Mother is slowly killing my dog

[Wandering MGHOWParticipant 551]

My best friend in the whole entire world is being slowly killed by my Mother’s ignorance. She feeds him constantly throughout the day and is too deluded to see how wrong she is. He is a friendly dog but it breaks my heart to see such an athletic dog have fat rolls hanging from his chest and thighs. At one point in time when we first got him, he was chiseled and athletic. Nowadays he just seems to be getting fatter and fatter. The problem is my mom “takes care” of him when I’m away at work each day. She feeds him a 3rd meal (dogs should only get 2) around afternoon time as well as numerous treats (for doing nothing) throughout the day. This is only what I KNOW OF and it makes me cringe to even wonder what goes on behind my back.

Aside from overfeeding him, she also feeds him table/human food. Chicken, cold cuts, eggs, you name it. I’ve even seen whipped cream. My dog never complains obviously and just eats what is given to him. This has led to countless arguments between me and my mom but any attempts to tell her that she is wrong have been complete wastes of time. To put it simply, she will NOT listen and NOT stop. My mom has had health issues in the past and has been notified by her doctor to stop eating certain foods, and yet she STILL does it. So as you can see, “talking” to her is simply not an option. Quite frankly, I’m done wasting my time and breath. She is probably the most thick headed person I’ve ever met in my life and it is absolutely infuriating trying to get her to stick to a task. She will say yes on a Monday, then go right back into her old ways on Tuesday.

To combat this, I’ve tried to walk my dog longer in hopes of getting him to lose weight. I’ve increased the duration of the walks, the frequency of the walks, and added extra play time at the park. Its incredibly unfair and hard on me to be walking my dog for 1+ hour a day since I have other s~~~ to do. But I love him so much that I make time for it, even in rain, sleet, or snow. I have yet to see any good results and I feel like its a war that I’m losing. At the end of the day, c~~~s, manginas, and SJW’s will tell me to exercise him more. To be honest though, I could walk him from here to the moon but the bottom line is that his caloric intake will ALWAYS beat out the calories we burn from walks. I feel like even with all the walks, I’m still only breaking even/maintaining his weight. BARELY.

Aside from his poor diet, the timing of his meals is completely f~~~ed. Sometimes he will eat lunch at 2pm, then “dinner” at 5pm, then go 14+ hours before breakfast time. His bathroom schedule is also f~~~ed. There are times when I come home from work and walk him and he will start s~~~ting on the floor within 30 seconds of stepping outside. Its painfully obvious that she hadn’t let him out for hours. I am pretty certain his life span will be shortened by this over-eating and poor health and it breaks my heart because he’s the best friend/son that I have. I truly mean it. He means everything to me but no matter how loud I yell, how many treats I hide in the closet, or how many times I put my fist through a wall, my delusional mom will still feed him. As they say, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks (no pun intended), and my mom has always been and will ALWAYS be a hard headed c~~~. The sad part is that she actually means well and is not a bad person. She actually loves the dog and is just trying to be nice to him. The thing is however, she is just a completely stupid, delusional, undisciplined, and ignorant excuse for a “parent” (and human).

Sometimes I cringe when I see some of her actions towards the dog and I ask myself “THIS is the woman that raised ME? Its a scary thought, but that’s a whole different topic.

Are there any suggestions on what I can do? Moving out is not an option because of my job location and also lack of finances. I simply can’t afford it. Me and my poor dog are both stuck here it seems. I’m so heart broken that he will have to die one day because of all of this. He’s just an innocent dog and doesn’t know right from wrong. I’m actually infuriated just writing this and my hands are shaking right now. This has been an ongoing issue for over a year and I’m tired of wasting my breath pleading with her to stick to a certain diet plan/time. Its a waste of time. This is the only place I can vent and ask for advice.

[CaliParticipant 753]

Man, I hate to hear stuff like this. Were I in your shoes, I would try and figure out a way to get the dog away from your mom. I’m lucky in that my mom takes care of our dog well (we all love him).

If your mom complains or gets angry, you can always give her an ultimatum: either she listens to you and actually takes care of the dog, or she doesn’t get to see the dog again for a long while. Tell her you want to keep him alive, and in order to do that, he needs to leave.

