My Story

[HReardenParticipant 86]

Hey guys – I was introduced to this website the other day by my brother who has sworn to be MGTOW. It was such a relief seeing how there is a community like this.

For more about myself, I am an entrepreneur in the agriculture industry (vertical farming/aquaponics). I started my own small business at the start of this year and poured all of my 401K and savings into it. I have taken a lot of hits, and unfortunately, the market doesn’t seem to be ready for this idea yet and I’m ending my lease at our greenhouse space.

Although losing my money was bad, and my mind, I also lost my girlfriend. We were together for about 2 years, and never really fought. In the last 2/3 months as my financial situation got worst, I felt like I had to depend on her more (which as a proud man, I couldn’t bring myself to do). We were in a car accident 5 weeks ago, and she hurt her wrist. She’s also a body builder and was obsessed in going to the gym. Two days after the car accident I told her not to go, I said it was a bad idea given that we had no idea if her wrist was really broken. I ended up leaving the apartment without her to go to the gym myself.

As I was working out, I saw her walk into the gym – she had completely disregarded my opinion and it was that morning and I realized she had lost complete respect for me (or otherwise valued me less). The look she gave me was a look of, I don’t really care what you say and I’m going to do it anyway. When we had first started dating I was making great money at another job, and I believe it was my loss of resources that made her lose that respect.

Any which way, I ended up breaking up with her 3 days after that. I still have no money and I’m still working on getting my project going, and it sucks. I believed we had a great relationship but I just don’t understand – are relationships never going to work out?

[AposematicParticipant 2671]

Exactly. As soon as resources dry up, so does her respect wither. Insolence. Masochism. Monkey branching Narc.
Welcome, Tower has a coldy for ya.

Afinogyny.. from the Greek Afino {to abandon/ to set down/ to leave /to allow/ to let } + Gyny {Women} MGHOW’s philosophy to not engage women without “hating them”. Narcorca =Narcissistic Orca typically spouting to a bathroom mirror taking an arms length selfie ; Wallinate describes post wall females whose SMV is terminally negligible New Years resolution "To not make women happy" . Instadestitue: yet another Neologism for Men that cohabit with women that decide to pull the handle of intervention orders.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Welcome, brother Jkeane!

You have only scratched the surface of the iceburg. As you know, the tip of the iceburg protrudes from the surface of the water, however 95% of the iceburn remains below the surface of the water.

MANY brothers on this site have been minced and have come out the orifice of the mincer to tell us their story. Words cannot describe the pain they have gone through.

One older brother on here, I believe may 7 2020, has only recently acquired his own place to live in freedom. He has spent A LOT OF MONEY in the corrupted divorce court system.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[AttonParticipant]

are relationships never going to work out?

For the most part.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Greg HondaParticipant 6406]

Welcome

HRearden wrote:

I realized she had lost complete respect for me (or otherwise valued me less).

She didn’t respect you. She respected your earning potential:

HRearden wrote:

When we had first started dating I was making great money

Your usefulness to her has diminished. Don’t feel bad. At least you got to see what your value to her was after a couple of years and not Ten.

She probably made you feel real special and that you were the Ideal guy for her. Turns out the only thing special about you was your money.

I predict when you split she will hook up with another sucessful guy in a couple of weeks and think no more of you. If you beleived her Love BS then this breakup will trouble you for much longer.

You will probably feel that you just lost out on something really special and f~~~ed up by losing her. Don’t waste your time. There was nothing special at all. Only in your mind resulting from the thoughts she planted there.

Best to see women as they see men. Interchangable rescouce providers. They want someone who can provide financial and emotional support when needed. We generally want physical and emotional support.

The rescouces of one side of this deal cost absolutely nothing. The rescorces of the other side cost a lifetime of work and mental stress.

You may re-build your financial security in a short time. When you do, you may find you desire another woman to make you feel good about yourself. In fact, the motivation for re-building your wealth will probably be to make yourself an attractive prospect for the next woman. If so you’re setting yourself up to be exploited yet again.

I don’t hate women. I just beleive I understand them better now. My take on the subject is EWALT.

Re-build, Re-think what matters to you and where you actually want to go in life. If this involves women, then fine, have fun, But….

Don’t committ. Just use them as they use you.

Good Luck

It's Time to get Wise

[BigvernParticipant 1983]

HRearden wrote:

I believed we had a great relationship but I just don’t understand – are relationships never going to work out?

This is the eternal question,……most of us older guys here have been burned by wimmin/society, and so we don’t ask ‘that’ question anymore.
We already know the answer.

Big backslap for your brother, for bringing you here, you are home now, welcome brother.

