My life as an Aspie

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

Let me tell you guys something about life as a guy with autism. When you are in high school, the only deceit you will learn that you pick up on are who the back stabbers are. As soon as I hit 21-22, the word deceit wasn’t even part of my vocabulary so much that I was not prepared for what would happen against me me later on in my life. What a world of hurt it all was, and while I was probably working 8 hours a day at a job I had in the clothes hanger factory which is probably the best stress free job I ever had, I was thinking constantly in my factory shifts on what the heck was happening to me to make sense of it all which lead me to my psychosis episode which is something that some Asperger’s have because they think too much.

Overall though, since then, I came a long way in learning on how the world works, from the different toxic personality types that I know, to gaining the confidence to deal with many situations instead of always just going through the motions. I even developed a more polished sense of humor because I developed a better sense of timing of my jokes I say compared to before.

Aspergers also like sameness, but yet I moved to Ottawa two times and lived in bad living conditions just to achieve a goal. I still like sameness though and it even saved my a** a few times, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t take chances as long as they are calculative ones.

Overall, all I got to say is that for a guy that who did not even know that he has Aspergers almost all of his life and did not know why he was so different from everyone else, I really did not deserve to go through all the deceit that I went through later on in my life. Before age 22, I really knew jack sh*t how the world worked, now I have an introduction knowlege at least of many things, like from marketing to personal finance, to nutriton, to even social psychology. It is a real sick world out there, and even a goodie two shoes gentleman like me got sh*t on, so if you guys blame yourselves for having people sh*t on you because you are immoral, that karma in itself is bullsh*t. The whole reason people are bad to begin with is because they are getting a pay off, so if you are a bad person and you are having bad luck, you are just doing it wrong.

As for me, I am just going to perfect myself and try to strive to be the wise sage that I always wanted to be since I started to study stocism in 2009. I am not saying I am a good person, but I am just trying to have a life that is as tranquil as possible which is what stoicism promotes, and the way to do it is through good character. I hope I touched with some of you aspie guys, the world is getting too complicated, and if you do not learn your sh*t fast at a young age, you are going to fall through the cracks. That is the way that it all is.

You guys have no idea how much this site helped me. I am so blessed for such self enlightenment from everything that this site offers in terms of advice and opinion. I hope that I have not offended anyone with this post, but I want to live my life my way, but yet I encourage diversity so I hope you guys find your own paths to inner happiness as well. Peace.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[Maraudrz1Participant 2250]

great post. post anytime.

Women's brains and vagina have one thing in common. There is nothing in there until a man puts something in there.

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

Maraudrz1 wrote:

great post. post anytime.

You know, I do not mind making some personal posts like this once in a while, because in the end, we are all anonymous behind fake names anyways. As long as I can help some young and up coming Aspergers here or even anyone else in general, that is all that matters really.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[Anonymous 11]

Embrace your true self and learn to paper over any weaknesses. That is what I do.

I’ve worked in tech my entire life which seems to attract Aspies. I’ve a great nephew diagnosed with it. I’m the exact opposite of an Aspie and really don’t fit in though I’ve been very, very successful in my endeavors.

I thrive on novelty and am extroverted as can be. I am just a right brained analytic freak of nature. The unbounded intuition of my dominant right brain is held in check by my almost as dominant left hemisphere. I troubleshoot via intuition primarily. That freaks my left brain colleagues out. “How did you do that?”

I still have the flighty persona of a right brainer. Think artistic types who also make up the majority of my close friends.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6419]

Excellent post.

[Anonymous 3]

Enjoy The Decline wrote:

Before age 22, I really knew jack sh*t how the world worked, now I have an introduction knowlege at least of many things, like from marketing to personal finance, to nutriton, to even social psychology.

THIS! Think about this.
We had to learn how the world and people work, and now we know to a point that we can overcome our “difference”.
Yet people who are born knowing these things by instinct, actually know nothing. They just do what they are programmed without even understanding why.
So, we have a choice and free will.

[DarkThunder30Participant 201]

People suck in general Women especially are the worst sorry for what you had to go through. just be on your guard and do what you think is best.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

I’m not an aspie, but I’m also never been the social savvy douchebag I’ve always wanted to be. I look at other people sometimes and see how friendly they are with others, and in the past it made me feel bad about myself or jealous sometimes.

It’s normal to want everyone to like you. I set out to find ways to make others like me, I started reading How To Win Friends and Influence People.

I can’t follow everything, it’s hard to stay interested in people and it’s something I really need to PRIMARY FOCUS on (which right now is working out). But its still taught me some great habits to start and some old ones to get rid of.

But basically, I am who I am. I’m happy with my life. I’m not changing anything because sometimes you just can’t, or its not worth the trouble. There are just as many miserable rich players as there are miserable poor peasants. It’s all about having a positive outlook and looking on the bright side of things! 🙂

Brother, we need to stick together.

[AttonParticipant]

It’s good to see that this site has helped you in some small way.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

The_Young wrote:

I set out to find ways to make others like me, I started reading How To Win Friends and Influence People.

