Mother is Getting Married Again…

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

My parents split in 2009 after my mother cheated on my dad and he couldn’t get past it.  My mother tried to make it out to be that my dad was cheating on her and as an idiot then I believed her.

My mother then married a pretty decent guy in 2012, a guy that I got along with quite well.  He couldn’t deal with her anger issues (she tends to get very verbally abusive and, if enraged enough, physically) and when he’d try to put a stop to her rages, she called abuse on him.  He did admittedly do some things to purposefully make her angry, while he also did some things to take it out on her anger issues…as a way to “teach her a lesson,” if you will.  She tried downing an entire bottle of pills and said “no one cared about her and the only person that mattered was [my nephew].”  They divorced last year.

Now, in an awkward turn of events, my mother announced a couple of months ago that she was getting married to another guy.  Why is it awkward?  Well, if anyone remembers my life stories, they know about a woman that left me for another woman and lied through many things to get her way.  It’s her former stepdad.  Her mother left him for another man around in 2012.

I won’t be related to my ex, but I’ll be related to her attractive half-sister!

My mother just now texts me and says “we’re getting hitched at the courthouse at 2 PM if you want to come.  Dinner tonight!”

I honestly don’t know how to feel about this completely.  My ex’s former stepdad is actually one of the kindest guys you can meet.  I hope she doesn’t lash out at him like she did the previous guy.  All I know is if I go, I’ll be seeing my ex again (she’s stayed in close contact with the guy my mom’s marrying, and is in fact the one that essentially hooked them up together).  I’ve seen her more recently after the breakup already, but this just makes everything weird to me.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Wow…

Personally, I wouldn’t want anything to do with any of that/them, too much history/baggage/drama.

Hopefully, you have a good relationship with your dad?

[MonkeyKingEnma21Participant 156]

Honestly, if i was in your shoes (my mom being similar yet different to yours) I would try to give the man (you Ex’s step dad) a red pill and warn him. I know it’s your mother but if you were in his position you’d want to be told in advance as well.

Obviously this may not be the best option and there may be other things you could do, however i wouldn’t let a man marry a snake even if that snake is my mother.
(If my mother ever announced she was getting married i would straight up tell the man exactly what kind of person she is, it would be the compassionate thing to do)

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

she’s not going to change for the new guy.  F~~~ the half-sister.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Anonymous 1]

Well, if that makes anything better, your mother is making more for Mgtow than anyone else here could ever do.

No offense.

I have abusive family members as well (not my mother, although I don’t agree with all her decisions), and instead of trying to change them I just cut relations. I don’t have time/patience to lecture anybody how to live their lives. I already have a full plate trying to lead my life avoiding any pitfalls. So, if I could suggest, I would say, go your own way, even regarding your mother. Don’t be rude or anything, but accept the fact that she is a grown woman and her decisions are hers to take, and there is nothing you can do about them. The same way SHE can’t do anything about YOUR decisions in life.

So, in a nutshell, if this whole situation makes you feel weird or bad, avoid it. Let them do whatever they want, there is nothing YOU can do, and if s~~~ hits the fan, like it seems it will, you better stay clear from the falloff.

That’s my take on it anyway.

Cheers.

[MrDextroParticipant 111]

Dang Chris, tough call! it’s easy for me to sit here and type, “just go, and act indifferent around your ex”, I don’t know man…if I was in the situation I would show to basically  say hi…and bye; after the vows have been exchanged.

[UptownjesusParticipant 95]

Unfortunately, even our Moms are adopting this attitude of “I’m a woman, and my needs come first.” (No disrespect intended.) It all sounds kind of f~~~ed up to me. Fortunately, your life is yours now. This doesn’t mean women are going to stop imposing their whiny, selfish female bulls~~~ on you. They’re always going to do that s~~~. All it means is that you realize you don’t have to accept that burden anymore. If the new guy wants to be a pawn in these bitches’ sadistic little game, that sucks for him. But it don’t suck for Chris, because Chris is going his own way.

#pancaketittyshaming

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Haha!  You guys rule.

I was invited to a dinner tonight with my mother and the new guy…and my ex and her boyfriend attended as well.  Sitting across the table from the ex was quite strange.  The guy she’s with actually seems cool enough.  He’s a lot like me in MANY ways.  I’m a sarcastic guy like him, and anytime I’d bring up a geeky joke that I thought no one would get, he got the joke…every time.  I think it’s funny how my ex left me for a woman, and her now-ex-girlfriend left HER for another woman, and so she went back to another guy that’s a lot like me.

I think I talked more with the ex’s boyfriend than I talked to her.  Her mannerisms were exactly how she would be to me.  I’d crack a joke and she’d look at me like something was wrong with me or that I said something “inappropriate.”  When I started acting like I didn’t care, she’d lay her head on me and would try indiscreetly pushing her cleavage out as much as she could and make a pouty face to get me to “get over” her attempted controlling.  She was doing these exact things to him.

Only funny thing is she kinda blew up since I last saw her a year and a half ago.  Her attractive half-sister didn’t show up, unfortunately.

