Hey guys first post here, I just wanted to share my story, it’s a long post in how I managed to get away from a parasite of a woman, it’s something I’ve been wanting to get off my chest for a while and I’d like to share it here.
Some twelve years ago (I was 19) I made a lady friend in an online game, we got to talking for a while and got close, eventually we started a long distance relationship, probably my first mistake, but I was a basement dwelling gamer nerd with no prospects, not a lot of self confidence, and desperate. Eventually I made the decision to pack up all my s~~~ and move across the country to be with her, again probably not the best decision but I hated where I was living and moving away was something I’ve always wanted to do, I just needed an excuse.
After a hellish day flying over there (maybe my first hint of making a mistake?) we moved in and at first it was tough. I didn’t really know how to handle the cohabitation thing having always been a loner and maybe I wasn’t the best either (I don’t claim to be totally without flaw here) and so her and I worked s~~~ty jobs and managed to get by.
A few years passed and she lost her job, leaving me barely able to support both of us, it put me thousands of dollars in debt and destroyed my credit. But I never gave up, I got out of that s~~~ty job, worked my ass off 50-60 hours a week and dammit I was making it work. My useless woman on the other hand? She lazed about all day, didn’t find a job and never found a job at all in the last three years we were together. But somehow through my hard work and determination alone I managed to support us and even was able to get a new car that nearly got repossessed on two separate occasions because I was paying all the bills.
All the while she ignored me, rejected me, and basically ignored me even after I got really sick and had to go in for throat surgery to see if I had cancer. Luckily I don’t, I ended up with another permanent illness that is far and away less severe, but I digress. I swear getting her to take me was like pulling teeth and when the Dr. asked her if she wanted to give me a kiss for luck when they were going to cut me open, she didn’t even want to. Then finally out of nowhere she tells me that she’s moving to LA with her sister and her sister’s husband AND she was going to take MY car that *I* paid for with her.
By that point I’d had quite enough of her, I basically drew the line and told her that there was no chance in hell she was taking MY car and if it happened, I’d straight up call the police because you know… grand theft auto? She didn’t like that and continued treating me like garbage (but never hesitating to beg me for my money) while we still lived together. But during those last few months things got much better, I got a better job plus a promotion, I’m making more money now than I was at only a 40 hour work week (as opposed to 50-60 hours) and with the help of a buddy was able to get an apartment of my own and have since been living independently.
I’ve been doing my best to rebuild my credit, get myself out of debt, and taking care of my business and while it’s been one hell of a struggle, I’ve been scraping by little by little. So fast forward to right now and I’m still struggling but not to the point where I need to worry about being homeless, and I decided to try dating again and let me tell it’s been hell. I’ve been wondering what was wrong with me and why I kept getting rejected and ignored by the woman I was messaging. But then I felt like something clicked in my brain, I suddenly started wondering why the f~~~ I was caring so much about what other people thought of me. So I decided, f~~~ the relationship game, it’s just not worth it to me anymore.
I got caught in the trap of taking rejection way too personally when really I shouldn’t have been caring at all in the first place! Then that just sort of me lead me here to this website and I decided to make this post once my forum permissions had been granted. I’m not really looking for words of encouragement or support, this is really just something for me, a place where I can just get this off my chest to those that could have some understanding of what I had to go through.
Khalith 2 years, 11 months ago.
