My brother's 3rd mental breakdown.

[UnbelievableyetnotParticipant 512]

So my brother worked in an old folks home and just had his third breakdown where he stopped talking, eating and got violent they say. He had to be sectioned to a mental institution, again.

I said from the beginning that him working there was a bad idea, but of course my grandmother and mother were pushing him into stressful work. I said he’s a single man, he doesn’t need to be working that hard. He should probably be in a care home as a resident if anything. This seems to get my mother and grandmother all riled up. They says stupid crap about how even lawyers have psychosis and can work as long as they take their meds. I said what good are meds if you don’t take them. (my brother keeps stopping) and my mother goes on about how they’re going to have to make him take them.

I say, at 35? They’re going to have someone make him are they? The overstretched UK NHS?

She seems to think they’re going to keep him at the facility for months, have him come out all compliant, work a high powered job, and everything will be fine.

When I say mothers don’t care about their sons, only what they can earn, this is it. Female nature, right there. They don’t care how many times he loses it or the potential danger to himself. Their answer is drugs will solve everything. Bring home the bacon, be an expendable utility. How dare reality screw up their delusional mama fantasies.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

In a women’s eyes, a man’s health is secondary to his utility !!

Women have always pushed men to work MORE for THEIR own selfish wants !!

There is this male manager at work in his 30’s making just into the 6 figure range. He’s only about a hundred pounds over weight, but I’m sure his not so lil cupcake is happy spending his check as he races himself to an early grave !!

Take CARE of YOURSELF because NOBODY else will !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 42]

Send your brother here if he wants to learn the secret of keeping his s~~~ tight and together! Seriously! We don’t give “bad advice” we share our life’s experiences on how we overcame and arose from our would-be graves!

The BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE! But only if you get up off your ass and TAKE IT!

I’m looking at 2 ft of snow out my window, time to fire up the Gravely! Turns rocks into gravel! I love that 50 year old machine MADE BY NOTHING BUT MEN!

[UnbelievableyetnotParticipant 512]

I did last year but the advice was rejected. He said no woman of his would ever have to work.

He just said that because he likes Christopher Hitchens. When I tell him about hypergamy and that a woman wouldn’t like you for you, he said what’s wrong with wanting money?

I said, when she leaves you after taking your money what then? He believed he would know how to keep her. I mean the man once sent me pages upon pages of messages he sent to a woman at work who never dated him or never displayed such interest and said as much. Messages that are so horrifyingly blue pill even after she rejected him I can’t in good conscience share it.He talks about being willing to do anything for her, even join Islam in a heartbeat. And he’s an atheist.

Just too far gone.

[Anonymous 42]

Unbelievableyetnot wrote:

He said no woman of his would ever have to work.

That’s some pure White Knight bulls~~~ if I ever heard it!

“No woman of his” is where he should have started it and ended it!

They’re independant now, free to do what their evil little hearts have already done! The damage is done, we’re not in the realm of hypothetical, we’re in the realm of reality, the damage to society by women’s independents is all around us in the systemic failures geared for only one thing, and that’s the utter destruction men and our identities! Why? Women have utterly desecrated their identities and as everyone knows, MISERY LOVES COMPANY!

Can I get a big F~~~ THAT?

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

F~~~ THAT!

[Anonymous 42]

^^^ + 1!

[NotHavinIt75Participant 39]

Wow! Feels like a page out of my own book!

I have a 35 year old brother who is also mentally unstable.

You never know where you stand with him, and he can be fine one minute and the next minute he could be calling me nasty names and acting completely irrational.

For instance, he called me Saturday evening around 6pm. He wanted to go to the “cabaret.” A cabaret is basically just another word for gentleman’s club, or strip club.

I already had plans to go and meet a few friends for drinks at 8:00. I politely explained that to him and he totally f~~~ing LOST IT!

He’s really good at laying a guilt trip on you if you don’t do what he wants, when he wants, and he proceeded to do that to me for about 30 minutes.

Finally, I couldn’t handle anymore of the names he was calling me so I just said goodbye and hung up. I ended up having to mute my phone because he just wouldn’t stop calling or texting.

He basically ruined my night, and I guess that was probably his intent from the beginning.

He is also well aware that I REFUSE to go to strip clubs for the sole reason that I am not about to spend my hard earned money so some shallow gold digging slut can PRETEND to like me! On top of that, the strip club laws are so stringent where I live that any strip joint that serves alcoholic beverages does not allow full nudity. The girls even have to wear pasties! Why would I spend at least $100 (it’s $10 to park and then another $10 just to walk through the front door, not to mention 12 oz domestic beers are $5!

I’d rather sit home and watch internet porn. At least then you can see actual nude women. Anyway, I digress.

