Men who do more chores in a relationship likely to get divorced

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

bigboy83 wrote:

The more they use you, the more they disrespect you, the more likely she’ll divorce you.

Worthless useless Parasites.

No one wants to be married to a dog. If you had a wife who worked a full-time, cooked, cleaned, cared for the kids, and kissed your ass no matter what you said then you would have no respect for her. Human nature.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

bigboy83 wrote:

The more they use you, the more they disrespect you, the more likely she’ll divorce you.

Worthless useless Parasites.

Totally agree, my ex wife was a lazy, messy bitch who could not manage her finances. She stayed at home for 6 years and even though the children were at school 9AM until 3PM she still couldn’t find time to do any housework. I can’t stand a mess so in the end I was working full time, did the gardening, looked after the cars, did most of the cleaning and cooked for myself.

she just saw me as a doormat, lost any respect she had for me and wanted back on the carousel.

No good deed goes unpunished, the more you do for women the more they hate you. Why do you think Chads get all the pussy, they treat them like s~~~ and they love it.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[Anonymous 43]

I did everything for that c~~~. Everything from shovel the snow off the driveway at 4 am to washing the dishes after every one of her every weekend family bbq parties with 40 some guests, laundry, ironing, renovated the house room by room, dug the pit for the pool and built that f~~~er myself…a 27 foot round pool, built the deck, 18,000 gallons of water I cleaned every weekend. Every year, 15 cubic yards of mulch…I resided the house myself, reroofed the house myself, replumbed one bathroom and redid the framing in the kitchen. I changed a zillion diapers, taught my kids to talk, read, write, potty trained, ride a bike, patch a flat tire, pump gas, change a flat on a car, change oil, battery, clean engine, paint, wallpaper, lay carpeting, rewire a fuse box, throw a football, volunteered in their schools for 6 years, hosted girl scout camping in the back yard, hay rides behind the lawn tractor. I planted trees, flowers, bushes did all the maintenance for her parent’s s~~~ty lake cabin, fixed all their boats, helped them move twice. I did every thing for the c~~~ and my kids, and I was cast out. I replaced the hot water tank, all the appliances the garage door, the front door. I did it all and it was all stolen from me all for a piece of Chad ass!!!!! DAFUQ! Oh, Helped pay for her last year of school, helped her get her first new car, helped her get an apartment, taught her how to cook edible food, paid off her loans helped her get an MBA. I even named our children…she couldn’t be bothered to do that.

In the end I became an employee. Everything I did was incompetent and wrong. Bitch took my perfectly plumb frame wall apart with a hammer because it didn’t look right…I showed her with the plumb bob and a corner level. It didn’t feel right…Dude it is aligned with the center of the f~~~ing earth….how much more right can it be? Why are the boards 16 inches apart on center? They are supposed to be 16 inches between outside edges. When you measure things you measure from the outside edge. You did it wrong. Why is this 2X4 not 2 inches by 4 inches, are you so incompetent that you let the lumber yard cheat you? You don’t need a board at the bottom of these other boards, just nail them into the floor. She said these things to me. My grandfather was a contractor, built 300 houses all 300 still standing, my father worked for him for 20 years, my father taught me, and I have the builder’s code book in my hand…and YOU know better? S~~~, she couldn’t put a balsa wood glider together. In case you are wondering, framing is 16 inches on center so the drywall can butt up against another drywall and still be screwed into the same 2X4. Oh, 2X4 is 2X4 when it is cut from the tree, then it is run through a planer to take off a little to make the board perfectly square.

Omg she had me dig down 3 feet for a planting area along a 500 foot fence because the 2 feet down the rototiller she broke wasn’t digging down deep enough. This would be 500 feet total of 3 foot deep 3 foot wide planting area. and she wanted me to use a snow shovel to dig with, the spade was too small and would take too long. 2x as big a shovel, get done twice as fast. Digging that area felt like digging my own grave. 3 feet down, 3 feet across, and 500 feet is 166 cubic yards, weighing about a ton a yard. Stoopid bitch, there was only a foot of top soil, the rest was hard ass clay. She was bitching about the different color dirt too, like it was my fault. Why is the dirt orange? What did you do? I knew you would fuq it up!!!

every time we had these arguments she would run off and cry, then tell me she would go drive into a bridge or something huge. I had the cops look for her the first time, after that I gave up. I didn’t care.

omg what a c~~~. she was the worst, man. Thank god I live 1000 miles away from that.

[Anonymous 43]

I can’t tell you how good freedom from my ex feels. I thought marriage would be a nice secure thing. screw that noise. marriage is death. 1 day of marriage is like three days closer to death.

[Anonymous 54]

Wore me out just reading it.

Women are incapable of gratitude.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Anonymous wrote:

Wore me out just reading it.
Women are incapable of gratitude.

As you know, It’s simple. Women are NEVER satisfied !!!, I too, had to learn that lesson the hard way, but may 7, 2020 has a few notches on me. Hey at least he didn’t kill her in the process ?

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[narwhalParticipant]

This ‘scientific study’ is just crap.

