My Intro

[QuietManParticipant 26]

Hello, Everyone.

As my name implies, I’m not a big talker. I’ve been lurking on the site for awhile, and it’s been interesting for me to read the thoughts of other men here. What’s really been interesting is how many men there are out there who, to a certain extent, think like I do and see things the way I see them. My experiences in life had led me to the point where I believed I was truly on my own–that my way of thinking was singularly bizarre, and that the majority of people in the world would believe that thinking and acting independently are obsolete and to be used against me. I had gotten to the point where I questioned my own sanity.

Part of the reason for that is that I work in education. I work in a high school as an administrator. My wife worked in high schools as a teacher. My life revolved around education, and most of the people I was around, were in education. With the state of education today, being around only these people really made me feel like the “odd man out.”

I was married for 18 years. I have twin teenage boys. During my marriage, I was on a steady diet of blue pills. I deferred to my wife on many, many decisions. Some of the consequences to those decisions are that I live in a part of the country I do not care for, I have a house that is way too much house–both in size and mortgage. Also, I am working in a field I don’t particularly care for–education. In short, for decades I have not had control of my life, and now I can see where that has gotten me.

Then, the unexpected happened. My marriage didn’t end in divorce. It ended with the death of my wife. Her passing was totally unexpected and devastating in many ways. I have vivid memories of the day it happened. How it impacted my in laws; how it impacted my sons. But that’s not what I want to focus on here…

Instead, I want to focus on how things are now and how I’m hoping to move forward. I’ve embraced the challenge of raising my two sons. I’m working harder than ever at my job. I’m seeking employment elsewhere, and I’m hoping to sell my house and move. You see, instead of embracing a sense of victim hood, or wallowing in grief and sorrow, I am concentrating on moving forward. On doing a good job with my sons. On improving myself and my situation. I am facing my challenges in the way I’d expect a man to face them–by doing the best he can.

Well, that’s a lot of talking for me. Once again, I’m glad I’ve found this site, and I look forward to reading here, and even participating in discussions. It’s good to know I’m not alone.

[heads-upParticipant 320]

Welcome

QuietMan wrote:

I am facing my challenges in the way I’d expect a man to face them–by doing the best he can.

Well you are of to a super start right there Quietman

QuietMan wrote:

You see, instead of embracing a sense of victim hood, or wallowing in grief and sorrow, I am concentrating on moving forward.

Grief and sorry will diminish and resolve over time,I know what its like to walk that path,
Good luck to you

[Anonymous 42]

You’re definitely NOT alone! I’m amazed at how many men are awakening to their own sovereignty, ya think it’s the feminism?
If your head’s in the right place, the rest will surly follow! Keep pressing forward and fortifying your spirit, your sons well being hangs in the balance!
Welcome to MGTOW, the alternative to feminism….

[QuietManParticipant 26]

Thanks for the welcome, guys.

I’ve had issues with feminism for quite a while now. I remember an incident at the beginning of graduate school. I was working on my MA in English. One of the female professors, first class of the term, went around the room and pointed at each white male in the classroom. She said, “You, you, you and you” will never get a PhD in English because you are white, heterosexual males.” My reaction wasn’t anger.

I remember thinking, “I don’t have the heart to tell her I don’t really want a PhD in English. I’m just here because I like to read and write.”

But it stuck with me. I’m a firm believer in knowing who your enemies are. And treating them as such.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome! You know where you are now. You know where you want to end up. That is a major achievement in itself. All that remains is to find the optimum path.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[heads-upParticipant 320]

QuietMan wrote:

One of the female professors, first class of the term, went around the room and pointed at each white male in the classroom. She said, “You, you, you and you” will never get a PhD in English because you are white, heterosexual males.

Dear Lord,that is wrong on so many levels,what if a male professor went round and pointed out all the wimmin in the cage and said “you will never get a physics Phd cause your heterosexual white females.?
shamed/sacked/vilified,they would hunt him down with dogs and burn him at the stake

[QuietManParticipant 26]

Hard to argue with what you write, Heads-Up, not that I want to argue with it.

I remember two things I thought about this situation.

1. It was amazing (to me) how overt she was about this. She said it with a great deal of conviction. I guess she “felt” so strongly about it, in her mind, it just had to be true.

2. It was amazingly narcissistic of her to make such a declaration. How in the hell could she have any impact on the admission process of every university any of us could have applied to?

I don’t think any of us guys took what she said to heart. I think one of the guys did go on and get a PhD.

[Anonymous 29]

QuietMan wrote:

Thanks for the welcome, guys.
I’ve had issues with feminism for quite a while now. I remember an incident at the beginning of graduate school. I was working on my MA in English. One of the female professors, first class of the term, went around the room and pointed at each white male in the classroom. She said, “You, you, you and you” will never get a PhD in English because you are white, heterosexual males.” My reaction wasn’t anger.
I remember thinking, “I don’t have the heart to tell her I don’t really want a PhD in English. I’m just here because I like to read and write.”
But it stuck with me. I’m a firm believer in knowing who your enemies are. And treating them as such.

Ah yes, that reminds me of the good old days. In 1968, my second year in high school I had a similar problem with a female languages teacher.. Now I was not an A 1 pupil but all my marks in all subject were above average, however this particular teacher, she singled me out to be her whipping boy but not for long. Third week into the second semester she tried to whip me up into shape because I was too boisterous (she had no sense of humor) As she turned her back to me I picked up me language and excersise books and walked to the back of the class room and duped the items into a rubbish bin and calmly lit them on fire. The entire class went crazy and clapped because I stood up to her bulls~~~ attitude. Needless to say there were repercussions, where I got three days of school detention but she had to take two months for stress relief. F~~~ing wonderful. That year in the last semester no one got any s~~~ from her including me and I also got marks above 78% in languages.

btw: nice intro and no, I got nothing against teachers, only assholes.
Welcome.

[WallyParticipant]

Welcome to the community, loved the introduction, look forward to hearing more from your prospective.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

I know of several men whom on their wifes passing …. seemed to become ….. different somehow. Something closely resembling freedom invaded their life.

My condolences are sincere and hope you are unhindered in your new direction but ….. marriage is slavery even if you loved your wife. That could have been done outside of a contract.

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