Mother Killing Father

[goadsaidParticipant 100]

Although I do not outright hate my mother or any women for that matter (I treat them like any dangerous, wild out of control animal), I am getting quite angry that my mother is continuing to emotionally terrorize my father into his pre-senior years. She calls him crying with every little piece of paper that she gets in the mail that claims to be a bill or an “obligation” such as car registration, insurance stuff etc. while he is at work and not only compromises his ability to work, but also leaves him red-faced with stress and aggravation.

I know because I work with him.

Then she does it at home to him constantly as well (she raised me and she’s awful) and even follows him on errands so he never gets a breather. He tells me this.

Also, although I have attempted to shove the red pill down his throat so to speak -he doesn’t seem to be able to incorporate it into his daily life.
He watches sandman, thunderfoot, rpp, and some others but goes home and gets the life beat out of him. I think she’s worse than some of you might be imagining and almost certainly has a personality disorder in my opinion. (I have a fairly good gauge of that as well as I spent some time in my early twenties working with crazy people).

I guess the point and question of my post is – are some people just doomed to death by bitch? Sort of the way that an old, slow moose will get killed by a big cat before he would have died by natural causes. He’s too nice of a guy to follow through with anything that needs to be done in regards to her. I have no doubt that he’ll topple over some day after being around her for too long and I can’t get him to do what my brother and I essentially did when we got past the point of “needing” her – which is simply telling her to shut the hell the up and go away.

Is he too old to learn?

[Anonymous 42]

He’s allowed himself to be pounded and shaped into submission under a woman, all the years he should have been shaping her under his manly logic and authority, he’s allowed her to shape and contort him into something unnatural! Under the influence of a woman is a despotic position for a man! Some slaves are to far gone to escape to the freedom of a better life where the man is prime ruler over EVERY aspect of his life, including his woman.
Men consist of three major types; Stallions, Mules, and Donkeys…

[HitmanParticipant]

too bad the old bitch does’nt have an accident or something .maybe you should confront her and tell it like it is ..she’s killing your father with her non stop nagging and it needs to stop .
get dad to go to the doctor and i’m sure at the very least he probably has high blood pressure by now .the doctor will give him a prescription for xanax if you explain his situation..
then at least the poor old man can take a pill and go lay down while you tell mom to LEAVE HIM THE F~~~ ALONE !

[goadsaidParticipant 100]

I’ve told her she’s kiling him many times. She says she can’t help the way she acts. I’ve told her that I can’t help but to call her a crazy bitch and s~~~ty mother in response- she basically has to accept that because of her position/assertion but that doesn’t help my father.

He’s got blood pressure pills and xanax (or maybe valium?) but, ironically, I suspect that she takes them MUCH more than him.

Unfortunately, like mgtower said – he may be too far gone. His brother has essentially compromised his well being taking care of his insane (due to dementia) mother so this may be a familial trait that I am more than happy to break.. I’ve told my mother outright that she would be in a home LONG before I did the same for her in old age- as obviously I wouldn’t.

I’ve actually encouraged him to divorce her as we are well over 18 now but I suspect he would never do that (although I can see he enjoys the fantasy).

All he does is pleads with her to leave him alone. Then she does stop for five minutes. And then starts back in. And then claims she’s sorry for the 100000 time. and stops again briefly. repeat cycle. Just like an “abusive husband” per “Jerry Springer” television.

Ironically she always rounds my brother and I up bright and f~~~in early for things like snow or necessary manual labor (because she doesn’t want him to shovel the sidewalks). I guess only she is allowed to kill him.

[HitmanParticipant]

so sorry to hear that ..looks like the old man has to deal with it ..UNLESS you can have mom comitted to an insane asylum ..i think a doctor has to perform various tests , deem her insane and then your dad would have to sign off on it .
you can call 911 if she really gets out of control , it sucks to do it but maybe she needs a wake up call !
sometimes an army of cops and ems can scare the crap out of someone ..especially if she has a weapon , knife , or has broken things, ( violent ) or said she wants to hurt or kill herself or someone else .

[hollowtipsParticipant 681]

All men who take on female partners are unfortunately subjected to this their entire life. Woman throw stress onto men and that relieves the stress on themselves. Allowing them to live longer healthier lives. Any problem a woman has is also her husbands/boyfriends. Most problems men have they deal with themselves unless they are at a point of desperation or it requires a females perspective.

Woman literally kill men, spiritually, mentally and physically.

Your father won’t be able to change at this point in his life you’re just contributing to his suffering to be honest. He’s raised to believe he is responsible to deal with all her issues without complaint and probably can’t comprehend the concept of MGTOW.

