Yesterday I was reading my issue of Men’s Health magazine April 2016 and it talk about men getting screwed in divorce on pages 108 – 109. It states the same things MGTOW talks about.
Here is the article word-for-word I typed out:
You’re going to pay
There are two sides to every split… until you get to court. A top divorce lawyer explains why men get screwed.
Anti-Male Sensibility in family courts is not just accepted. It’s encouraged says Joseph Cordell at Cordell & Cordell, the nations largest domestic litigation firm for men. Its mission: fight for evenhanded justice for divorcing men.
Men’s Health: Your description of what men face in family court sounds like institutionalized prejudice. Is the game flat-out rigged? JC: We decided as a society that there are certain forms of discrimination that we will not tolerate. There’s conspicuous silence of men in family court. No large private interests are advocating for them. Guys are pretty much on their own.
You refer to a “nuclear weapon” that’s available to women, but not men. Explain. I’m referring to an order of protection. When a guy files an allegation that he was abused, it’s either shrugged off or diminished. But when a woman files a claim, it’s taken seriously. I had a man in my office that his wife hit him so hard, she broke his eye socket; the judge allowed her to stay in the home. Realize that an order of protection is filed and issued ex parte– that is without the other sides’ involvement and no evidentiary hearing. The priority is the immediate safety of the woman. Men have no voice because women get the benefit of the doubt. Just by her filing the statement “he hit me and I’m afraid,” the guy is thrown out of the house automatically. He’ll come home and find a police car waiting. “Mr. So and So, I’m serving you this protection order; you need to vacate.” So the guy runs upstairs, put some things in a bag and he’s out. It may take 30 days to get a hearing. The ramifications are so great that many men are cowed at the mere threat. They flee the risk because they don’t want to put their career, the ability to own a weapon in jeopardy. Plus the key consideration in awarding alimony is the presence of absence of domestic violence. It could be her financial advantage to file.
Are there consequences for filing a false statement in a protective order? Almost never. There’s rarely a smoking gun either. At the hearing the woman testifies “he hit me” and the guy testifies “No I didn’t” then the judge decides.
Why is alimony [now call spousal maintenance] still one-sided? Most wives are financially independent these days. There has been some movement, but maintenance is available to women, not men. Child support may end when the kid turns 18, but women are able to receive maintenance for the rest of their lives.
We always assumed the alimony ends when the wife remarries. Which explains why some don’t remarry.
So what if the ex-wife meets another man and lives with him? Depends on the state, but it’s tough separating the new “his” finances from hers. The ex-husband has an uphill battle to prove who is supporting in his ex’s new home. The burden of proof in trying to get maintenance reversals.
Is it true that getting alimony cuts is nearly impossible? It’s very difficult. All the emotion on the woman’s side, so forget principals or statutes. The judge looks at a man making a good living and says, “Look, you can afford it. Why are you even in front of me today?” That’s how maintenance becomes a pension for life.
Are there best and worst places for men to find himself in a domestic pickle? Rural courts tend to stick with stereotypes. Some judges are gender-conscious when they shouldn’t be. But it’s actually an institutional problem. Agencies, psychologist, law enforcement are all part of it.
What are the dumbest ways men sabotage themselves in a pending breakup? One is irrationally moving out of the house. Once you’re out, it’s hard to get back in. Two, men have to be self-conscious about raising their voice. The specter of violence, real or imagined, can put a man in a position where he can’t legally recover. Three, the appearance of being self-serving, guys will often not hire an attorney. They think they can handle it or cause retaliatory response on the wife’s part. Whatever the cause, it’s not uncommon for them to be on their side of the table without representation. Or sometimes they’ll use the wife’s attorney. And guess who benefits from that? Finally, men should get divorced when they financially can’t afford it. A lot of times, a guy will say “Well, business is down right now, it’s not the right time. I can’t take on the added expense.” Truth is when you have fewer assets, it’s the best time.
End of article.
So as you can see Men’s Health magazine sums up what we talk about here when it comes to marriage and divorce.
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