Need advice on dealing with "feelingz"

[GrotesqueRogueParticipant 116]

So, it’s been 3 months since I decided to take the red pill. It’s  slowly digesting, I keep taking daily does of them and I can see results. I am changing. I can’t look at everything the same way which is so nice. I start to feel free little by little. But….

I have a female-friend (I think I still can call her that), whom I know since my childhood. She was the trigger for me achieving what I achieved (without her being in my life I wouldn’t have started some of my journeys) and me realising how blue-pulled I was. Plus, she was always with me when I really needed it and helped me.

This all sounds blue-pilled and naive as if she’s some kind of a unicorn, maybe.

The point is that since taking the red-pill I developed some level of distrust to all females I interact with and I constantly look for motives why they try to spend time with me. I don’t give them much of attention and I really start to see my interactions with then as business-transactions and I give them something when I get something in return. And this works. The same applies to that friend. But…

Let’s put aside my “friendly feellingz” towards her- there are advantages of why I should continue interacting with her, it really benefits me since she can provide me some things no one in my life can at the moment.

But I still run into problems. With all of the initial distrust, with all of my cold hearted approach to every other female, with all the knowledge I know possess, my defence breaks down with her. I behave so pathetic when I am with her, I behave so f~~~ing feminine, that I am ashamed of it. I have to control myself in order to stay strong.

I have different theories of why it’s so – she seems to me as some kind of mythical projection of friendship, I put my defence down because I can’t believe that she would ever hurt me, or I just try to escape reality when I am with her. I don’t know.

The thong that surprises me most is that I have mgtow knowledge in mind all the time, but I still do all of the written above reflectively. I am glad that I do this with just one person in my life, that I don’t let anyone else affect me in the same way, but the problem is the problem.

The only solution I can see at the moment is controlling myself and not allowing myself to behave like a pussyfied idiot.

 

How would you deal with this situation? Or behave?

sorry for ranting, I am so confused.

[WrexgodParticipant 60]

Female manipulation is very powerful to the blue pulled. Especially if you’ve had her in your life for a long time. TBH if she hasn’t wronged you then you should still hang out with her, but don’t treat her or “serve” her like buying her s~~~, giving her rides etc.

However, distance yourself and see how she responds. When I distance myself from female friends they get very confused/ mad as if though I’m their property. Analyze her behavior with your newfound knowledge.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Think of her as a pet tiger. You can love her, be friends, romp and play.

Jump through rings of fire and even feed her by hand.

However …… ALWAYS have a whip and gun on you …. ALWAYS 😆

[RoyDalParticipant]

I like ILiveAgain’s analogy. Men are programmed to respond to women that way. It is a genetic trait that ensured the survival of our species. You can override it if and when you spot it happening inside yourself.

It so happens I do have friends and relatives who are female. When they whip a plate of emotion out, I don’t eat. No one is responsible, or to blame, for another’s emotions. Do not take another’s responsibility on yourself.

“You made me feel _____” is a statement that could not be more false.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Schaefe89Participant 163]

i don’t have feelings… I love my family and that’s literally all.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

I think it doesn’t matter how many women are like something.  What matters is that NONE of them are like that in your life.  Strengthen your own identity for your own sake, and do that.  If she drops off as a result, so be it.  If she is still around, so be it.  Just don’t allow the right way for you to be compromised.  Anyone with any respect will honor this.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

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