My thoughts…

[CPilotParticipant 79]

Is my life an epic fail…

I often think about that. I can’t help it.

Life is full of good, bad, and ugly experiences.

I have seen far too many men get more than their share of the bad until they take control of their own lives. I am not writing this to whine and look for sympathy-f~~~ that-but to thank each and every one of you for being there and sharing your experiences.

It has helped me.

If I could help someone, I would.

Two marriages…much was taken from me…they even tried to take my soul. At other times, the memories of getting a toilet for a Christmas presant or the alcoholic/prescription drug nightly diatribe of s~~~ whips me back to reality.

Is that what is meant by failing upwards?

A father’s relationship with his daughter. Am I a failure because I did not fight for custody? She has a good life but we are not as close as I would like. I had to choose…spend all of my money fighting for custody and in all probability not winning and struggling to support her, or to let her go so she could prosper the best she could. I chose the latter. What does that make me?

My relationship with my folks is rocky and ugly at times. I have to live far away from them. It is hard to sit and take criticism with a smile.

At other times it is ok.

There have been a couple, no few, times in my life that if I had owned a gun, it would have been over. Well, I am glad I did not get one.

I have done many things I am not proud of, particularly in my younger years. Things I live and have to deal with. I have a lot to make up for with myself. Every day is a struggle to do something to look back and be proud of what I did that day. When I get to the end, I hope to make 50/50.

I turned a new chapter in my life when I retired from the military. That was a profoundly defining moment for me. It is getting better as time goes by. But, sometimes, those past thoughts come back to haunt me. Is this life worth it? Did I have to fail that hard and that long in order to succeed?

I am learning, it does get better, no matter how low it gets.

Thanks MGTOW for coming along when you did. I wish I would have known sooner.

A man that stops caring is a big deal.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

You need to figure out what was in your control, and what was not in your control. And work from there.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Let me expand on Faust for Science’s recommendation and recommend you go to this link:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/wellbeing/10146546/Anxious-Depressed-Try-Greek-philosophy.html
And scroll down to the topic heading:
Five coping techniques from Stoic philosophy and start reading there. The preamble is interesting but not necessary for the meat of it.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[AttonParticipant]

I wish I would have known sooner.

Thanks to youtube, reddit this site and the users here a lot of men are going to know sooner. But I think you did some good today because that post really made me think and frankly I should be doing more.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

due to the wisdom you have gained from the past, your future will be far better. It’s not your fault that family courts are heavily biased. thanks for your service in the military by the way.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

CPilot:

You said if you could help someone you would. With your post, you probably did. You may never know who, but I’m confident you helped someone just the same.

A life not examined is a life without much meaning. We all have regrets, some more than others. And you did what you thought was right by your daughter. It takes a MAN to understand that sometimes you need to sacrifice what is best for yourself for someone else. You did what was best for your daughter, not for you. Her mother, on the other hand, would have been fine with you spending every dime you had to fight for time with your daughter. She would have spent your daughter’s future to do what was best for MOM. What you did was noble or honorable.

Taking the high road is lonely because there is not much traffic. It doesn’t make it any easier or less lonely to do the right thing. The big hope is that one day your daughter will figure it out. I hope that one day I will have a similar conversation with my daughters and that they will understand that I sacrificed my happiness for theirs, while their mother sacrificed nothing. And if we never have that conversation, I’ll still know I did right by them, and that will have to be enough.

That is a strength of MEN that women will never figure out, because it means stepping out of their own head and looking at a situation from someone else’s perspective.

And women wonder where all the good men are………..

Order the good wine

[Wolf redpillmanSpectator 1658]

Well.i have a.lot to thanks to ex.married.guys.thanks to them i learn.about that evil system ,and thanks.to them.i became.a mgtow

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

It’s because of men like you that we have this knowledge in the first place.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

CPilot wrote:

Is my life an epic fail…

Only if YOU see it that way. Life starts over every day, minute, and second. The past is gone, the future is yours to make of it what you will. Judge your life by your own measure, and to hell with what others think. If you can look at what you are doing now and be pleased, why look back? The past no longer exists, and the future is unwritten. Now is all there is, and it’s the only moment worth worrying about. Make it something you can be proud of, and you can define that any way you want.
And yes, your experiences, and your willingness to share them, have a potential to help many others more than you may know.

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[mp357Participant 531]

Good post,but dude the whole gun thing? They are not just tools for murder and suicide.Go to a range or something and you will likely meet cool dudes who you may have much in common with kind of like this site. Nothing teaches you self control like a firearm.Well as long as your not crazy,or female.

[CPilotParticipant 79]

This is why I come here-freedom of sharing thoughts and practices, what works, what is truly bs, and much more than what is coming to the pea right now. A couple of you really hit home.

I am going to have to read more on Stoic philosophy now. Couldn’t have come at a better time. Social anxiety has long plagued me. As I have gotten older I have realized that talking in front of people is not as difficult as it used to be. But, it came about through forcing myself to do it. Now it is easier to give speeches and train in a classroom environment for me moreso than just having a face to face conversation. How strange is that?

MP357, I actually did go to a gun shop about a month ago. It has taken a long time, but I am ready to get one. Even though I grew up around them, I have no idea what I want. There is a show I am planning to attend in a couple of weeks. Maybe I will find my answer there.

A man that stops caring is a big deal.

[Anonymous 42]

CPilot wrote:

There have been a couple, no few, times in my life that if I had owned a gun, it would have been over. Well, I am glad I did not get one.

Hey C-Pilot, YOU’VE BEEN THROUGH THE GYNOBLENDER! This society is sicker than ever! What you’re dwelling on is society’s endless shifts that cut a man to ribbons!
We have the only way out!
And I do know the taste of gun oil, but thankfully not gun powder!

You need to reprogram your mind, stay in the day, don’t visit the bad memories, it’s the same as living it over and over! Today, tomorrow, and the next day is where your mind should be, there’s hope for you yet, this place is a treasure trove in mental reprogramming skills to better suite yourself in today’s narcissistic and destructive society.

Face it, women have become shackles and chains for the purpose of binding us to mental and spiritual ruination.

If I were given two choices and I had to pick one,

GUN?

MARRIAGE?

click, BANG!!!

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