My mind is making me miss her

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

WTF!

I have been angry, sad, lonely, happy and every other feeling there is.
Lately i have started to miss this bitch again, i hate it. I cant live with her, she is bad for me but somehow shes back in my head!! Driving me crazy.
Its been months and im stuck in bad patterns again.

Havent checked her out on social media on anything! This s~~~ is f~~~ing with me.

How long does it take to get rid of this s~~~!

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[bachelor4goodParticipant 170]

It`ll take as long as you aren´t willing to release your thoughts and start focusing on your life. Your living in a dreamworld of emotions that keep your sight in the past. Try to ease your mind, distract it if you can. Do heavy lifts, go running until you´re close to collapse … do something physical, by all means!

Going BEASTMODE shuts down the hamster in your head and leads you to Awareness of the presence! Control your thoughts-controll your life

IDGAF

[22DeeboiParticipant 259]

I used to go through the same thing brother. It takes patience. I’m young too, 22 to be exact. I was in a poisonous relations~~~ for 5 years! I would think I need her, feel depressed because I supposedly missed all the good feelings and my judgement was clouded. Clouded with bulls~~~ emotions. Feeling I needed her to be happy. Then I had an epiphany. I wasted so much money on her, I was more sad and depressed when I was with her, I became a bitch with her, I started to gain a lot of weight, started to lose my confidence, was getting complacent, was basically her emotional punching bag. But no more. I make myself happy. I am the keeper of my body. I am free, I am at peace and I wouldn’t trade this for anything

[Anonymous 18]

No easy way.

You need to ride out this storm in your mind.

A lot of good will come of this s~~~ty pattern and the mental anguish overall.

Like all good s~~~ this takes patience and suffering. At least you don’t need to suffer in silence.

We are all here to help out brother anyway we can.

First step is to not contact her. It’s over. If she contacts you resist the urge to text back.

Don’t put a time frame on it. You are over her when you are over her. Take the crappy feelings one at a time.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

If a really hot girl would give you the best sex you ever had, then drug you, steal all your money, give you all kinds of diseases and invite a few of her gay friends to butt rape you, would you miss her? I guess not. You would like to experience the sex again, but you wouldn’t because of the risk.
Think of this when you miss her, because if you get back together she will drug your brain with dopamine, take your money, give you depression and heart disease and eventually will invite a few of her government friends to divorce f~~~ you for the rest of your life.

Hope this helps.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[22DeeboiParticipant 259]

@JohnWoods13 that was a vivid pic man haha

[KeymasterKeymaster]

It’s a good bet you’re not busy enough. Get busy to the point where even thinking about her is distraction and a nuisance. Don’t know if you’re implementing “no contact”, but I was there until the day I decided “no contact”. NO…. contact. It stopped instantly in that moment. “don’t contact me again under any circumstances”. Was FANTASTIC. Even when she persisted, I didn’t care. Magic.

Women like to play a trick of carving other people out of your / his social circle to make you THINK (and feel) like she’s “all you have”…. and “the best thing that ever happened to you”. It’s done by eliminating single buddies and friends. It’s not actually because she’s “the best thing that ever happened to you”….. or because she’s “the best you’ll do”….. she only gets to that position because there is little else left. Dangerous repeat pattern. Don’t fall for it.

Don’t let her live in your head rent-free.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

Give it more time.The man’s mind is made to make him constantly think about the last partner he’s been with, in order to force him to revert back/seek another and reproduce.What’s happening to you now is absolutely normal.
What does your rational mind say to you?
Or let me put it this way, what do you think?(not feel)

You don’t miss her.You’ve said it yourself:

LonerBoner wrote:

i hate it. I cant live with her, she is bad for me

This is just your body’s reaction, chemicals to whip you back into trying to get offspring.
It’s strong and wild animals have no way but to obey it.

But we aren’t wild animals.