"What made you think, there'd be a livin' in sheep?, Eat, Work, Eat Work and Sleep" - Mark Knopfler.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

HRearden wrote:

I believed we had a great relationship but I just don’t understand – are relationships never going to work out?

Read this:

Comments from Married Men

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[bladeParticipant]

HRearden wrote:

Two days after the car accident I told her not to go, I said it was a bad idea given that we had no idea if her wrist was really broken

Telling a woman what to do is like telling a kid not to touch the lolly jar .

HRearden wrote:

she had completely disregarded my opinion and it was that morning and I realized she had lost complete respect for me

That sounds full on

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[ghostParticipant]

Welcome home, mate.

It NEVER works out. Ever. Get it out of your head NOW!

Go your OWN way and NEVER look back.

They are pure f~~~ing EVIL. She never gave a f~~~ about you. It was ALWAYS about what you could do for HER.

And whatever you decide to do, PLEASE don’t ever contact her or pick up her call. CUT HER OFF.

DO NOT CONTACT! You got off easy. You didn’t end up in JAIL.

Stay away from these C~~~S.

[GregB0Participant]

Welcome and hopefully MGTOW will continue to assist you on your journey.

Men as a resource are often discarded, but never as fast as when the resources they work for are gone.

No money, no high profile job or lifestyle, no fancy transportation, no frequent vacations equals no woman.

Enjoy your freedom and recover.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[MuglintarParticipant 1333]

Welcome Bro’.
When she is going to the gym in spite of having a sprained or even broken wrist. That’s just none of your business. You don’t give women advice, their well-being is their responsibility. Your well-being is your responsibility. A MGTOW doesn’t dominate or rule over women. Actually such behavior is considered “white-knighting”. She wants to mess with her health? Just let her do it. She will blame you for it, if something should go wrong or even feel as if isn’t to her liking anyways.
Take the red-pill: she is always going to blame you. Women are unable to take responsibility for their own decisions. MGTOW know this and refuse to blame themselves for the stupidity of women.

As little as I know about your business, but I do know “urban gardening” is quite trending. So there is a good chance, your business will increase after the current throw-back. Just remember how fast she ran into another man’s bed, once she returns for “starting over/second chance ” Or whatever crap she is going to tell.

Run some “Sandman”, “MGTOW is freedom”, “MGTOW 101” videos. Add some “Joseph Smith” or “Turd Flinging Monkey”. Read in here. There is a lot to discover on your way. Enjoy the ride!

"Him, who delights in solitude, is either a wild beast or a GOD!" - Aristotle (Aristot. Pol. 1.1253a) 1 Hom. Il. 9.63; the passage goes on: ἐστὶν ἐκεῖνος ι ὃς πολέμου ἔραται.

[53ClicksUpParticipant 1345]

Welcome Friend! Sorry to hear that your business didn’t work out. That’s OK, remember that men built everything you see around you and not everything worked the first time it was attempted. Maybe the timing was bad and it might be successful sometime down the road.

I’m kind of following in your footsteps in a manner. I go to closing to purchase and old Civil War church that has a lot of history associated with it. My intention is to fix it up a little and use as a living history and Civil War themed wedding venue, take folks on guided battlefield tours, teach them how to shoot civil war era weapons etc.

I’m putting a good chunk of my retirement funds into this endeavor. It’s risky to be sure, especially given the current let’s erase American History climate. I fully expect to come under full-on frontal attack when the local liberals learn of what my intentions are. But you know something…. No F~~~s Given! I don’t give a s~~~ what the political elite think. This is going to be “my thing” not theirs.

As far as your girlfriend goes. F~~~ her! You will be much happier without her. I think back on how women have used me as a resource all these years and I’d be a very wealthy man if I had never gotten involved with any of them. They are all f~~~ing manipulative, using, c~~~s in my experience. I’m full on Monk and now I have my own church to prove it 🙂

[Anonymous 11]

Welcome man!

I had to start a business six years ago due to the employment prospects of 2008-2012. I was deemed redundant after a corporate buyout. That was my red pill rage event, by the way.

It took five years for my cash flow to become consistent enough to pay my bills solely on earnings. I burned through $100K+ on living incidentals during those years. It’s f~~~ing difficult as hell, and the market is the ultimate NFG machine so please don’t devalue yourself over it.

You can always make more money. As for girlfriends, any money spent on them is p~~~ed down the drain forever.

Let your red pill opportunity grow into a mighty Oak.

[UntamedParticipant]

HRearden wrote:

are relationships never going to work out?

