My Journey to MGTOW

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  • #535980
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    Barnstormer
    Barnstormer
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    Greetings Brothers.

    I have been reading the forums for about a year, so I realize my story is not uncommon; still, I would like to share the lessons I have learned.

    I was young, stupid, and had nobody to mentor me about woman. Since my mom passed away when I was kid, I had few females to observe during my developmental years as a teenager. No serious relationships other than some short term girlfriends and some regular f~~~ friends after keg parties.

    I met the ex when I was 27. Things progressed quickly because I became pussy-whipped, and before long we were cohabitating and purchasing a condo together. She had a 2 1/2 year old, so it was instant family time. I should of realized I was just a another c~~~ on the carousel since she so willingly dumped the kids father so quickly.

    Lesson: Do not be a blue-pill simp. Never cohabitate or purchase real-estate with a woman under any circumstances. Never get involved with a woman who already has offspring other than a pump and dump.

    We got married in 1989 and two more kids through 1994. Upgraded to the “American Dream” house with 4 bedrooms and 2.5 baths. She worked part time as a waitress. I have a career and paid all the bills, I mean everything, except the groceries. She blamed me for being controlling with the money, but she would burn any money she got hold of instantly and never saved a dime. I should have been forewarned when I found $3000 of secret credit card bills hidden under a table. But as the blue pill husband, I helped her pay them off.

    Lesson: Be aware of your surroundings. The secretive and dishonest behavior of a woman does not change.

    I was fortunate to have several hobbies including woodworking, fishing and golf to help keep my sanity between the all of the family and financial stress that was put on me. The house was beautiful due to my own blood and sweat. Did everything myself including custom furniture, tile and hard wood floors, shed, pool deck, gazebo, the works.

    Fast forward to 2006 when things got bizzare. She went on the carousel and got caught. Who knows how many more there were. The first one was a 20 year muscular chad who was a bartender at her work. This chad also f~~~ed my step-daughter, who also worked at the same establishment. That is how I found out. The step-daughter got knocked up by this chad, had an abortion, and threw her mom under the bus during the resulting family tension. This chad f~~~ed the mother/daughter combination. This was the beginning of the end. I eventually filed for divorce after my investigation of her cell phone bills and use of a GPS tracking device revealed a constant stream of cheating, lies and deception. She even got a secret cell phone and had the bills go to a PO box to hide it from me. She was also f~~~ing a married latino cook and another 21 year cook. Keep in mind she was 43 at the time. I found love letters in her email when she left the computer on one night during the separation. These were the smoking gun that negated her lies.

    Lesson: No second chances. I should have file for divorce as soon as chad #1 was revealed.

    Next up was the divorce rape. It is no fault divorce in Massachusetts, so she got the house, I got the retirement, and $540 per week child support. I am still paying because my son is still a full time student and in Massachusetts this means you pay until age 23. This will end in October, but alimony is still on the table for the c~~~. I was living in a one bedroom apartment for 5 years with my fishing poles and drill press stuffed in my bedroom closet. But I had peace, took care of myself and managed to not flame out. I did not jump off a bridge and did not kill anyone (although she and her chads probably would have deserved it).

    Lesson: Never, and mean NEVER, get married or divorced in Massachusetts.

    I made it through this nightmare. I got stronger and wiser. I eventually bought my own house 5 years ago and resumed my hobbies. I have fixed up the house nicely and am now enjoying my assets. But I almost f~~~ed up again. I let a girlfriend move in with. I just managed to kick her out after 3 years. This is a different subject for a future post.

    Lesson: Be sure to learn from past lessons. The simp I was may still linger deep inside of me.

    I am honored to be a part of this community with you gentlemen. I realized that I was red pill when I started to read the forums and could closely relate to much of the subject matter. You have helped me keep my course through the navigational beacons. Cheers!

    If you're going through hell, keep going.

    #535985
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    Greg Honda
    Greg Honda
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    Welcome

    First Star 🙂

    It's Time to get Wise

    #536026
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    MarketWatcher
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    Welcome Sir. Top Gun intro right here.

    #536029
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    Joey Alfio
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    One of the best intros I’ve read. Your c~~~ of a wife had you as a provider, a decent home, family, etc, and still threw everything away. The amount of toxicity from these c~~~s is staggering.

