My need for female attention and approval is fading away!

[Hombre LibreParticipant 261]

This 70 year old dog (me) is finally learning & feeling something new to me: I no longer care or even think about a woman’s reaction to anything I do or say. I have not been married for the last six years, and have really become more MGTOW, this past year.
Esther Vilar writes about this in her book. This need first evolves when wanting to get one’s mother’s attention and approval.
Many of the brothers HERE, have also expressed this.
It is just like seeing or hearing something with greater clarity now!
This is so damn liberating!

HOMBRE

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Being needy is a horrible chain. Even when you know you’re being needy, it’s not so easy to ignore.
I too am feeling more MGTOW largely due to this site.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 54]

Hombre Libre!!! Congratulations! Yes true freedom is ,no longer careing what women think of you. I remember the moment I got there myself. Glad your here Sir!

[RoyDalParticipant]

Heed Esther Vilar — good plan!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[HermitParticipant 136]

I never cared for female validation. There are times when I had blue pill thoughts desiring women, but that was short-lived. I naturally lean towards the stoic mindset by default which has helped me a lot throughout life.

Craving female validation is always going to lead you down a dangerous road.

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

Any addiction comes with withdrawl. All withdrawl will fade if you give it enough time. Stay the course man. You’ll shake it off.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

Congrats!!

Freedom now comes.

Regardless of what women think, we dont have to put up with them.

We can walk away.

I did.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[Anonymous 42]

13 to 70 years old men will be boys and boys will be men, no difference, we’re as unique as the stars yet MGTOW rings true to all ages, races, and cultures. The truth has a way of doing that…

[Anonymous 18]

A woman’s words – from criticism to appraisal to silence – are all to benefit her. Her finances, her emotions, her ego.

You are now living for yourself.

Unplugged and rebooted.

[Anonymous 3]

Hombre Libre wrote:

This 70 year old dog (me) is finally learning & feeling something new to me: I no longer care or even think about a woman’s reaction to anything I do or say. I have not been married for the last six years, and have really become more MGTOW, this past year.
Esther Vilar writes about this in her book. This need first evolves when wanting to get one’s mother’s attention and approval.
Many of the brothers HERE, have also expressed this.
It is just like seeing or hearing something with greater clarity now!
This is so damn liberating!

HOMBRE

Congratulations – a new life starts for you now.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

Yeah I got a chick who flirts with me, everyday at work. It’s all fake.

The reason why you don’t need female validation, because it’s all fake, bulls~~~ and lies.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

its better late than never!

Hombre Libre wrote:

This 70 year old dog (me) is finally learning & feeling something new to me: I no longer care or even think about a woman’s reaction to anything I do or say.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[HitmanParticipant]

70 can be the new 50 my friend !
embrace the awesome feeling of FREEDOM.
eat right and live well,
you have a LONG road in front of you to ENJOY !!!

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

Female attention and approval are actually annoying. I’d rather they dislike me and stay away. I’ve also lost attraction to like 99% of chicks .. Their nature made them less hot in my eyes.

[FaxmodemParticipant 1415]

bigboy83 wrote:

Yeah I got a chick who flirts with me,

Same here I live in a small town, moved here for my job. I get a lot of women flirting at me all the time, I can tell there desperate. I just ignore it and act like I don’t notice it.

I love my Freedom,

Us men didn't start the battle of the sexes, but we're clearly going to win it via the simple tactic of just leaving the battlefield in contempt."

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

After 21 years ,the addiction of the blue pill is still strong .Validation/approval withdrawals….feel ashamed to say it but its the truth at the moment
I am constantly on edge to try to stop myself thinking about my ex with her new f~~~boy. Its a struggle on a daily basis.

I do know there are longer periods of time where I dont think about it..I am between jobs at the moment .need to get work to keep me busy and get the money coming in.

Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.

[AmongstMenParticipant 129]

I’ve swallowed the redpill about 9-10 months ago and I’m just getting these same effects as you are. Post withdrawal. It’s freaking neat. You’ve basically retrained your psyche to be self-motivated and self-content. You go from seeing every female that comes across you as a potential “soulmate” (white knight) to not even considering the possibility of such a thing even crossing your mind (mega redpill).

I still get withdrawals here and there but it’s far fewer and in between. It’s going to be sweet to approach the world with this new paradigm, brothers! Keep it going.

[Anonymous 18]

Dirtydog73 wrote:

Validation/approval withdrawals….feel ashamed to say it but its the truth at the moment
I am constantly on edge to try to stop myself thinking about my ex with her new f~~~boy. Its a struggle on a daily basis.

It gets better. You don’t have to swear off women. Be the guy that can have casual sex without emotionally be willing to be her doormat.

Women enjoy sex more than men. They use it however to guilt-trip and use men- because we are otherwise open and transparent.

Close down emotionally. Share them with your friends or brothers here.

Never confide in a woman.

Enjoy her company when you desire. Choose solitude when you desire. Life can be an oasis. Find meaning in whatever you fancy and never let other’s shaming get the best of you.

[Hombre LibreParticipant 261]

Gentlemen:

Thank you so very much for your insights and expanded discussion on this topic that I posted just 24 hours ago.
What a TEAM of both independent and diverse freethinkers we are.
NFG = our liberated MINDS!!

HOMBRE

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Hombre Libre wrote:

This is so damn liberating!

A soon as I saw the title, that’s exactly what I thought. We have been socialized since the crib to think female approval matters , but female approval is just as worthless as their disapproval. I’m not even saying that to be funny.

It just doesn’t matter if a woman likes (or doesn’t like) something.
As soon as you figure that out, it’s like wearing a Superman outfit.

THE PROBLEM with it all, is the way women behave like we should care – either way. They will actually have the nerve to tell you what they like (or don’t like) as if you should give a f~~~ at all. What kind of arrogance is required for that? How off-the-chart full of herself does a woman have to be to say something like:

“I like you better without facial hair”.

Do you know how many times I heard that in my life? Like every time I shaved after letting it grow a bit. Damn near every woman will say something about it. Even the coffee shop girl. Coworkers. Relatives. In laws. So I now I just have a stock response for it……

“You know, I like you better without facial hair, too.”.

They never mention it again.

Women actually think we “grow” a beard, and I have to correct them on that too.

“Men do not GROW a beard. When we have a beard, we just didn’t chop it off.”.

It never ceases to amaze me how women walk around starting conversations by telling you what they like or don’t like, like you’re supposed to care. The problem is less about whether you care (or not) than it is about them behaving like we SHOULD care.

Big congratulations on not caring, but that’s not even half the battle. It’s still a constant (daily) struggle to get them to stop behaving like their approval or disapproval matters in the first place. Whoever planted that into their heads needs an earful from a man. Pronto.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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