How can relations~~~s work nowadays when the woeman becomes the man and the man becomes the child under a tyrannical woeman who wants to control everything but says she doesn’t want to your mother? How do you reconcile the obvious non-sense?

Too bad your business didn’t take off but if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. Yes… I’m sure I read that somewhere.
Also, do you really have to ask if her leaving you was directly tied to your losing money? It’s so obvious.
Take that hoe out of your mind, get over her and start taking care of YOUR SELF. You owe it to yourself to be c~~~-free.
Welcome to mgtow.com, brother. Glad your brother and you found us.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

Here, we recognize that men are more than your resources. More importantly, we want you to understand that. Women do not have the ability to see you beyond that, because that is how they are biologically wired. It does not make them evil, it is just who they are.

Welcome to the brotherhood of men.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings JK,

Thanks for signing up and making your first Introduction.

Your Red Pills are similar to what I experienced and your vertical farming/ aquaponics work is one of my interests.

The replies to your Red Pills are excellent.

I would add my observation of how cold blooded a woman can be. My womyn easily switched from me being her “Soul Mate” to no feelings for me at all and then walking away as if nothing happened.

When a man becomes a provider, some very ancient gears kick in and she is driven by primal forces which will NEVER benefit a man. And there is no going back.

A woman’s respect is impossible in today’s Gynocentric world.

Also, it takes too much effort to get a momentary window of consideration out of modern womyn. The exertions to make those fleeting moments become exhausting too soon.

Anyway, I got involved with hydroponics as a result of my cancer research and health concerns. The ones that grow sprouts are excellent.

Most indoor gardens must sell their stuff at Farmer’s Markets because the big chain stores will not support them.

Alas, some issues that I had with the Junior Colleges who teach this and the growers was that they were using toxic materials in their operations.
For example, they were using treated lumber that had cyanide and arsenic in it.
PVC was also used for fresh water distribution. The list goes on.

Nevertheless, vertical farming/ aquaponics is fascinating and the quality of food is excellent.

Getting that food to the people that need it is problematic.

Some of the small Local organic farms and indoor gardens have subscribers who pay for weekly delivers to co-ops and/ or individuals.

And the folks growing medical marijuana seem to be doing well.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[PrincekieParticipant 1042]

Welcome, my friend.
You seem to have seen the light, and you’ve done the right thing. So well done. When your business succeeds, and she comes back grovelling, you will have the satisfaction of telling her where to go.

Lets look at your business. I’ve met a lot of people who’ve started up in business over the years. I’ve even had a few mini businesses myself, although I’ve never cut the tie of “working for the man”.

Out of all the people I know who’ve started a business, the one common denominator is that it wasn’t easy. No plan ever went the way it was meant to. Running low or having no cash in the first year was standard. And if a business is going to go bust, it’s likely to happen in the first year.

You need to focus dude. You’ll have people telling you to quit, you’ll have the doom and gloom brigade predicting major bankruptcy. The truth is you need to focus, get yourself out there (and I don’t mean popping a website online and hoping people will find you) and get that business. Look at your potential customer base. Ask them questions. Sound them out for ideas.

An old British Army saying for you:

Proper
Planning
Prevents
P~~~
Poor
Performance

Or one of my favourites:

Take care of business.

There’s a whole world out there dying to give you money, my friend. Go out there and grab it! And experience the freedom of not having a disrespectful biatch holding you down!

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Welcome to the real world.

Read, learn, accept, rage, adopt a strategy, find peace.

That’s what we do here.

Welcome to MGTOW.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 3]

Thanks for intro. There were a lot of excellent replies.One of the things I do & say to people is ” Look around! Everything you see was built by men.” I am so glad I was born a man. And I am also glad MGTOW exists.A place where men share their experience about waking up to the realities of the s~~~storm gynocentric, feminized Blue Pill matrix we live in.
The relationship I have with myself works just fine
I don’t put myself down. I don’t form any energy draining attachments. Simply put, I come & go as I please.
MGTOW is the future & the future is now

[HReardenParticipant 86]

Wow – thank you all so much for your replies; I am so truly grateful to hear all of these thoughts and opinions. Today was a much better day – I was able to go for a long trail run and achieved a meditative state (which has been helping me get over negative thoughts of inadequacy).

It is unbelievable though, how we are all brought up to believe marriage and children are the only route or the only reward. My biggest trouble has been the isolation and loneliness, but I believe I am slowly getting past it.

An Alan Watts’ video made me realize though that relationships, like successes and failures, are only temporary things and compose of change. I am glad to have found this membership, and I thank each of you for taking the time to write these encouraging messages.

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