With regards to chronic MGTOW lifestyle, there are bound to be multiple frustrations that come along the way of finding oneself and determining how to react to internal feelings, thoughts, or desires.
It got me thinking and I have a rough draft in my mind that I’d like to draw up here and perhaps it could lead to a few inputs/reflections from members.
I call it: The Stages of Optimum Resolve
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1. Reality check/Disillusion/Red pill rage: This is perhaps the only stage where MGTOW resolve makes the most sense. A view from the summit. Perhaps the only stage with least number of instances where the mind wanders toward women and their place in his life.
2. Pleasant void phase/Cruise control/let it be: Coming to terms and solidifying resolve. A life that makes most sense given the alternative choices. A weighing of pros and cons. It is in synchrony with stage 1.
3. The intimacy/sexual desire/companionship phase: Looking hard at the resolve and pitting it against the sexual desires and even comparing moments in past that made female companionship worthy/desirable. A subtle displacement of unconscious need to belong against willpower. Weight on one’s consciousness about a resolve which may seem unnatural. Perhaps it is the most important phase in a mghow’s point in life. It could establish the firm conscious decision to continue one’s journey without intentional pursuit of women, or to seek a sexual partner without any bonding, or to give serious relationship, mythical better half a go one more time. The idea here isn’t to establish how hardcore of a mghow one can be. Nor is it to avoid sex or women altogether. But depending on which branch of thinking one leaps off of, it is the only determinant where and how a man will land. Sex as a natural desire and need can seem like its forcing a compromise to one’s resolve in stages 1 & 2 and one needs a woman for numerous reasons. It could very well be a point where a red pill man has to pop a few blue pills to calibrate his resolve. A dilution of blood with a hint of blue.
I believe that this phase has the ability to keep some in a vicious cycle where his desires to pursue sex requires an alliance with certain aspects of female nature. Ones he abhorred in stages 1 & 2. If one desires regular sex &/or values female companionship then there must be concessions in his resolve towards letting the woman have some of her ways. Based on how stages 1 & 2 were, it could very well mean going back to the drawing board and finding what works best for the man. And for the woman.
Going all blue pill perhaps is only acceptable for a temporary/one night/desperate attempt to get laid. Blue pill now seems like the antithesis to the mental clarity that not making women priority # 1 brings in stages 1 & 2. Nonetheless, his nature would give ways to swallowing a few now and then.
4. Post calibration/internal battle: Who a man is/what he desires from women/what he can trade with said women in terms of his autonomy/self-actualization becomes more transparent. This trade is beneficial for him, he has a platform to unite his resolve in stages 1 & 2 and make them work around his desire to have sex with multiple women. Some refinement of values could conflict with few ideas generated and believed in stages 1 through 3. But there will now be hints of harmony. Where man, woman, and nature can co-exist. Rules of the game that the man played and felt were unfair before he arrived to stages 1 and 2 can be now rewritten. He is the only participant and he can only win. Perhaps he doesn’t see women as a threat to his peace and well-being. But as beings he can relate to, be with temporarily, even enjoy the leisure of creating rules that a game is drawn at best no matter by whom or how its played.
5. Morality: Presumably not all men would arrive at this phase. The distinction between men and women ceases to exist. Through his journey he has learned more about life including men and women both. There are men he has befriended and has respect for and a few women who have stood out from the rest. Here he can play a role model to young men that can look up to him. His conscious is about what lies ahead for the next generation, the landscape of the battleground between the sexes, and how he is glad to have arrived here with a few scars along the way.
I believe the future of MGTOW rests on how many men will live through these stages to make an example of unmarried life to those paying attention. The true success would be in its simplicity. Where a young man knows his worth, his place and demands a fair treatment from society. The strength is in the void we create. The echo that makes few variants of the same arguments by the same gender louder and louder. One day they would have heard enough and hopefully will reflect inwards. I truly wish that the next generation will fight a battle different than ours. A battle where men aren’t lost or damaged to fulfill an ideology stemming from hate-filled inventions of feeble minds. Won’t happen in my lifetime.
stopmockingman 4 years, 4 months ago.