I know some may wonder why I even went in the first place.

It was Landry’s.  I’m a sucker for seafood, and I didn’t have to say much at the table at all in the first place.  I just enjoyed my Kraken punch and coastal seafood pasta, all while laughing to myself about how I know how the woman sitting across from me really was, and how my mother could potentially be.  I try not to mean any disrespect to my mother, but cheating and abuse are two things I’ve consistently had in just about every relationship I’ve had…and you know what they say about how you “date your mom.”

[BDParticipant 1146]

Uptownjesus wrote:

Unfortunately, even our Moms are adopting this attitude of “I’m a woman, and my needs come first.” (No disrespect intended.) It all sounds kind of f~~~ed up to me. Fortunately, your life is yours now. This doesn’t mean women are going to stop imposing their whiny, selfish female bulls~~~ on you. They’re always going to do that s~~~. All it means is that you realize you don’t have to accept that burden anymore. If the new guy wants to be a pawn in these bitches’ sadistic little game, that sucks for him. But it don’t suck for Chris, because Chris is going his own way.

Oh god, why did you attend this dinner? I wouldn’t, not a chance. 

Governor Megachris% wrote:

I was invited to a dinner tonight with my mother and the new guy

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Was worth the good food and because I’m a troll like that.  I like showing up places where it’s awkward for others.  Makes me laugh.  I didn’t feel too awkward at the dinner, but I know I made the ex feel awkward by talking to her boyfriend, that’s for sure.  I could have been a lot worse, but I restrained.

[d-fensParticipant 18]

Wow, just wow. I guess my choice would be to get my own life as fast as possible and cut your so called “family” loose. Everything i read from you so far sounds as if your people environment has been damaging your psyche from the start and this latest issue just sounds totally dysfunctional and asocial (in the original meaning of the word). It seems to me your family is detrimental to your development, get some distance, or they will drag you down with them. I don’t know much about you, but maybe find a job in some place far away, start a new life whatever. I would not want to deal with this kind of s~~~ you post about.

[EscapedMentalPatientParticipant 1489]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

My parents split in 2009 after my mother cheated on my dad and he couldn’t get past it. My mother tried to make it out to be that my dad was cheating on her and as an idiot then I believed her. My mother then married a pretty decent guy in 2012, a guy that I got along with quite well. He couldn’t deal with her anger issues (she tends to get very verbally abusive and, if enraged enough, physically) and when he’d try to put a stop to her rages, she called abuse on him. He did admittedly do some things to purposefully make her angry, while he also did some things to take it out on her anger issues…as a way to “teach her a lesson,” if you will. She tried downing an entire bottle of pills and said “no one cared about her and the only person that mattered was [my nephew].” They divorced last year. Now, in an awkward turn of events, my mother announced a couple of months ago that she was getting married to another guy. Why is it awkward? Well, if anyone remembers my life stories, they know about a woman that left me for another woman and lied through many things to get her way. It’s her former stepdad. Her mother left him for another man around in 2012. I won’t be related to my ex, but I’ll be related to her attractive half-sister! My mother just now texts me and says “we’re getting hitched at the courthouse at 2 PM if you want to come. Dinner tonight!” I honestly don’t know how to feel about this completely. My ex’s former stepdad is actually one of the kindest guys you can meet. I hope she doesn’t lash out at him like she did the previous guy. All I know is if I go, I’ll be seeing my ex again (she’s stayed in close contact with the guy my mom’s marrying, and is in fact the one that essentially hooked them up together). I’ve seen her more recently after the breakup already, but this just makes everything weird to me.

Just reading this makes me want to get hammered.

Governor Megachris% wrote:

I’ve seen her more recently after the breakup already, but this just makes everything weird to me.

Unimaginably.  As other guys are saying here: “Wow.  Just wow.”

I really hope that you are able to control some of your family visits.  I don’t know of your living circumstances, but distance from this s~~~ is imperative.  I hope that if you wish to see your mother, it will be entirely on your terms, at your place, with no one else present upon your insistence; so there can be no magical “oooooooohhhh look who just accidentally showed up” bulls~~~.

I think trying to work through any of this logically as a group would be entirely to your detriment from the start.  I sure wish you luck with this, MegaChris.  What a hard situation man.

 

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I helped them move into the new house over the weekend (they paid me pretty danged well to do so), and I already got a taste of what that marriage will be like.  He’s a VERY passive guy.  Even during his previous divorce with my ex’s mother, he showed no anger and was shamed for having “Asperger’s Syndrome because he virtually has no emotion and he’s boring.”  My mother says how great and kind of a guy he is, but when HE wants things done HIS way at the house HE paid for, I can see her show signs of annoyance ALREADY.  She’ll have that look in her eye like a teenage girl’s first crush (you know, that sparkling-eye look where they bat their eyelashes), but then her angry mood kicks in and I can see her other side slightly show.

She tried introducing me to the ex’s attractive half-sister, even though we already know each other anyway.  Seeing HER (literally, not necessarily socializing with her) was honestly a bonus to the pay.  Heheh.

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