The thoughts of her will get fewer and fewer as time passes, and at some point stop completely.As long as you don’t get blasted 24/7 with mainstream media about “finding true love” and all of that s~~~ you’ll slowly get better and at some point you’ll discover true peace of mind,

and that’s when things get very ,very interesting.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

Get busy to the point where even thinking about her is distraction and a nuisance.

Focus on something — that’s the best cure I know. If you are chopping food with a sharp knife, are you thinking of anything else? Of course not, not if you want to keep from cutting yourself. Everything else is completely out of your mind while it is focused on a demanding task.

Franky wrote:

This is just your body’s reaction, chemicals to whip you back into trying to get offspring.
It’s strong and wild animals have no way but to obey it.

Yes. That emotional roller coaster is nothing but your body’s reaction. Your glandular system is doing it for you. It’s this five stages of grief: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model Scroll down, there’s one about losing a romantic partner.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[WallyParticipant]

Find what you love doing, focus on it, and do it as much as you can. You only have this one life brother. Don’t waste it on this woman who poisoned your mind.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[HitmanParticipant]

best way to forget about the last one , is to get a new one under you ! ..

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Thanks guys, needed some replys.

Good points from all of you, stuff i know but somehow need to read again to remind me.
Hitting the gym and then later the skatepark with a friend. Then ill make a great dinner for my kids.

I have implemented the no contact, i dont check out her facebook etc. But somehow my mind is is still wandering back to her. Need more time i guess.
When it gets bad ill post here as usual!

Have a good one.

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[Darth SinParticipant 576]

Go and jerk off to porn and your fantasies. Then follow that up by f~~~ing a slutty hooker or by having a ONS / Pump and Dump with a regular wench. Drain the Dragon of its seed and move forward.

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

I was dating a girl last year. Let’s call her Susan. We knew each other in high school…rolled with the same circle of people. 25 years later we crossed paths again. She married one of our crew and divorced him 7 years ago. He was ok with us seeing each other because he was the one who messed up and cheated on her.

She would ask about my relationship with my ex-wife. I never brought her up unless asked and in hindsight, I should have told Susan that I don’t want to talk about it. My bad. We all have those moments where we should shut someone down because they really don’t want to know the truth. I didn’t paint my ex in a favorable light when in Susan’s company. This made her uncomfortable that a guy would feel this way about another woman who f~~~ed me over. Hive-mind. Susan would squawk that I should have a positive attitude.

“I’m so sick of you talking about her!”
“Why can’t you just move on?”
“I can’t have negative people in my life.”

Susan is a very confused little girl.

A poster on another forum said something to the effect of “I hold on to my cynicism because it keeps me vigilant to the bulls~~~ out there.”

Now I’m always on my guard but I don’t let it hinder my happiness. Truth be told that I don’t think much of my ex-wife these days. I look at my teenage son and I don’t see her anymore. She was a very toxic person and she revealed her true colors 4 years ago when she walked out on us for the fleeting pleasures of Second Life. That environment gave her the idea to start a real-life affair. Not with someone from that dumb game but someone local. Yes it happens, just like in those documentaries like Life 2.0.

My ex played the victim just like Aime Goode did in the link above. It’s sickening to see how far women will go not only to pull this crap, but also to release themselves from any agency.

A few weeks after the ex left us in September 2011, she couldn’t leave well enough alone. She called to accuse me of trying to sabotage her storage unit. She told me that someone called there saying he was her husband and there would be hell to pay if it was me. It wasn’t me. I went to the storage facility and asked the attendant if there was any funny business going on with her unit. He told me they received no such call. Hmmm.

A few months later during Christmas time, she called me to demand that I drop by her work and pick up gifts she bought for the boy. I told her it wasn’t my responsibility and she knows where we live. Drop off the gifts yourself! On the porch, you’re not welcome inside. All she could say was “That’s f~~~ed up.” Oh it isn’t f~~~ed up that you lost your mind on that stupid game, cheated on me in real time, pulled all this nonsense and expect me to be grateful to pick up gifts for a son you walked out on? Are you out of your goddamn mind woman?