    Δεν υπάρχει τίποτε αδύνατο γι’ αυτόν που θα προσπαθήσει. - Μέγας Αλέξανδρος

    #536042
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    Maximus Aurelius
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    Welcome,, nice intro..
    Barnstormer huh? Are you a pilot or fly Tail draggers?

    Meditating on the Wisdom & Truths of Man, Isn't just a Philosophy, but a Calling......Be willing to be Called a Man!
    #536057
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    GregB0
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    Did everything myself including custom furniture, tile and hard wood floors, shed, pool deck, gazebo, the works.

    I have fixed up the house nicely and am now enjoying my assets.

    One of the best intros I’ve read

    Welcome, it is good to hear that you can continue working with woodworking after loosing your first home. A great introduction, though I must admit that I am sorry that you had to go through all the crap that you described. You have a lot of good information to share with the forum and I hope that you find the site beneficial.

    ​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

    #536083
    The Manipulated Man
    The Manipulated Man
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    Greetings B,

    Kindly provide more details about YOUR life now without revealing your secret identity.

    Feel free to add more details about yourself in this introduction thread in the reply box below. For example, answer the following questions:

    Fun stuff that you do?

    Education/ Trainning?

    Work situation and career aspirations?

    How old are you?

    Future projects/ plans?

    Nevertheless, I appreciate your excellent introduction.

    Your MGTOW perspective is right on the mark.

    We share similar Red Pills.

    We are in complete agreement on the lessons learned and the value of MGTOW.

    Congratulations on freeing yourself of the indoctrination and other chains of the Plantation.

    Furthermore, exposing a big pair of b~~~~ for everyone to see is a masculine trait.
    I respect a man who lays it all on the table right from the beginning.
    Any attempt at honesty is courageous and manly.
    I appreciate your honesty B.
    Bravo!

    Also, the way you Mansplained what happened in your life is outstanding.

    Here is a Quote from a great man, John Holt, who describes your gift B:

    “The proper business of the intellectual is to:

    Make complicated ideas more simple, not simple ideas more complicated;

    Make the real world more comprehensible, not less so.”

    What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

    #536090
    FrostByte
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    Excellent intro. Welcome

    Sounds like my first marriage.

    Lesson: Be sure to learn from past lessons. The simp I was may still linger deep inside of me.

    My second marriage (The abusive one) was as you pointed out a result of my simp programming.

    I didn’t have MGTOW then. You do have it. So chances of slipping backwards are greatly reduced. Having these guys here to cheer me on to self-actualization and independence from female attention is the lifesaver so many men need and won’t get.

    If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

    #536096
    FrostByte
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    Lesson: Never, and mean NEVER, get married or divorced in Massachusetts.

    I had to fix that.

    If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

    #536204
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    Barnstormer
    Barnstormer
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    Thank you all for the nice reception>

    Your c~~~ of a wife had you as a provider, a decent home, family, etc, and still threw everything away. The amount of toxicity from these c~~~s is staggering.

    Joey Alfio – Yes. It is still amazing and disturbing that she threw it all away; however, D Day will come for her sooner than later.

    Barnstormer huh? Are you a pilot or fly Tail draggers?

    Maximus – I am not a pilot, only a vintage aircraft enthusiast.

    Lesson: Never, and mean NEVER, get married or divorced in Massachusetts.

    Frostbyte – LOL! Good catch. I wanted to emphasize how bad the family laws and probate courts are here in Massachusetts. But I stand corrected sir !!

    Welcome, it is good to hear that you can continue working with woodworking after loosing your first home.

    GregBO – Yes I feel very fortunate to have had the resources to be able to make the down payment on a modest fixer upper house, while still paying for the ex’s house as part of the child support payments. My dad and grandfather were very resourceful do-it-yourselfers, and I was fortunate to have wood shop class all years of middle and high school were I grew up. Kids today should have the same opportunity, but wood shop classes have been largely phased out in most schools. This has contibuted to the demasculinization of American men. I know young guys that can’t work a screwdriver (although they can handle an Iphone).

    If you're going through hell, keep going.

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    Anonymous
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    Welcome!

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    Anonymous
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    wow.

    I am stunned at the s~~~ vortex you rolled out of. A lesser man would have imploded.

    Please have my chair, I have to go to work now, please be comfortable while you hang out here. Someone will bring you a beer. or 20.

    wow.

    #536346
    JVB
    JVB
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    Dam bro. Heavy stuff. Great intro. Welcome brother. You are amongst friends.

    Peace is > piece.

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