at her which would definitely give her some satisfaction. So glad I never have to deal with relationships ever again. I don’t know how guys can put up with that s~~~ ??

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Me neither. I’m done for good.
awalt

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 3]

VassagoShax wrote:

I will return to social media again,

Just don’t. That spyware called social “media” may be smart enough to identify your old stuff to the new profile (especially if you use the same email, or did not care for privacy) and maybe put it right into the exes “Who may I know?” page. You don’t want that.

You have the phone numbers and email addresses of the people you REALLY KNOW and care for, don’t you?

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Only social media I got is LinkedIn and I find no use for that crap.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

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