Mother found out I was a MGTOW, handling it?

[OracleSummonParticipant 179]

I have been trying to keep being a MGTOW under wraps, but my Mother looked over my computer as I was responding to forums.

Now the question is, what is the best way to handle the coming backlash I am going to get for having being found out? There is no doubt that news of me being MGTOW will spread.

Thanks for your time and answers, guys.

Edit: My mother also believes it is a cult. And that I hate women, when neither of those are true.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10909]

Try to explain what MGTOW is and why you are associated with it. That’s all you can do whether you are explaining to your mom or other family members and/or friends.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

Just nod your head, say, “Uh huh…”, and keep driving on.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

OracleSummon wrote:

I have been trying to keep being a MGTOW under wraps

I understand that completely, but I will ask you anyway…..

WHY?

MGTOW is right and true. It is about the only thing right and true.

3 days ago, I told my own Mother and showed her the site for the first time. I started with the “Happily Ever After” trailer , she loved it, and laughed through the whole thing.

I think anyone who would have a problem with MGTOW doesn’t get to have a problem with it anymore and they will either run screaming from it because it’s right and true, or hug their own computers – like new member VerityPhantom did when he said “I AM HOME!!!”

That’s who we exist for. Not my mother and definitely not her approval. I already did plenty other things she can approve of. But my Mom is very awake and sensible.

There are too many men out there who can be in the same room with their own mother, and still not feel like they are “home”. So there.

OracleSummon wrote:

My mother also believes it is a cult.

Why don’t you start there and laugh at her??

“Mom, If you have any questions, you may ask. A cult would tell me what to do, what to think, what to wear and what to drink. And I would have to comply. But I don’t have to comply and that’s why it’s called MEN GOING THEIR OWN WAY. It’s not a cult right in the title. Any other questions?”

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

Make no apology, be who, and what you want to be! It’s “your life”, live it the way that fits “you” best!
If that means they can’t understand why you refuse to jump into the gynocentric meat grinder, then so be it!
If you’re not the master of your life, someone else is…

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Your life, no one else’s.

I found out my “secret to happiness” was living a life according to my needs, wants & values. Yours will be different from your parents’, and that scares them; some people like having control over someone else.

[EinherjarParticipant 608]

It is always a challenge when your parents find out things about you which they do not understand. They act irrational and claim you for being things more extreme than the previous one. I know it well.

Let me give you an example: When my mother found out I was drinking protein-shakes when I started working out (when I was 17), she accused me of using steroids. Yes, she actually though, quite sincerely, that drinking consentrated proteins was a form of drug! And no matter how much I told her about it, no matter how many websites I showed her, she still thought of it as something bad, and that I was on “the wrong path”. It was only when it became common in the public eye, that she dropped her claims.

MGTOW is exactly the same as protein-shakes used to be in the eyes of parents: it is (for the moment) not common in the public eye, and it is something they have never heard of before, despite it having existed for thousands of years. You will most likely, and unfortunatly, have little success in telling her what it is. She may already have decided what she thinks it is, no matter how much effort you put in explaining it.

A mothers greatest wish is always to become a grandmother. This is most likely the reason as to why she is giving you a hard time. But you can use this to you advantage. Simply by telling her that you will not be ruled by women (which is obvious), but that does not necesarily mean you will never have children. Such a statement might put her at ease…at least until MGTOW become more widely known.

Cheers brother, and the best of luck to you!

The worst form of inequality is to try to make unequal things equal - Aristotle (384 - 322 BC)

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Just tell her upfront you see through the lies of modern women. You will not get a girlfriend, you will not get married. Women are not entitled to your time and money. You live your life for yourself.

I don’t know your mom, either she’s cool with it or tries to laugh it off, shame you or tries to force you to reconsider, maybe by ordering your dad to do so (once again, I don’t know your parents, he might be awesome, he might be a bluepill mangina)… stand up to them, but don’t be rude about it. Calmly tell them how you feel and that’s final.

They can’t deal with that? Tough. It’s not your obligation to please your parents. You go your own way.