I’m 22 and I’m still wrapping my head around it and realizing that in terms of equality things are considerably in favour of woman.

[experiencedParticipant]

Call and immediately cancel any and all life insurance policies on him. Get a refund of the capital within whole and cancel term life immediately!
Sell to one of those corporations that do this, his total stipend here on out for a lump sum, get it in cash and hide it for him. Ensure that any and all capital that can have her name removed is. Get an attorney, ensure no stone is unturned.
Now, it is set up so that she “wants” him to live.
I’m sorry for thinking the worst of her motives, but when a woman realizes that she will go down the s~~~ter when he is destroyed, they miraculously change their tune. I have seen this first hand. All of a sudden they make the connection, all of a sudden they were that wise all along.
Since you have spent considerable time under the fallout from such s~~~, ascertain that it doesn’t happen to you as well. You’ll have to flip that one over in your mind a few times as oftentimes these pre-fissures do disguise themselves from us.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[goadsaidParticipant 100]

Hitman wrote:

you can call 911 if she really gets out of control , it sucks to do it but maybe she needs a wake up call !
sometimes an army of cops and ems can scare the crap out of someone ..especially if she has a weapon

I do agree that she needs a wake up call (every 3 months or so because she always forgets her last one). I’ve given her “wake up calls” a few times in the past when I was “out of control” with anger towards her because fear is all she understands. Her craziness actually molded me into quite the actor – I was never actually “out of control” and have never felt that way tbh. The only problem with cops is they are so pro-bitch that they would probably shoot him after she calmed down “miraculously” and made some bs up which she is known to do. You do have the right idea about her level of volatility though – judging by your suggestion.

hollowtips wrote:

All men who take on female partners are unfortunately subjected to this their entire life.

Ohh. I don’t think they all go through this. This is a special “bitches gone wild”
put me out of my misery and duck the flying flower vases kind of crazy. Then combine that with the normal “dull” manipulation and “calm” craziness in between.

experienced wrote:

I’m sorry for thinking the worst of her motives, but when a woman realizes that she will go down the s~~~ter when he is destroyed, they miraculously change their tune.

Yeah there is certainly a level of that as always I’m sure. She tends to “pucker up” when s~~~ is real for her. She’s too incompetent to handle anything on her own (like, seriously, decent grocery shopping or car inspections) so I don’t think she wants him dead but just on the brink and in constant turmoil (and therefore domestic confusion).

(She actually shows him how “fiscally responsible” she is by going to the grocery store and buying the smallest quantities of groceries possible to the point where it was a completely wasted trip because 1 apple and 1 quart of milk and 1 box of granola bars wouldn’t keep one person fed for a day. He’s told her it’s stupid – same result.)

Also, he is a lawyer and a pretty damn smart one at that. He had mgtow philosophy in him decades ago because of what unfolds in the courtroom actually. He actually essentially has stated before that he didn’t dump her on her ass years ago because he knew she’d get custody and drive us completely bats~~~.

That is essentially part of the reason that I’d like to help him and, at the very least, convince him to put the bitch in her place on a daily basis. It’s like he has the knowledge but lost the mojo to put it into action.

Did anyone else grow up with this insane of a bitch? I never put this kind of stuff out there because the mgtow shamers will go straight to “mommy issues” and that’s not the way we want it obviously. But now I’m saying, damn right “mommy issue.” She’s a completely destructive force. If birds were pecking at my eyes daily I would have “bird issues.”

The fact that someone else recognizes a problem of yours and states it is supposed to make one deny the problem? You wouldn’t say “oh cancer issues” in order to make a cancer patient say… “no. not cancer issues. Stop trying to shame. I just get chemo in case I get cancer. You don’t know anything.”

Maybe some of us have “mommy issues” because our mothers suck.

[narwhalParticipant]

That situation isn’t going to change until either she no longer wants to behave that way (which she won’t) or there are actual negative consequences to her behavior. Your favor lets her treat him that way, which only reinforces the behavior. He will need to establish boundaries, negative consequences to her behavior. Of course that doesn’t come without risk to him. He is likely afraid of being alone, or the possibility that she would get worse. All real possibilities. So he choses the devil he knows vs the devil he doesn’t know.

My parents situation was different, but they did not get along, and did not ever make changes. I suspect a lot of that was fear of being alone, divorce, and how it would effect me and my siblings. So they settled for the devil they knew.

Ok. Then do it.

[AttonParticipant]

He will either learn or drive himself into the ground.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

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