My Birth. From Mangina to MGTOW

[bicycledaysParticipant 5]

Congratulations on getting out of that relationship.  Congratulations on finally being free.

I ready most of what you wrote and, basically, you invested way too much in this girl.  You invested financially (paying for her and her kids), mentally (being in torment about the other guys she slept with), physically (stress, having to be there for her), and probably spiritually, too.

Bookmark these websites and visit them often:

Great websites for guys …

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/

http://www.rooshv.com/

http://www.MGTOW.com

http://www.SolveMyGirlProblems.com

http://www.UnderstandingRelationships.com

http://www.HappierAbroad.com

The key with girls is to take them on an adventure and do so without getting attached to them.  It “flips the script”.  You do this by having an abundance mentality.  I do this and it works.  I’ll go up to a group of girls and start talking and say something like “Excuse me for a moment.  I would like to read your minds.  Think of a number between 1 and a million and focus that number on my forehead.”  They get excited and participate.  If I get the number wrong, I tell them they are not concentrating enough, that they should drink some “concentrated orange juice” to help them concentrate better.

I go in talking to new girls without any agenda, so I am not attached to the outcome, therefore I do not attach significance to what I am doing.  It works.  Girls respond because they can feel my energy.  I’ll meet them, make them laugh, introduce them to my friends, and walk off, to meet other girls or groups of people.  I did this at a rooftop bar recently and a guy bought me a drink because he wanted me to introduce him to girls, so I did.  It was hilarious.

Visit the websites above and have fun and be safe.

Always put your dreams first and the girl put her in 4th or 5th place. That way, she won’t have to shoulder the responsibility of you being happy.

Take them on an adventure.  Invite them to participate.  If they decline, no big deal, say “have fun” and walk off and invite another girl.

 

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Welcome and gratz on your arrival. Happy to be on the list of recommendations.

You invested way too much in this girl

Interestingly put.

That phrasing suggests “investing too much” is a man’s “problem”. It’s not HIS problem. It’s not even really *A* problem to invest “too much” in someone because that’s what love IS. It’s an overwhelming desire to GIVE. And that’s NEVER a problem. Whether its to your kids, or to your elderly parents, or even organizations you don’t know. I also invested “too much” into my jobs, and one of my cars… but it was worth it because it started all the time and took me wherever I wanted to go – in some style.

And I LOVED that car. I only hand-washed it myself and I would spend 2 hours doing it. It was never gonna rub my back, or have my back, but It was fulfilling nonetheless and paid back in enjoyment.

You also can’t know that it was “too much” looking forward. You can only that looking back. But in the case of women (a lot like cars) texting one more time after she doesn’t text you back is “investing too much”. Everything men do for women is “too much”.

Just walking up and initiating a conversation she normally wouldn’t is “too much”.
So …. you’re investing too much in women.

When I see a girl I might be interested in, I stand exactly where I am and look at her, and if she notices I will motion her over to ME. If she doesn’t approach, no problem. But if she does, now she’s already invested in ME.

Try that sometime.

Other sites like ROOSH have endless articles, advice and recommendations about “MAKING APPROACHES”, “APPROACHING WOMEN”, “APPROACH APPROACH APPROACH”. They are all far too invested in women. They don’t teach women to approach THEM. That’s why MGTOW.COM should be at the top of the list. 🙂

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Snake wrote:

iLearn wrote:

I realize there are great woman out there.

Where? I haven’t seen or met one yet.

 

I personally haven’t given up hope. When we talk about women, we’re talking about a group of 3.5 billion individuals. Billion with a b. Our ape minds cannot comprehend that number. There are billions of individuals. Yes, there are similarities in the sexes, but that doesn’t mean neither sex doesn’t have free will.

 

I’m still looking though. To me, the concept of a “great woman” is what a wormhole is to Einstein: possible, but no evidence of existence. Doesn’t mean I should stop looking!

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[BlackEagleParticipant 54]

ARRGHHH.. it felt like going thru hell while reading your post!! glad you made it in one piece! The red flag  were evident from the get go.  Don’t even think about her in anyway possible at all. Even  after your are done with school and a great career, DON’T!!, F~~~ IT!! I can relate to this story as I too was in Med school while medusa showed up! And she spewed  poison during my exams but, thankfully I actually aced them. She got up left me and, in  less then two months turned all religious and is with another dude. I got no closure , tried many times but to no avail, i think medusa wanted me to live with that pain. But we move on, some of it stays in the back of our mind and we get our weak moments.However we do move on! Good Luck on your journey!

[BeckholtParticipant 7]

Me not matching into surgery is a baggage (coming from a woman with 2 kids, sleeping with any man interested in her, an ex-who committed suicide, being a full time nursing student, having no source of income other than her dad paying house mortgage and living of social support)

This made me cringe. So ironic how some women have such b~~~~ to say s~~~ like this, and actually believe it.

This was tough to read, seeing you go back, and back, due to temptation and that ‘need-to-nurture-and-provide’ many of us feel. So so glad you escaped from her at last man. Pride and congratulations. I know how hard it is to fight YOURSELF when the woman has you by the b~~~~ AND psychological-strings.

[experiencedParticipant]

Hi to Beckholt. You might consider putting up an Avatar picture other than yourself.

In a year you may say, “I’m really glad to have done that…” because people piece things together and anonymity can prove to be valuable. Parallels might include the French Resisitance, vietcong, etc.

Feel free to flush this unasked for advice, just don’t want ID pix to be “cause for regret” later.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[BlackEagleParticipant 54]

experienced wrote:

Hi to Beckholt. You might consider putting up an Avatar picture other than yourself. In a year you may say, “I’m really glad to have done that…” because people piece things together and anonymity can prove to be valuable. Parallels might include the French Resisitance, vietcong, etc. Feel free to flush this unasked for advice, just don’t want ID pix to be “cause for regret” later.

do  follow this @beckholt

[ThuhfishParticipant 14]

Hey iLearn,

You got potential and you learned something. Thanks for sharing your insight.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Thanks for posting that- it was long, but well worth it. Long posts like that can be instructive.

You, iLearn, dodged a bullet ! You know, you could have ended up like her ex.

Frank V.

[onmywayParticipant 502]

Wow. Just read this story, and I’m extremely glad you got out alive from this one, iLearn. Thank you for sharing.
It must have sucked big time, but I can only imagine the horrors of marrying / impregnating such woman.
I won’t forget this one, and will try my best to stay away from hot looking demons, i.e. 99,9% of all women 🙂

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