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Einherjar wrote:

When my mother found out I was drinking protein-shakes when I started working out (when I was 17), she accused me of using steroids. Yes, she actually though, quite sincerely, that drinking consentrated proteins was a form of drug! And no matter how much I told her about it, no matter how many websites I showed her, she still thought of it as something bad, and that I was on “the wrong path”. It was only when it became common in the public eye, that she dropped her claims.

Moms have a problem with EVERYTHING their sons do. Riding skateboards. Motorbikes. Staying out late. Going out by yourself. Working out with extra protein…. my own mom actually calls me on a Saturday at 4PM and expects me to be home. “What do you mean you were out???”

Don’t forget, you’re mom’s a woman. Nothing you will do will please her unless it’s some vaginized bulls~~~. She’s gonna have a problem with f~~~ing EVERYTHING.

Tell your mother you want to be an astronaut and she will try to talk you out of it and tell you it can’t be done. Listen to a woman is the worst thing any man ever did.

Einherjar wrote:

she dropped her claims.

She didn’t even have any business MAKING the claims.

Women will even make untrue s~~~ up in their heads, just to PRETEND they know better. And your Mom is no different. “Don’t crack your knuckles it will give you arthritis!”…. or “Don’t play with that, you’ll go blind!” which is all nonsense, and is her telling you to hold your wad for another woman so you can knock her up and pay for it for the rest of your life.

Your mom tells you that crap about steroids because she doesn’t want you banging lots of chicks. Because when you bang longs of chicks, you find out they aren’t really worth it. It just goes on forever.

My Mom still tells me I dry my hands with the wrong towel – when I visit.
Imagine you’re a fully adult male…… living across the country…. taking your well-earned vacation time to pay for airfare ….. to fly and visit her on your time off… to be told you dry your f~~~ing hands with the wrong towel.

It’s times like that when death can’t come soon enough.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[HitmanParticipant]

Two thumbs up for key master! O.k. Two thumbs up for all you guys!
Mom,s are women.
Women are emotional.
Emotions are not facts.
Your mom wants you to be happy. her definition of happiness is way different from yours. .let her know that kid’s would be great with the right woman (lie a little, it won’t kill you )..tell her that one day she’ll be a grandmother. .to be patient. .One day she will die. Until then, I would bend the truth to spare her. .my mom is very old..if yours is too LIE.if she’s not elderly then tell her the truth!
My 2 cents..

[CaliParticipant 753]

Tell her that you will just “know” when the right woman appears. Tell her you haven’t drunk the MGTOW kool-aid. Tell her anything you have to in order to keep the friction to a minimum.

My personal plan is to move out of state for college and become as independent as I can as quickly as I can. My mom still doesn’t know, yet…

I’ve discovered that it is NEVER a good idea to ever try to discuss an emotional subject with anyone who has ANY power over you, especially mom. I love my mom, but she is deluded if she thinks she is a safe person to talk to.

Just a misogynist virgin hiding away in his mother's basement. Nothing to see here...

[Honorable_Juice_BoxParticipant 591]

While I agree that it is good to be truthful about how you feel about the topic, it can be better to not be so upfront about it as well.

Since it sounds that you live with your parents, being honest could cause more headaches than anything else. If you were living separately that would be another story.

[EinherjarParticipant 608]

Keymaster wrote:

Nothing you will do will please her unless it’s some vaginized bulls~~~. She’s gonna have a problem with f~~~ing EVERYTHING.

That is exactly true! No matter what you do it is always some negative thing that must be pointed out. In many ways, that kind of overruling may hold back a son in fulfilling what he needs to do. It does not matter if the son is aspiring to do something noble (in a womans eyes), there will always be some kind of doubt given to you by your mother. “You will never be able to…” or “That is not something you should do” etc, the list continues.

To be able to free yourself from what your mother thinks you can and cannot do is imperative to achieving what you want in life. She is, and will always try to hold you back from things that might just (ever so slightly) jeopardize your chances of having children and a family of your own.

The biggest test for any MGHOW, I recokon, is to free yourself from the grasp of your own mother, so that it is you and only you, that dictates what kind of path your life will take!

The worst form of inequality is to try to make unequal things equal - Aristotle (384 - 322 BC)

[OracleSummonParticipant 179]

Hitman wrote:

..tell her that one day she’ll be a grandmother. .to be patient. .