If you can find someone to take care of the dog and let you come over regularly to play with him, it would be best for him. True love is doing what is best for the creature you love, no matter what. You don’t have to never see him again.

If you want to find a person to give the dog to, might I suggest going to a small church or someplace where they will welcome you no matter what. Get to know some people and try to find someone who would be willing to take care of the dog and let you come over. Sure, they’ll probably try to convert you, but just be polite and gentle, and they’ll likely take care of your dog for awhile at least.

Just an idea.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

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[FuckMeSpectator 215]

Are there any suggestions? Yes there are a few…you put a lot into the post so I will go easy on you OK. You stated moving out is not an option because of your job location and finances, you and your poor dog are stuck here it seems. The difference between successful people and the ones who can’t seem to get it together is that successful people know how and when to end things the right way, if something does not work they end it and move on, no matter the sacrifice or discomfort. So, man the f~~~ up and MOVE OUT of Mommy’s house!! Call me a f~~~ing mangina, a c~~~, a f~~~ing RETARD and I don’t give a S~~~ OK?? Stop sounding like a pathetic coward and MAN the f~~~ up, grow a pair and MOVE OUT and take care of your own dog or give it away to someone who will. The problem is NOT your mom or your dog or your job, the problem is between your ears and THAT IS something YOU can do something about!! If YOU choose to live under the roof of a woman then YOU MUST deal with the consequences of YOUR actions, be it your mom, wife, girl friend, or the queen of f~~~ing England!! Hope this helps, have a great day and be well…Bubba Zanetti 🙂

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[globemasterParticipant 443]

I can understand your situation. My friend is exactly in your situation. Old age women become like this, apart from spoiling the dog she also keeps home untidy and inefficient.

Living with moms is a different kind of pain, they get psychological problems which makes them to be stubborn and crazy. Thats why men suffer at old age because of their wives.

solution,

1.Make her understand by telling calmly how things affect the dog. Never use words like”you are doing it wrong” ”your are making mistake” type of sentences.

Telling outright that she is wrong will make the situation worse.

tell lies that your friends dog died because they fed like this etc.

2. Avoid speaking to her if you get into a fight and stay like that for a few days. Speak only if necessary, old age people will be scared inside of loneliess, so will find it painful and scaring.

3. Move away , but your mom’s health will be affected.

[guiParticipant 825]

I suggest you find a friend that likes dogs and knows how to properly take care of them and give him your dog.

Or you could try moving out with a friend to share expenses and take your dog with you.

That’s all I can think about. I am sorry, I know how it is to have a stubborn mother.

Pity and contempt are siblings. You only feel pity for those you consider weak.

[OldBillParticipant]

Wandering MGHOW wrote:

Are there any suggestions on what I can do?

Move out.

Moving out is not an option because of my job location and also lack of finances. I simply can’t afford it.

That’s an excuse, not a reason. If you actually wanted to move out you would find a way to do it.

Me and my poor dog are both stuck here it seems.

Only because you’ve given up.

I’m so heart broken that he will have to die one day because of all of this. He’s just an innocent dog and doesn’t know right from wrong. I’m actually infuriated just writing this and my hands are shaking right now.

Yadda yadda yadda, blah blah blah, yakkity smakkity.

He’s dying slowly and you’re doing nothing but expressing your “fee fees”.

Its a waste of time.

Yes, your post and this thread are a waste of time.

This is the only place I can vent and ask for advice.

You’re venting, but you’re not here for any advice because you preemptively turned down the only advice that will work: Moving out.

You’re here for a pity party, not advice.

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[mgtow_85Participant 752]

Old Bill is right. Your mom is poisoning your dog literally with food that is not good for it, and you won’t even try to remove the problem by ditching your mom and moving the f~~~ out.
Oh, you can’t afford it??? You can rent a private room for less than $400 a month. Something I did when I was still working at a job that paid $5.15 an hour. I wouldn’t tell you to try having your own apartment like what I have, but if you don’t have the funds for a private room at least, and you somehow manage to own your own car and some top-fly bulls~~~, then you’re pretty f~~~ed in the head and you won’t ever change…or move out for that matter.
Your mom is the problem. And so is your dog. But you just sit there and let it happen every day without making solutions to get Man’s Best Friend out of that f~~~ing life because you prefer the way things are for yourself. When we offer solutions and advice, you f~~~ing shoot it down, because Dearest Mommy is your highest priority, and you can’t replace her like you can a dog.

