My bestfriend is gone

[NewgroundsParticipant 558]

I’ve had my friend Leo in my life since I was 4 years old we’ve hung out and chilled countless hours, and it sucks to see what he’s become. He’s legitimately a husk of a man his girlfriend runs his life to the point where everything is about her, I deleted instagram and all of that but when I had it there wasn’t a single post he posted that didn’t have her in it. The thing that’s crazy is, that when we hangout he tells me how crazy she is and how he wants nothing more than to break up with her because she’s a control freak. But there’s a catch he says “she has to dump me I can’t dump her” basically making excuses, he actually did dump her for a solid 2 weeks and he was chilled almost like the old him but he relapsed and it’s worse than ever. She has complete control now and I haven’t seen the dude in months and he lives like 10 feet away no joke. He’s now the type of guy when we are with our friends he’s saying “don’t tell my gf I was drinking okay?”. It hurts me to see him this way since the history I share with him and the obvious solution to the problem that he just won’t take, his gf is just like one of my psycho exes. I haven’t shared my thoughts with him and I don’t know how to, he’s helped me out with my life and I want to return the favor in a way. I have no idea how to go about this craziness all of this happened when I was gone for over 2 years for work, which is why it was a bigger shock to me and bothers me more

|Right Wing Death Squad| Swallowed both Red Pills /pol/MGTOW

[RiargsParticipant 320]

If you really want to help your friend the best thing you can do for him is show him the MGTOW site.

He can take it or leave it.

Pray he goes MGTOW and starts popping red pills!

"In my many years I have come to the conclusion that one useless man is a shame, two are a law firm and three or more is a Government..." - John Adams

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Don’t push him. Maybe a mgtow.com hint …. but that’s it.

You can’t force red pills.

It will backfire.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Newgrounds wrote:

“don’t tell my gf I was drinking okay?”.

(face palm)

I have lost 2 good friends in the same way.
Lost men. Out of a shell. A bag of s~~~ dust.

Attempting to awaken him is akin to awakening a sleepwalker. Not a good idea.

Just smile and nod.

Newgrounds wrote:

she’s a control freak

Saying a woman is a control freak is like saying water is wet. On the surface, ALL want to have complete control over everything in a personal relationship or marriage, but deep down – if you permit them – they resent you for it and become MISERABLE.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Honestly best advice: Lead by example.

Bring home chick after chick (or at least one or two) and bang them loudly so you friend can hear( if he really lives that close – sounds like you share a wall).

When you talk to him, tell him about all your adventures as a single guy, but not in a bragging way. Do it in a way where its like you’re helping him live vicariously through you. Talk to him about the different techniques of seduction/game you might be using, or just the story about how you got a girl to come home with you.

Just show him, in a non assholeish non bragging manner how much fun it is to GYOW and be in control of your own destiny.

That’s probably about the best you can do, and remember no matter what it’s his choices and the best thing you can do is make the right choices in your own life. That’s actually the best thing you can do for him too.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

I’d say tell him how it is. It’s only going to get worse, and she’s going to get even worse. Give her an inch she’ll take a mile. She’s always testing to see what she can get away with, and once she does, she’ll see what else and keep pushing it. The process is so gradual he almost has no idea it’s getting worse.

There’s got to be some shock that gets him out of the relationship, like she pushes too far too quick. I don’t get why she has to break up with him in order for the relationship to be over. Maybe tell him to get a lesser paying job, that’ll make her run really quick. Or just dump her f~~~ing ass, but it’s never that simple with friends.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[Anonymous 42]

Be glad it’s not you!
Don’t tell on me? WTF! He’s acting like a child! He should (but won’t) blow smoke in her face, pour beer on the floor, and p~~~ all over the toilet seat! That alone will “get rid of her”. I’d have that bitch trembling in ANGER! I’d pop her cork in one second!
He’s on his way to being a puddle of goo! If you don’t break them they’ll break you!

CRUSH,,, KILL,,,, DESTROY!

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Anonymous wrote:

blow smoke in her face, pour beer on the floor, and p~~~ all over the toilet seat!

