My story

[Eccentric1Participant 17]

I didn’t know MGTOW was a thing until relatively recently. But almost two years after my ex-wife left me, with a few attempts at dating since then, I feel that I probably don’t want to get into a relationship again. Ever. My experience with marriage as well as past girlfriends, and even my most recent minor attempts at dating lead me to believe that either I am not cut out for a relationship or all American women are crazy. So here is my story. Maybe some of you can relate.

First, it is important to note that my ex-wife is very impulsive, insecure, labile, and paranoid, and needs to take two strong meds to manage her depression. Secondly, and less importantly, she is emotionally extremely needy, like I find most American/Western women are (in fact, the relationship with the girlfriend before my ex-wife ended because I didn’t kiss her ass/compliment her enough). Anyways, the relationship with my ex was generally going well, with the occasional fight, until our daughter was born. I love my daughter dearly, but the health of the relationship already deteriorated slightly when she came into the picture. This is completely normal, as the mother’s main focus shifts from her man to her child.

Before my daughter was even one, my ex determined that we needed to move into a house, in a neighboring affluent, expensive suburb, because the school system was supposed to be very good. At the time, we were living in a nice three story townhouse, owned by me, with the mortgage completely payed off. Ultimately, she convinced me to sell my condo to put towards an expensive, overpriced house in the overpriced suburb she wanted to move to. Once we moved into the house, we were living beyond our means, spending more than we were bringing in. To help us live closer to our means, I worked more hours, as I am eligible for overtime at my job, not to mention the extra hours are needed for the work to get done. Thus, most of the house/child duties fell on her, as she works bankers’ hours. Also, as we were sinking financially, I became increasingly negative about my life and my job. She began to resent me for these things, taking the latter personally.

One week while she was visiting family in NJ without me, she failed to take her meds a few nights in a row, being up late drinking wine with her family every night. This triggered a negative, emotional episode, where she apparently had some sort of revelation that the things I mentioned in the last paragraph were too much for her to take. She called me while still in NJ to tell me, and when she came back, pretty much immediately decided on a divorce. I suggested marriage counseling, but it was too late she said. As soon as we separated, she left me for a friend of hers who was a single father and was “there for his daughter 200%,” “didn’t care about money” and didn’t work too much. She became pregnant with his child before our divorce was even finalized. In the divorce proceedings, she came away with custody of the child, and got $30,000 of my money from the sale of the house. Initially, she had asked for $75,000, but my lawyer was luckily able to get the amount down to $30,000.

I have been single for almost two years now and officially divorced almost one-and-a-half. I have dated around. Nothing has materialized. But I could have gotten serious with two women. However, I saw the neediness of my ex in one and the bitchiness and entitlement of the girlfriend before my ex-wife in the other. I think I have decided to avoid relationships altogether for the rest of my life. I think either I am incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship, or the most American women suck. I think I am going MGTOW, and focusing on my own self-improvement, my hobbies, and my career. However, to find a sense of fulfillment and contentment in life without a woman, I will need to improve other areas of my life: advance my career further than my current job I’ve been stuck in for 11 years, make progress in my personal hobbies, etc. It seems easier than the alternative. I think I can find a fulfilling life without a partner.

[MACHOParticipant]

Welcome Eccentric1

Eccentric1 wrote:

I think either I am incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship, or the most American women suck. I think I am going MGTOW, and focusing on my own self-improvement, my hobbies, and my career

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Welcome home brother!

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[bladeParticipant]

Welcome bro . Freedom is what you have found .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 42]

Eccentric1 wrote:

I am not cut out for a relationship or all American women are crazy

Cut out? Don’t you mean sliced up, diced up, shoved in a Mason jar and boiled?

Eccentric1 wrote:

Ultimately, she convinced me to sell my condo to put towards an expensive, overpriced house in the overpriced suburb she wanted to move to.

Never follow the advice of a woman, follow your instincts. Women no longer follow a man’s logical intuitive nature, they believe things will magically work out. They doom their own future from mistakes they made years before, zero foresight, bad instincts, bad directives. GIVE THEM NO SAY IN YOUR INSTINCTIVE PRIME DIRECTIVES, their logic is faulty and misleading, only losses will concur with ample amount of misery.

Eccentric1 wrote:

She became pregnant with his child before our divorce was even finalized.

Bro, I’m serious, I’ve seen allot crazy s~~~, she’s unbolted in the head and nothing more than another c~~~ carousel monkey clown leaping to a new illusion. Count your blessings! You got rid of her! They learn at a young age that having no honor fills their immediate desires.

The guy that snagged her up? Cuck! Grabs another man’s wife because he’s been conditioned to accept rotten f~~~ing female behavior! She’s just a cum rag at this point slopping grease on the c~~~ carousel! EWWWWWWW!

Eccentric1 wrote:

I have been single for almost two years now and officially divorced almost one-and-a-half. I have dated around. Nothing has materialized.

There ya go! keep searching! keep smashing your head with the hammer! Enough hits and I’m sure your brains will cum leaking out!

Give the whole f~~~ing runaround with these grease covered carousel clowns a break! Come up for AIR! You’re like a rat addicted to crack that keeps going round and round hitting the dispenser lever!

Life without one ounce of the modern woman bulls~~~ is better than any patriarchy life of yesterday where women served their man because they took care of their slave!

Even on the best and brightest day of our history our best hope was to become a slave, feminism and the female nature it unlocked has freed us from all that!

We now live like kings in an impenetrable castle on a cliff face where none can enter and spoil.

My only question to you is this;

When will you have had enough? How much will it take to convince you to walk the f~~~ away from the entire enchantment illusion?

