Lately when I’ve been walking to the gym I’ve pondered on exactly why I have chosen to go in the MGTOW direction and what to write in this introduction. There are too many reasons to list but I believe almost everyone stem from some sort of conflict. Most of my life i have based my value on female approval. The value of me as a man have been valued from my ability to attract and please women. In hindsight it is a pretty terrible way to live life and makes one extremly dependent on women, and even worse, makes you feel horrible when not being able to attract women or if they disprove of something you do. The second part of this is the mixed signals given to men on how to be valuable in womens eyes. It’s the contradictions like being a manly man and a sensitive man – where every situation should be fine tuned to perfectly fit. The insanity trying o make sense of this will leave most men immobilized and most blind to the reality that they can choose to set their value as a man on something else then being able to attract women.
Another part is the cynical way men are used by women. They fulfill different roles. Every man would like to be the person that women fall in love with and have sex with. But men are put into different categories depending on their function. A few will be the supporters and friends who help out (beta orbiters as some call them) while others are the alpha males who gets to have sex with them. Neither role is any good since both are being used (I’ve been both) and both roles assume females needs are most important.
The biggest part is how society is set up at the moment. All my life I have felt like there is a part of me I never get to express. The deep masculine side of me that is shunned in society but yet is yearning to be expressed. I thought there were something wrong with me, but I realize a lot of men have had to repress their masculine side to fit into the matriarchal society and not offending women. I have been thinking quite a bit about this and manly values are just not appreciated. There is always a consensus culture where everyone have to agree about everything. No one is allowed to be hurt, everyone should be safe from harm, people are not responsible for anything and no one should offend no other. Criticism is cold and something bad. As a man all of this turns my stomach. I want sincerity, I want people to disagree and speak their mind and I don’t feel like safety is the most important quality. The worst part is that men are not even allowed to define what masculinity is – feminists got that right.
MGTOW for me is taking back the right to define manhood and my own identity. It is the right to my own life and to be the most important person in said life. It is the right to self respect and self worth that comes from within. It is the right to acknowledge my thoughts, feelings, needs and beliefs without being shunned by society, other men or women. It is the right to ignore societys anachronical demands on me as a man and reject chivalry.
MGTOW for me is true equality. I don’t hate or despise women, I hate that society is built in a way that women can act in a way that they can minimize the drawbacks of their biological drives and maximize the benefit, while it’s the opposite for men. People say that men like me are afraid of strong women, but it’s quite the opposite, I would love a society with strong women, because todays society is filled with women who have doubts, low self confidence and low self worth. This leads to the perverted displays of power in attempts of overcompensation. Strong women don’t treat men like 2nd class citizens, strong women don’t treat men with contempt and lack of respect, strong women don’t shun or try to erradicate masculinity – they try to nourish it.
In the current socity though, I will pursue a life that makes me happy. Secure a future career and leave my home country. I look forward to taking part of this forum.
Sincerly
– Mjolnir
Keymaster 5 years, 2 months ago.