Or as I like to call it: Tuesday

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[RAT-7Participant 69]

Offers him : “The way of men” by Jack Donovan. … probably you can’t force red pills but you can be subtil….

I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of a woman, nor ask a woman to live for mine.

[experiencedParticipant]

Consider pushing him toward her.
Like neurologists who push someone deeper into a coma so that they bounce up out of it.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

well newgrounds your friend leo has an addiction.

his girlfriend has him hooked, on sex and affection.

The worst part of a drug isnt the physical cravings, its the psychological dependencie.

That is why a woman can manipulate a man, when he is feeling miserable she gives him sex and affection, and that changes his brain chemistry.
When he is hooked she just denies him that feeling so she can manipulate him, like a donkey chasing a carrot.

Buy him a fleshlight and tell him to cut his relations~~~ with that c~~~ in one clean stroke.

[NewgroundsParticipant 558]

Reading the responses I got it’s clear that being forward will accomplish absolutely nothing. You guys are right he’s hooked to the point where it’s almost impossible or is impossible to convince him otherwise. What I’m going to do is just take the subtle approach and if it works it works if doesn’t then at least I know I tried in the best way that I could. I can set an example by my lifestyle I’ve been single for awhile and my wallet is fat and my accomplishments are high, that speaks for itself.

|Right Wing Death Squad| Swallowed both Red Pills /pol/MGTOW

[BrujahParticipant 579]

On the other side of the fence, I know of a girl who is prolonging a relationship solely for the reason of not wanting to appear like the bad guy. She has openly spoken to me about how she no longer loves him. I flat out told her it was a horrid thing to do. No budging whatsoever. He’s already bringing up marriage and he’s ready to settle down and she’s just stringing it along, enjoying all the benefits of a fairly well off man without the intention of full commitment.

You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink it. As others have mentioned, do whatever you can to inform but there’s only so much you can do. Sometimes people need to get burnt before they learn.

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

Tell him we have a chair with his name on it waiting,not if but when. We take all men in,even the broken one’s,universal MGTOWcare.com. Let him walk in the house fire just leave the backdoor unlocked.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[experiencedParticipant]

Brujah wrote:

On the other side of the fence, I know of a girl who is prolonging a relationship solely for the reason of not wanting to appear like the bad guy. She has openly spoken to me about how she no longer loves him. I flat out told her it was a horrid thing to do. No budging whatsoever. He’s already bringing up marriage and he’s ready to settle down and she’s just stringing it along, enjoying all the benefits of a fairly well off man without the intention of full commitment.
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink it. As others have mentioned, do whatever you can to inform but there’s only so much you can do. Sometimes people need to get burnt before they learn.

Gotta’ wonder about this laydee.
I suspect that the good reason is that she doesn’t want to appear to be the bad person, but that the real reason is women know that they go after the guy that’s already got a woman.
They’re lazy and don’t want to do the hiring process.
They covet what isn’t currently theirs.
They’re too lazy to consider the possibility that guys think differently from them. So, perhaps what she’s really doing is not wanting to appear to be without a man because she assumes it’ll make her seem less attractive to the her next victim.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[AttonParticipant]

Talk to the guy keep in touch with him and make it clear he has an exit.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

I’ve looked at this scenario countless times already.

The best thing you/we can do is just wait for the disaster to happen and attempt to heal the guy after he’s fallen apart.Just let him know you’re on his side.

I think you shouldn’t try to give him redpills especially after the break up.(that might make him lose all desire to live)He might remain blue pill but at least he’ll be alive and kicking.

But should he be looking for answers and his thoughts appear red pill leaning..

1.Go get a leather jacket.
2.Go buy a pair of glasses.
3.Shave your head.
4.Sit the guy down

“Listen here Leo..”
https://mit.zenfs.com/255/2013/01/Morpheus_matrix.jpg

[OracleSummonParticipant 179]

You can only do so much to help your friend. Ultimately he has to help himself. He knows what he is getting into and complains about it, but he refuses to resolve the situation.

He is lost and it would be beneficial to cut him out of your life if you feel the situation to infect you as well.

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