My concern is misplaced

[GeraldParticipant 3628]

For those who have followed me, you know a bit of my situation… and whether you have or not I hope you can learn from this.

My wife is travelling, won’t go into details why, but suffice it to say I have been concerned and reached out to her for an update. She has been gone four days, and I didn’t call the second day tof see what would happen. I was tagged with the “well you don’t care enough to call” s~~~ test which I ignored. On day three we spoke, but she was trashed and obviously didn’t want to talk… on day four I was told by a mutual friend that she was spending the inevitable with an acquaintance that is supposedly platonic. She left the family location she was at and moved to a hotel when then family questioned her motives…now is not responsible sive.

So… day five and I am concerned, ask if she is ok… get short answers, via text. No follow up, nothing.

My concern is obviously misplaced. I should be focused on myself, as she is not concerned about appearances, whether I am ok or not, her home life, none of it.

Men, be concerned about yourselves, your children and YOUR life.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

I’m sorry for your situation man. No one deserves to be treated like a door mat…and that is how she is treating you, and I might add not even trying to conceal the fact. If there is anyway you can bail on the situation and preserve your sanity. Do so.

Platonic? That is insulting to the intelligence of anyone who reads it. Sorry man.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Been exactly where you are. I went mentally psycho. The fact that you are cohesive bodes at least favorable.

You only make wise decisions when you are sane of mind.

One thing I wish I’d have done is more stealth.

Don’t tell people in your life what is going on. I vomited out everything. Bad mistake.

No one gives a s~~~ about you. Exit strategy and action in stealth please my brother.

Peace brothers

[Anonymous 54]

Ouch. I think the truth is obvious.

Look after yourself.Dont mesure yourself by what she does. She is who she is. Make a better life for yourself. Even if its just in your head for now.

Brighter days will come!

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Her behavior is reprehensible. I feel for you. A marriage if it is to work – and that’s a tall order from the start – needs to be predicated on trust. She’s obviously failed that part.
Hang in there. I hope whatever move you take – you put yourself first – just like she is.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

I wish my lil cup cake would leave, and not look back. Your wife has shown her true colors. You can’t change who she truly is, but on the plus side she’s giving you the opportunity to move on with your life. Take it, and don’t look back. In a short amount of time once the emotional yo-yo craziness settles down in your head, you will be grateful that she is gone.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 0]

Well…. women campaigned successfully for no-fault divorce. Give her what she’s asking for.
If you think she is cheating on you, just file for divorce when you are ready.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Gerald, your concern can never be misplaced while your finances and health are still intertwined with hers. I know you’re at the convergence of possible paths, but even if you aren’t going to leave right away you need to protect yourself.

Prepare for the worst, but remember, extricating yourself will take time and all of the patience you can muster. You’ve got your head on straight, and you know what matters.

Best of luck to you brother. Post often to keep your focus and rely on the men that are here for you.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Hire a PI and get the goods on her. This will help you legally when you file. I know a PI sounds expensive, but the money he/she will save you in the long run will be 20 fold!

[NeroParticipant 1466]

“Do what must be done. Do not hesitate. Show no mercy.” – Darth Sidious

[GeraldParticipant 3628]

CombatRoll wrote:

Hire a PI and get the goods on her. This will help you legally when you file. I know a PI sounds expensive, but the money he/she will save you in the long run will be 20 fold!

The issue is she is remote… So no chance of that, though I appreciate the thought. Locally, when she is here, I make notes and pay attention.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[GeraldParticipant 3628]

You need to face the reality that Chad is b~~~~ deep in her.

Plan for divorce.

My lawyer told me tons of stories of such women.

I would agree, and this is more detail than is needed, and it sounds like I am making excuses. She won’t be physical with another, as she has physical issues that caused her to be very shy of showing anyone her body. A major weight loss due to surgery prevents it. She can still be intimate though without full sex. I am sure she is involved in some way with others, but it is mental cheating. That is no excuse. It is just a matter of time now.

Stealthy you make those of us still making the break, jealous.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Gerald wrote:

She won’t be physical with another, as she has physical issues that caused her to be very shy of showing anyone her body. A major weight loss due to surgery prevents it.

I assume she has the “flesh apron”—that won’t stop her from riding the carousel. Get out if you can and so so quickly. Reading your posts I’d say you’ve taken enough s~~~ for one lifetime. You deserve better than this.

[SolidusXParticipant 854]

Dang bud that does sound rough and very suspicious indeed, like most brothers here I would start my exit plan and also like others have said already stay stealthy. I would care more for yourself at this point than her and move on.

Knowledge is power..... Don't waste your brain on bullshit

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