It’s a mirage, it’s not real, there’s a fine line between hope and poison, I chose to play it safe and go my own way!

Eccentric1 wrote:

I think I can find a fulfilling life without a partner.

“Think” you can?

When it comes to women what’s so fulfilling about a bunch of hammer holes in your skull?

[Anonymous 43]

Amigo, we all stumbled around with questions, like how did it all go to s~~~ so quickly, or What did I do to f~~~ it all up.

The answer is we introduced women into our lives, and things got out of hand.

I read your story line by line, checking off items, happened to you, yep, happened to me… happened to you, thank God it didn’t happen to me.

Ya had me here : First, it is important to note that my ex-wife is very impulsive, insecure, labile, and paranoid, and needs to take two strong meds to manage her depression. Secondly, and less importantly, she is emotionally extremely needy, like I find most American/Western women are (in fact, the relationship with the girlfriend before my ex-wife ended because I didn’t kiss her ass/compliment her enough)

exactly! omg fits my ex to a T. I thought It was me who f~~~ed up, and almost blew myself up because I couldn’t reconcile my life’s partner rejecting me with the outwardly perfect life we were building together.

Pregnant before divorce was finalized WTAF!!! too real my man, be happy that was not yours. wow

Dating…yeah, this is the hard part, and you figured this out on your own, AWALT all women are like that. All of them. All 3 1/2 Billion of them. No exceptions, only temporary deceptions.

This is a place for tortured men to rest and recover, have a seat and stay a while.

[Anonymous 43]

dang Tower, you are killing it tonight my man!

[Eccentric1Participant 17]

Thanks for the insights. Women suck the money and resources out of you. Then leave you, and verbally cut you down in the process. Leaving you feeling worthless and completely demoralized. I have since finally recovered and gotten some self-esteem back. It is not me who is crazy/defective. It is the women I have been with. And from what I can see, most women here in America are like that. I am done. I am not going to put myself though this again.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Eccentric1 wrote:

I think I can find a fulfilling life without a partner.

You will more likely have a fulfilling life without a partner.

Welcome…

[AutoliteParticipant]

Eccentric1 wrote:

Thanks for the insights. Women suck the money and resources out of you. Then leave you, and verbally cut you down in the process. Leaving you feeling worthless and completely demoralized. I have since finally recovered and gotten some self-esteem back. It is not me who is crazy/defective. It is the women I have been with. And from what I can see, most women here in America are like that. I am done. I am not going to put myself though this again.

I see relations~~~s (especially marriages) as living 24/7 with a straight razor held against your throat. One quick flick of her wrist and it’s all over. Living like that is not for everyone…

[AttonParticipant]

I think either I am incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship, or the most American women suck.

Around 70% of the time women are the ones initiating divorce. So the odds are that it is not really your fault.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[joetechParticipant]

Atton wrote:

Around 70% of the time women are the ones initiating divorce. So the odds are that it is not really your fault.

I read somewhere that in some states the number is more like 90%. In my case, it was 100% of the time…two out of two of my exes filed for divorce. Welcome Eccentric1, you are in good company here. You’ll find that in life the love of a good woman is a myth…now, the love of a bad woman? That’s about $100 a pop.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Anonymous 6]

Greetings and welcome. You’ve been through some difficult times, but you’re in the right place now. I hope to see you post more in the future.

[Y_Participant 4591]

Welcome. You will realise that you have been conned by the state your entire life to make you a tool – nothing more.

Females are unnecessary for a man. That is the truth no one outside of MGTOW will tell you.

Take charge. Your life is your own. Live it as you please.

Peace.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Welcome good sir! Thank you for introducing yourself.

Eccentric1 wrote:

I think I am incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship

I thought that too. Blamed myself for it “not working” multiple times. SERIOUSLY. Blamed myself for everything. Started telling myself “I should have done this better…… I should have listened more…. I should have done that….. “ but underneath, I thought I handled it pretty well. I put my foot down when I knew it was right. I drew limits and I was no weak wimp , or washcloth. But I still thought “maybe it’s me”.

So then I made up my mind to stick it out and approach it “for better or for worse”, and I decided I would put up with things I wouldn’t normally put up with – JUST to make it work, or at least, not fail.

BIG mistake.

HUGE.

With my experience and observations, I have concluded modern women have TOTALLY LOST the ability to bond with men in a meaningful way.

It’s not you. So unload that baggage and drop it at the door.
Doesn’t that feel great?

For better or for worse? F~~~ “worse”.
For better or even even better…. or GET OUT.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 1]

Eccentric1 wrote:

I think I can find a fulfilling life without a partner.

Welcome, you do not think that you can, you just CAN, you have to realize that you want a good life MORE than a relationship with a modern woman, who points a gun at your head, and depending on how she “feels” she will pull the trigger.

[Eccentric1Participant 17]

It is validating to know that others have been though similar ordeals and were beyond a shadow of a doubt not the problem in the relationship. I can believe that I wasn’t the problem in my marriage with far greater certainty. I have been through hell, and I cannot go through it again. I have told acquaintances that I am done with relationships. The told me to just look for a foreign woman or non-Western woman. But I am skeptical about that. I am beginning to believe it is the way women are wired. One could well face the same problems with a foreign non-Western woman. Though at this point I do believe American women are the worst, with their neediness and sense of entitlement.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Eccentric1 wrote:

or all American women are crazy

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
This is the correct conclusion, but it’s partial at best. All women, period. Are crazy. There. Fixed that.

Welcome, Eccentric1. SMW.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

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