She lived in the Red Roof Inn for 9 months. I didn’t hear from her all that often until I got a text from her the following June…

“I want to let you know I’m going to a shelter so you can enjoy my misery.”

I had it at that point. This is her hypergamy biting her in the arse. I blocked every kind of contact she could make with me. It was clear she wanted to engage to get any kind of reaction to use against me. Now she gets no reaction because I haven’t heard a peep out of her since. That’s when I swore to myself that I would never again let another woman call the shots in my life. They really don’t get it. Susan doesn’t get it. My ex doesn’t get it. None of them do. I don’t see Susan anymore. I’m spinning other plates. When I get the slightest red flag I let that plate drop and kick the pieces into the dustpan.

It’s human for a woman to get into your head. Happens to the best of us. All we can do is use the knowledge we have now of women’s true nature to sniff out their BS and walk away.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

22Deeboi wrote:

I used to go through the same thing brother. It takes patience. I’m young too, 22 to be exact. I was in a poisonous relations~~~ for 5 years! I would think I need her, feel depressed because I supposedly missed all the good feelings and my judgement was clouded. Clouded with bulls~~~ emotions. Feeling I needed her to be happy. Then I had an epiphany. I wasted so much money on her, I was more sad and depressed when I was with her, I became a bitch with her, I started to gain a lot of weight, started to lose my confidence, was getting complacent, was basically her emotional punching bag. But no more. I make myself happy. I am the keeper of my body. I am free, I am at peace and I wouldn’t trade this for anything

Times have really changed. I am amazed to see men in their early 20’s figuring out what a lot of men my age (mid-40’s) will never understand. This younger generation, these “kids”- they are mad, bad and dangerous and I like them !

Remember- you left her for a reason !

Frank V.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Keymaster wrote:

It’s a good bet you’re not busy enough. Get busy to the point where even thinking about her is distraction and a nuisance. Don’t know if you’re implementing “no contact”, but I was there until the day I decided “no contact”. NO…. contact. It stopped instantly in that moment. “don’t contact me again under any circumstances”. Was FANTASTIC. Even when she persisted, I didn’t care. Magic.
Women like to play a trick of carving other people out of your / his social circle to make you THINK (and feel) like she’s “all you have”…. and “the best thing that ever happened to you”. It’s done by eliminating single buddies and friends. It’s not actually because she’s “the best thing that ever happened to you”….. or because she’s “the best you’ll do”….. she only gets to that position because there is little else left. Dangerous repeat pattern. Don’t fall for it.
Don’t let her live in your head rent-free.

Keymaster shows off his usual mix of wisdom and practicality again. No Contact is a key to cutting out the lies, manipulation and bulls~~~.

If you wanted to hear it all, you could have stayed with her. Remember- you dumped her for a reason.

Frank V.

[No CountryParticipant 759]

DONT YOU F~~~ING DO IT! Good thing you have support from us to keep you from doing something crazy. I know the feeling and I still get it from time to time… and hell we have been broken up for over year. The mind is a very dangerous thing. You hit the lottery and you won your freedom.

[Krab_AssParticipant 267]

LonerBoner wrote:

I have implemented the no contact, i dont check out her facebook etc.

I know it sounds weird but I have found that totally going ghost (NO social media) is probably the BEST thing that keeps me focused on my goals, and keeps my mind off my women issues.

I agree with others that have said ‘KEEP BUSY’. I know it is probably harder to do than just to say – I have been there too man. The emotion, body chemistry and ‘poison’ all run deep. With time, great effort on your part and staying the course, you will overcome and be better for it. Take that energy that you feel you need to give to her and focus on a goal: making money, your kids, your career, your hobby – whatever it is, you will do great things.

Good luck and always know we are here for you.

"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!"
~ Theodore Roosevelt

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