The point is, my brother is a selfish, spiteful person who is going nowhere fast (still lives in his childhood bedroom with my parents), and his main goal in life is to make everyone else just as miserable as he is.

He treats both of my elderly parents like absolute s~~~. He refuses to drive and makes my mother and I drive him to his numerous doctors appointments. He talks down to us and berates my mother for hours at a time, and he is plain hateful to just about everyone that knows and tries to help him.

I’m lost as to what to do. Any ideas?

If you don't want to do something, then DON'T!

[Anonymous 42]

NotHavinIt75 wrote:

He’s really good at laying a guilt trip on you if you don’t do what he wants, when he wants,

Narcissistic spoiled little bitch if you ask me.

NotHavinIt75 wrote:

He is also well aware that I REFUSE to go to strip clubs for the sole reason that I am not about to spend my hard earned money so some shallow gold digging slut can PRETEND to like me!

Misery loves company, all crabs pull in other crabs trying to escape the bucket, druggies do the same thing when nobody will druggie with them so they do it all alone and get mad at the people that turned them down for finer things in life, they resent it like you’re acting stuck-up and better than them, but it’s your life’s standards that are better, but they take it personally.

NotHavinIt75 wrote:

The point is, my brother is a selfish, spiteful person who is going nowhere (still lives in his childhood bedroom with my parents) fast, and his main goal in life is to make everyone else just as miserable as he is.

He just a brother and apparently not a friend with common interests, oil and water will always separate no matter how much effort they make stirring the pot…

[NotHavinIt75Participant 39]

Anonymous wrote:

NotHavinIt75 wrote:

He’s really good at laying a guilt trip on you if you don’t do what he wants, when he wants,

Narcissistic spoiled little bitch if you ask me.

NotHavinIt75 wrote:

He is also well aware that I REFUSE to go to strip clubs for the sole reason that I am not about to spend my hard earned money so some shallow gold digging slut can PRETEND to like me!

Misery loves company, all crabs pull in other crabs trying to escape the bucket, druggies do the same thing when nobody will druggie with them so they do it all alone and get mad at the people that turned them down for finer things in life, they resent it like you’re acting stuck-up and better than them, but it’s your life’s standards that are better, but they take it personally.

NotHavinIt75 wrote:

The point is, my brother is a selfish, spiteful person who is going nowhere (still lives in his childhood bedroom with my parents) fast, and his main goal in life is to make everyone else just as miserable as he is.

He just a brother and apparently not a friend with common interests, oil and water will always separate no matter how much effort they make stirring the pot…

I agree with everything you just said.

I used to think we shared common interests, but over time I’ve come to realize that no matter how much anybody helps him or does for him, it’s never enough.

I really hate the guilt trip part. I feel guilt and then I feel anger once I come to realize that I did nothing to deserve his s~~~.

My neighbor actually said something that made sense this morning.

He said, “He’s your brother so you HAVE to LOVE him, but he’s not your friend so you DON’T HAVE to LIKE him.”

Hey, makes sense to me.

If you don't want to do something, then DON'T!

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

Unless he can admit he’s got a problem, disavow his existence. Life is too short to be a doormat for someone else. He’s likely a sociopath coupled with major depressive disorder. I’m no head shrinker, but this mental illness s~~~ keeps creeping closer and closer to my front door as it impacts more people around me.
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If he can’t be helped or refuses to be helped, let him go. Your parents need to throw him out, and put him in a position to have his own eye opening moment.
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I have a brother with major undiagnosed mental issues. His wife won’t push him to get help, he won’t even allow screening. There’s nothing more that I can do except wash my hands of it. I can’t save the world, and it’s not my f~~~ing responsibility if I could.
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Why should I be the only f~~~er out there with responsibilities and expectations? Get him out of your life and surround yourself with better people.

[xenonParticipant 2007]

F~~~ THAT> Completely agree. I used to be a potential solution for one woman, any one of them that I have loved. I would have gladly worked and helped raise a family. I am not to blame why this did not come to pass. I tried and tried and stupidly kept trying until there was nothing left of me to try with. A dangerous place indeed to lose oneself. It almost killed me.

“The damage is done, we’re not in the realm of hypothetical, we’re in the realm of reality” A great MGTOW quote if ever I have seen one. 10 below here dude and headed out for morning deliveries. And happy about it.

Thank you for that sentence. 17 words sum it up quite aptly. If you have like I, tried, you are not to blame for this sad state of society. And like me, you can freely choose to give no f~~~s about it and do whatever pleases you for the remainder of your days.

[UnbelievableyetnotParticipant 512]

So rather than tell the therapists about his traumatic past, abandoning us in the west indies, my mother decided to put herself ahead of her son’s mental health and kept quiet.

So they don’t know. Until I go there, then they’ll know.

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