I got a word of advice for you about that book since I read it myself a few years ago. If you follow everything in that book, it is not very practical in terms of actually doing it with close friends. It does have a good job though in telling you what you need to do to have good business customer relationships, because being “polite” and “agreeable” and “non-controversial” is way more practical when you are a salesman dealing with business co-workers and customers than actual close friends, since being a salesperson is all about making a good first impression and keeping a certain professional but distant relationship with everyone.

Also, another word of advice, the ones that will screw with you when they see you being happy with your life are the same ones that probably do not have very happy lives themselves. Just try to not look too happy and over confidant, because any sort of success you seem to show in your part is going to make those unhappy people you are around feel like sh*t and they are going to bring you down for it and they are going to do whatever manipulation to do it, weather it’s making you feel sorry for them to get you to waste your energy on them or whatever. The ones that are happy with their lives have a higher chance of not actually caring or being envious of how happy you are in your life according to my experience.

I hope that I helped you a bit.

edit:At the time I was 22, I was probably the most helpful person you guys ever even of known. People back then just abused my helpfulness though as a way to get back at me for me showing how over confident and happy I was which was a mistake in my part. I did do a lot of wonderful things for some people at that time though, but it did not stop them from trying to bring me down since they were truly unhappy people.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[AnthonyParticipant 2281]

Anonymous wrote:

I thrive on novelty and am extroverted as can be. I am just a right brained analytic freak of nature.

I’m the exact opposite to the extreme. I generally hate being around people as it is. It completely drains me and I’d rather be in an environment where I’m in complete solitude most of the time. Or at the very least, only be with 5 or so people.

There’s also a strong chance I’m autistic. But, I most likely have high functioning autism because I had a big problem with my speech as a kid. Which I hear is the main difference between people with HFA and Aspergers.

My speech is great for the most part now a days. But, sometimes I still mumble and even have trouble talking correctly whenever I’m not consciously aware of it.

Once you have a Fleshlight real vaginas become worthless.

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

Anthony wrote:

Which I hear is the main difference between people with HFA and Aspergers.

I actually read about the difference between Aspergers and HFA and found out that there is not much a difference between those two at all. There are people who would even argue that they are both the same thing, because Aspergers represents the high end of the new autistic spectrum system that was implemented like almost recently.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

I got a word of advice for you about that book since I read it myself a few years ago. If you follow everything in that book, it is not very practical in terms of actually doing it with close friends. It does have a good job though in telling you what you need to do to have good business customer relationships, because being “polite” and “agreeable” and “non-controversial” is way more practical when you are a salesman dealing with business co-workers and customers than actual close friends, since being a salesperson is all about making a good first impression and keeping a certain professional but distant relationship with everyone.

Also, another word of advice, the ones that will screw with you when they see you being happy with your life are the same ones that probably do not have very happy lives themselves. Just try to not look too happy and over confidant, because any sort of success you seem to show in your part is going to make those unhappy people you are around feel like sh*t and they are going to bring you down for it and they are going to do whatever manipulation to do it, weather it’s making you feel sorry for them to get you to waste your energy on them or whatever. The ones that are happy with their lives have a higher chance of not actually caring or being envious of how happy you are in your life according to my experience.

So much truth to this. A lot of the things in that book can only really be applied to people you havent met before, thats true. But the one thing that doesnt change is that people are mostly only i terested in themselves, and will wholeheartedly talk about themselves to you for hours. I’m super guilty of this, and have a hard time actually applying it for my own use on others.

Also, you’re right about others trying to bring me down too. Those people are called “haters”. A lot of people were noticing I was smiling too much at work, and started to comment on it. Its because they’re miserable.

Brother, we need to stick together.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

EnjoyTheDecline, So much truth to this. A lot of the things in that book can only really be applied to people you havent met before, thats true. But the one thing that doesnt change is that people are mostly only i terested in themselves, and will wholeheartedly talk about themselves to you for hours. I’m super guilty of this, and have a hard time actually applying it for my own use on others.

Also, you’re right about others trying to bring me down too. Those people are called “haters”. A lot of people were noticing I was smiling too much at work, and started to comment on it. Its because they’re miserable.

Brother, we need to stick together.

[alchemistParticipant 484]

oh man I can relate so much, I’m going to be all over your posts saying “I relate, I relate, I relate, me too, me too, me too!”.

Anonymous wrote:

Enjoy The Decline wrote:

Before age 22, I really knew jack sh*t how the world worked, now I have an introduction knowlege at least of many things, like from marketing to personal finance, to nutriton, to even social psychology.

THIS! Think about this.
We had to learn how the world and people work, and now we know to a point that we can overcome our “difference”.
Yet people who are born knowing these things by instinct, actually know nothing. They just do what they are programmed without even understanding why.
So, we have a choice and free will.

Muscles get stronger by work. An Aspie who has worked on his personal problems comes out better than an ordinary person. Oh yes, I just said one type of person is better than another, I went there, I applied a standard of quality to people. And Yes, I am saying I’m better than you, ordinary readers 😛

The average person is a psychological ruin of emotional defences and the cultural/social norms which are just accumulated prejudices of past sophists. I pity the zombies which walk our streets. One red pill would kill them, but I- like many other autistic/aspergic people- eat red pills for breakfast.

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