She already is a grandmother because of my older brother having his own kid. She just associates MGTOW with how I do not like to talk to her when she gets angry. Just two days ago she was yelling at me and I decided to walk off not wanting to be around her, then she flips out when I ignore her because I do not like talking to angry people who refuse to have a conversation.

I tried to explain what MGTOW is to her, but she is not hearing it, believing that is a cult of some sort and believes it is the reason I am acting the way I am. When the truth is, I just get tired of her being angry and refuse to talk to her that way.

She states that I need therapeutic help and is refusing to listen to what I have to say.

@keymaster I keep it under wraps because it is best to keep it secret than having to explain it. There is also the chance that anybody who knows me will never shut up about it. It will not stop me from being a MGTOW, but it will get annoying.

[CaliParticipant 753]

OracleSummon wrote:

She just associates MGTOW with how I do not like to talk to her when she gets angry. Just two days ago she was yelling at me and I decided to walk off not wanting to be around her, then she flips out when I ignore her because I do not like talking to angry people who refuse to have a conversation.

I tried to explain what MGTOW is to her, but she is not hearing it, believing that is a cult of some sort and believes it is the reason I am acting the way I am. When the truth is, I just get tired of her being angry and refuse to talk to her that way.

Yeah. I tried that with my parents once. It didn’t work. They got all up in my business about “disrespecting them”. I personally am of the opinion that it is much more disrespectful to yell at someone, but hey! As long as I live in their house, they get to make the rules. If I don’t like it, I should leave. The only reason I haven’t is because in my case it’s not that bad (neither parent really gets that angry at me anymore), and because I don’t want to live in a homeless shelter.

OracleSummon wrote:

She states that I need therapeutic help and is refusing to listen to what I have to say.

Be careful about that. She will likely choose a biased female therapist. While I happen to know at least two decent female therapists, red-pill wisdom would say that you should avoid a female therapist at all costs.

Just a misogynist virgin hiding away in his mother's basement. Nothing to see here...

[AscendedParticipant 698]

Keep your red pills close and your information closer (meaning more private, pretend you aren’t a part of it anymore or think of some diversion).

Often it’s better to give people to hear what they want to hear.

"We are free to follow our own path. There are those who will take that freedom from us, and too many of you gladly give it. But it is our ability to choose – whatever you think is true – that makes us human. There is no book or teacher to give you the answers, to show you the path. Choose your own way! Do not follow me, or anyone else."

[the roadParticipant 3125]

Move the hell out! That’s what I did back in the day. I was pretty old to still be living at home. I just turned 21 and my parents would give me s~~~ about being out late sometimes. I was of bar age and wanted to get around and there was no way they (especially my mother) were going to stop me from having my freedom. So I moved the f~~~ out. It’s hard to go your own way when you rely on someone else.

Get a cheap studio or get a roommate.

#MANOUT

[OracleSummonParticipant 179]

Thanks for the support and info guys.

Do not worry, even if she tries to send me to see a Female Therapist, or anyone in that matter, I will still hold on to my Red Pills till death.

Though as of yet, it does not seem that she will try to get me to see a Therapist. She may do it in the future, but I will be prepared when the time comes.

[Anonymous 3]

Hello,
Yes, move out. It’s your life. And no one should know what you are doing on internet! Set your browser to always start in private browsing. (I do that even if only me using my computers, I don’t want cookies & history to compromise me to anyone.)

Yes, mothers are like this. Mine too. Eating high dosage vitamins and proteins and it was hard to explain that it is not drug, and protein shake is basically the same thing as fried chicken. And she told me to go swimming like in my childhood, but I don’t like that and cold water any more, I prefer workout and long bike rides. stuff changes but mothers don’t accept.

My mother keeps asking whether I have a girl around me, and I just keep telling that i focus on my career, which is actually true. I don’t tell the concept of mgtow, because her generation is very different from today’s women. Life experience and thoughts are different.

[Anonymous 3]

OracleSummon wrote:

Do not worry, even if she tries to send me to see a Female Therapist, or anyone in that matter, I will still hold on to my Red Pills till death.

What is “send you to see a therapist”? you are adult, no one should tell you what to do. Just get your life on track and move out, no stupid bulls~~~ after that.

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