Get a grip.

[HitmanParticipant]

You have to take the dog and leave. .time to move out.
Truth will set you free and save your dog.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

OldBill wrote:

Wandering MGHOW wrote:

Are there any suggestions on what I can do?

Move out.

Moving out is not an option because of my job location and also lack of finances. I simply can’t afford it.

That’s an excuse, not a reason. If you actually wanted to move out you would find a way to do it.

Me and my poor dog are both stuck here it seems.

Only because you’ve given up.

I’m so heart broken that he will have to die one day because of all of this. He’s just an innocent dog and doesn’t know right from wrong. I’m actually infuriated just writing this and my hands are shaking right now.

Yadda yadda yadda, blah blah blah, yakkity smakkity.

He’s dying slowly and you’re doing nothing but expressing your “fee fees”.

Its a waste of time.

Yes, your post and this thread are a waste of time.

This is the only place I can vent and ask for advice.

You’re venting, but you’re not here for any advice because you preemptively turned down the only advice that will work: Moving out.

You’re here for a pity party, not advice.

That is why I am grateful to have MGTOW.com. OldBill’s advice might seem harsh, brutal , honest. Sometimes we need a shoulder to cry on and sometimes we need a kick in the ass.

You love your dog. I know the love of a fur buddy. Then do what you got to do for him. Make it happen.

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[FrankyParticipant 2338]

Let the neighbor take care of the dog while you’re at work.
Or a friend of yours.
Or find a way to lock the dog away from your mother where she can’t reach.
Or just move out.

I’m empty.If i have other ideas i’ll share.

[Dez82Participant 107]

I’m sorry to read that. She doesn’t grasp how much damage she’s doing to your dog.
Like other suggested find some neighbors/friends who can take care of your dog while you’re away. Otherwise, as last option and even if it’s a bit sad and expensive, you can leave your dog in a kennel while you work and then take him back when you go back home. I’m talking about nice kennel, possibly with a box (not a crate) for your dog only. It also has vets that can help your dog to detoxify. I repeat it’s sad (and I don’t know if it’s possible) but if the alternative is a slow death by your mother I think you may consider this option.

[Anonymous 11]

She’s killing it with kindness.

I once had to chastise a female neighbor for feeding my dog unauthorized. I was the one cleaning up fetid diarrhea at 2AM caused by some spoiled pork she fed her. I found a shank bone with greenish tinged meat on it. The woman got offended too.

You’d be surprised how little amount of food a dog or cat actually needs. I kept my Labrador at her perfect weight by giving her exactly what her food’s instructions indicated. They’ve got scientists that study it so I figure they probably know more than a dog or me.

I see so many obese animals dogs, cats, and people too.

[Symmetric MGTOWParticipant 570]

Thanks to this thread and went and checked on my cat. I have been overfeeding him a bit and has gained a bit of weight (nothing too crazy though). So I went to Amazon and ordered a scoop to measure precisely the correct amount of food he should get on a daily basis.

Good stuff.

Also, man, you need to get out of that house. For your dog’s sake and your own.

[Wandering MGHOWParticipant 551]

Wow. So I was away for a few days and couldn’t respond until now. I’ll make this a quick one.

1.) I appreciate the suggestions and appreciate the harsh words and kick in the ass from some of you.
2.) Its partly my fault that I didn’t give ALL the details (I will now), so I can’t blame you for being too harsh.
3.) Dog is a pit bull, which means NO apartments will accept him. So f~~~ off and get off your high horse.
4.) I live in the most expensive city in the country. So “move out” is a little easier said than done. So f~~~ off and get off your high horse.
5.) If I was theoretically able to find an affordable apartment that WOULD accept the dog (impossible), It would only bury me into a financial hole and delay moving into a place that I own by several years potentially.
6.) I should have included these details originally, but now that you know them, do you see how much more difficult my situation is?
7.) Any questions?

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