Hey guys, I’m sending this out to get some perspective from some of you who may have been faced with a similar situation at one point in your life and how it turned out.
I just turned 50, single for 18 years, lived/live a pretty simple life, spent some time in the military, married once, two kids (31 and 29), have a profession which I like, but am currently working in a position I don’t like. I’m working with 5 inexperienced women and it’s getting old quickly with only one of them decent-looking so I can’t even look forward to that. There seems to be a vibe in the organization that many are incompetent and I can’t see me staying there any longer. I came to this organization three years ago based on what you’ll read below.
I left a position, in Hawai’i, after being there for 14 years. I left three years ago because my family (Mom, Dad, siblings, kids) were back on the mainland. I thought I was missing something…holidays, weddings, time spent with kids and parents, and just being closer. I’ve been here on the mainland for three years now working in the above-mentioned position and I am a 6-hour drive from family as I live further south than they do in the north. I see all of them on occasion, but not really much more than I did when I was in Hawai’i. When I was in Hawai’i I would come home once a year in the summer and try to visit all of them in a two-week period. The job in Hawai’i is working with three very good and professional people (1 man and 2 married women) who make a great team. I would fly to Las Vegas non-stop every 3-4 months for a weekend trip and I don’t do that as much now living on the East Coast. I would walk to the beach on Sunday mornings, sit there looking out over the water, and talk with family on the phone.
I received an email this week from my old employer that I had first priority in taking my old job back, in Hawai’i, if I wanted it. My old boss would probably try to groom me to take his position in the next two years as he plans to retire. My thoughts are that I would like to go back, enjoy work again, make the trips to Vegas, make more trips to other parts of Asia, make a trip home every six months instead of once a year, bang whores, and enjoy the rest of my days whether it’s in Hawai’i or somewhere else. I plan on retiring in 9 years and if Hawai’i becomes boring then take up residence in Las Vegas and bang whores, gamble, and have a number of great, different restaurants to choose from. What’s clouding my thoughts are going back and feeling I abandoned my family, as I once did, by being 5,000 miles away even though I don’t see them much more often than I did. My Mom and Dad are getting older even though they are relatively healthy and my kids don’t sound like they’re going to have children so the grandchildren thing is not a thing I have to contend with.
I want to live my life and do what I want…isn’t that why we’re all on this site? Have any of you been in a position such as this? Did you have regrets in the way you went?
Also, three years ago I bought a house that I could probably rent fairly easy. Any thoughts on renting versus just selling it? It makes sense to rent if I can profit, but I hate thinking of having to worry about renters busting it up.
Thoughts?
Thanx.
Buller100 2 years, 11 months ago.
