My wife doesn’t work, splurged $10,000 — and wants her name on my home

[I_Walk_AloneParticipant 580]

Do not marry. Do not cohabitate. Do not produce children.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

RealityBites wrote:

Lately she has been talking to me about wanting her name on the title in our cars and my house, which I paid for.

I have bad news for you buddy: You might as well go ahead and put her name there, it won’t make ANY difference in California family court.

Anonymous wrote:

As for a woman’s finances, always assume Dresden, Germany after the Allies firebombed it as an analogy.

LOL.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Darth TyrannusParticipant 349]

RealityBites wrote:

I have been married to my wife for three years. She is from Montreal and moved to California to be with me. I never asked her about her finances and would assume that she would have some savings since she worked as long as I did. I thought we would grow our income and savings together, but instead I’m stressed over money as she does not help me with any expenses.

I bought a house before I even met her. She lived in that house with me and does not help me with the mortgage or property tax. I pay for everything and she only pays her own expenses and there are occasions when she cannot pay her own expenses, and asks me for help. I willingly help. I asked her about the $10,000 I had given her over the past three months for her expenses, and she does not even know what she spent it on.

I feel that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to tell her in a nice way that she is not contributing financially to our marriage.
Michael in California
Lately she has been talking to me about wanting her name on the title in our cars and my house, which I paid for. I feel that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to tell her in a nice way that she is not contributing financially to our marriage. Since I married her, my savings have shrunk as I have to pull out emergency money to help her and do not get an honest answer from her about her spending.

I just don’t know how to say it in a constructive way so she can see that it’s unfair for me to work so hard to save and pay for everything while she does not help me.

Michael in California

from – http://www.market~~~ch.com/story/my-wife-doesnt-work-splurged-10000-and-wants-her-name-on-my-home-2016-08-17?reflink=MW_GoogleNews&google_editors_picks=true

Yes she’s using you for crying out loud…
also she’s a Canadian, meaning one of the WORST types of women anyone would ever willingly date.

So you need to c~~~ punt her out of your life and minimize damage because you’re even more f~~~ed if you don’t.

[CPilotParticipant 79]

I am that guy that went through to annihilation in California. Not a single word of advice here is wrong. I might add to go “no contact” as well…she doesn’t even like you. I had to.

I hate to see men going through this. You try and be nice about things. Don’t!! It never works and she hasn’t been nice to you in a while now. Time to plot and get mean. Unlove her, aka indifference. Get out now, brother!

A man that stops caring is a big deal.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

You would not even have posted this if for the fact you already see this train wreck coming down the rails at you.

Having the house before the marriage means squat. I had my house before my marriage and she still got half of the equity from the time of the marriage till its ending. I spent months finding every payment I ever made to keep what I payed into the home prior to the marriage and the down payment. I still owed her about 25% of it’s full value and she never made f~~~ing payment to it. She liquidated all her retirement prior to filing and there was nothing I could do so we split my retirement between us.
If only I had Sold those toys and the extra cars before the filing happened. It would have payed for my lawyer. I had a car free-n-clear I got to keep, but had to pay her half it’s value minus the loan. I wish I had put a loan on it before the filing.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 5]

CUCKED!

But seriously man, you are cucked.

1. Sell the house without her knowledge. Or don’t. Who cares at this point? You are going to lose everything anyway.

2. Just move back to Canada and let her rot. Seriously, just fly/transfer your job to Canada and leave her right now. Ignore her. Go ghost.

3. Let the bank take your house because she obviously wont pay the bills. Screw her over. Don’t sign anything over, ignore the banks/american courts. Make her life a huge pain in the ass. F~~~ her.

[Anonymous 11]

You’re in debt so your liabilities are also hers by virtue of marriage. An old friend of mine left his ex-bitch holding the bag on a POS trailer’s debt. He lived there for several years before foreclosure. She was really p~~~ed over it, but she had him so pussy whipped she deserved it. They hounded her for years and f~~~ed her credit too.

Another friend married a crazy redheaded c~~~ who opened a PO Box and joint credit cards w/o his knowledge. She stuck him with the credit card debt after the divorce.

FYI: You will wreck your credit rating if you choose this path.

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

RealityBites wrote:

I bought a house before I even met her. She lived in that house with me and does not help me with the mortgage or property tax. I pay for everything and she only pays her own expenses and there are occasions when she cannot pay her own expenses, and asks me for help. I willingly help. I asked her about the $10,000 I had given her over the past three months for her expenses, and she does not even know what she spent it on.

No just no don’t give women 10,000 f~~~ing dollars that is the 2d strike against you already marriage was the first and don’t give the c~~~ anymore money.

RealityBites wrote:

Lately she has been talking to me about wanting her name on the title in our cars and my house, which I paid for. I feel that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to tell her in a nice way that she is not contributing financially to our marriage. Since I married her, my savings have shrunk as I have to pull out emergency money to help her and do not get an honest answer from her about her spending.

Do not put her name on the deed whatever you do don’t out her name on the deed. And do not take out of your emergency fund to give her money you need that money in case of an emergency.

RealityBites wrote:

I just don’t know how to say it in a constructive way so she can see that it’s unfair for me to work so hard to save and pay for everything while she does not help me.

Tell her she is a ugly c~~~ who needs to get a f~~~ing job and don’t apologize for it if she leaves then good but you now are her slave horse man. So get out of the marriage while you still can before perma alimony and kids or you are f~~~ed.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[DarkRyuParticipant 2354]

RealityBites wrote:

I asked her about the $10,000 I had given her over the past three months for her expenses, and she does not even know what she spent it on.

I feel that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to tell her in a nice way that she is not contributing financially to our marriage.

Stop. Just stop. The bitch blows through $10,000 with absolutely NO debt or personal expenses in 3 months, and you’re worried about her feelings and being “nice?!?!” Women and money don’t mix. Women are TERRIBLE at earning money and managing money, but EXCELLENT at absolutely WASTING it! If you gave that bitch $1,000,000 she’d be broke by this time next year.

If some bitch did that to me, I’d absolutely f~~~ing explode on her. Make it clear under no uncertain terms that this is NOT acceptable!

You’re a f~~~ing tool being used by some ungrateful bitch. Add up how much she’s costing you per month, average it out for how many years you’ve been together, then add 1/2 of your assets that she’s going to steal in the divorce, and then divide it by how many times you’ve f~~~ed her. I guarantee you you’re paying 2x as much as a high class prostitute for each f~~~. That my friend is the definition of insanity.

Love, honor, respect, appreciation……these are things that women are incapable of feeling or even understanding. She gives you as little sex as possible and extracts as many resources from you as she possibly can. In the end, it’s a S~~~ deal for you. GET OUT.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

I found this blurb. In California, you might be able change property from community property to separate property via a post nup.

“California law gives married spouses very broad latitude in determining their respective ownership interests in property or in otherwise specifying their financial relationship. Postnuptial agreements can change the character of existing property from community to separate or from separate to community and can specify in advance the character of property the spouses are about to acquire. Such agreements can determine the community or separate character of earned income and can do the same for retirement assets. As with premarital agreements, in post-nuptial agreements parties can make these property and financial determinations regardless of what underlying California community property law would otherwise provide.”

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