The results showed 65 percent of couples equally or near-equally divided childcare, but not housework: Women reported…

And study that expects women to tell the truth about division of labor in childcare and housework is severely flawed.

Personally, I’d say childcare/housework are more symptoms of other problems then problems themselves. Couples will articulate this as the problem because it looks like an easy fix, but changing it doesn’t really do anything.

If a woman is loyal and committed to the relationship, she’s going to be so regardless of what the man does around the house. If she’s looking for immediate gratification, it doesn’t matter what he does around the house or otherwise.

Ok. Then do it.

[TwistParticipant]

I was happy to do things around the house – gave me a feeling of satisfaction to prepare a great meal for my family, fix whatever needed fixing, spruce-up what needed sprucing, etc. All things that were making life better.

xW, who couldn’t/wouldn’t/shouldn’t cook, who would psychotically “spot-clean” in the midst of a s~~~storm, who would do mortal battle with every contractor and tradesman who was also working to improve our life – that xW was angry and resentful at every task she performed. So it quickly became easier to expect her to do nothing. Not sure how much of this was by design, but it just became so much more pleasant for me to do it myself – going my own way.

And then, when things went deeply downhill, to have her scream at me in fury “For 25 years I did EVERYTHING for you!” I considered that, noticed the flock of cuckoos circling, and slowly backed away realizing there was just no way…

[Freeman98Participant 119]

When I first moved in with my ex The first thing the selfish bitch said was I’m not gonna cook for anybody anymore. She said she cooked in a restaurant for her early part of her life and for her first husband as well. So she felt the need to say that to me. When I heard that I should’ve ran like hell. What happened was she turned out to be such a lazy ass that I did a lot of the shopping, cleaning the house was initiated by me, plus if I wanted clean clothes I had to do that myself. Not to mention the fact that I had two step children and I ran them around a lot for her. When she had a day off from work I would come home from working my ass off and see a dime store novel on the arm of the couch and an ashtray full of cigarette buts and the house looking worse than when I left. What a living hell it was.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Twist wrote:

xW was angry and resentful at every task she performed. So it quickly became easier to expect her to do nothing. Not sure how much of this was by design, but it just became so much more pleasant for me to do it myself – going my own way.

It’s definitely by design. Well, by design plus natural reluctance and incompetence. Mine had a little different strategy, but with the same outcome. She always tried to screw everything she laid her hands on and then say – “see, I can’t do it. You do it so much better” “-But you didn’t even try? Fine! I’ll do it.” So I had to do most of stuff.

Oh yeah, and if she went grocery shopping – she’d be gone for hours and then come back with a car full of stuff from like three different stores. The bill would be north of $200 every time. So I had to go shopping instead to make sure we don’t go broke (we eventually did though)

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Catch And ReleaseParticipant 133]

Warratah wrote:

Old Sage, you don’t understand. You can do ALL of your chores but if you’re not doing at least half of her chores, then you’re not ‘helping out’ …

Ain’t that the truth?

This is exactly the kind of household I grew up in. I have one brother and two sisters. There was no such thing as guy chores and girl chores. There were daily, shared chores and then there was all that stuff that “only guys do”……or what most couples would refer to as a “honey-do list”. So dishes, cooking, cleaning, basically anything inside was more or less split 50/50. I say more or less because during our bi-weekly Sunday cleanup my sisters would usually just have to clean their pig-sty rooms. But mowing the lawn, shovelling snow, raking leaves, taking out the trash, household repairs or renovations…..well heaven forbid we guys should even suggest that maybe there are light tasks that the girls could participate in outside the home. Nope, no way, they don’t do “that stuff”.

And even in all this I got to witness what those of you who were married say about not being able to do anything right. I have a fond recollection of one instance where my mom was flipping out about some bag of clothes that she was planning on donating that mysteriously went missing. A black garbage bag of clothes set by our back door, just as our trash usually was because that’s as far as the girls could take it. Well, I took it to the back alley, and it just happened to have been garbage collection day that day so that bag of clothes was long gone. Naturally I was subjected to a lengthy berating. So for the next two weeks I stepped over every garbage bag set at the back door. Lo and behold, that too was the wrong thing to do. Berated again. So this time I called her out on her bulls~~~, and she spent the next couple weeks pretending I didn’t exist. Really, it is no surprise I’ve basically been MGTOW since I was born.

[TwistParticipant]

The Great Laundry War

I may have posted about this somewhere before, but this thread about chores sparks it right back for me.

xW, then in the throes of wall-smack (42?) meltdown, decides laundry will be the new battleground. We have the spiffy new LG appliances, probably a dozen program options to select on each, and they really do work great.

Teen daughters are rapidly morphing into their own versions of BPD-lite, so they play mini-me to Mom quite well…

Anyhow – analogous to the “spot cleaning in a s~~~storm” I mentioned above, xW will do a load of laundry in a p~~~y mood, select about an hour and a half of all-option run time, then let the wet laundry molder for days requiring a full re-start at some point.

Laundry backs up. Washer is full of the wet moldy clothes, dryer still full of last load, laundry hamper overflowing, basement table packed to the gills. Kids are picking and choosing what to wear from the pile, and when they can’t find what they want xW runs them to the Mall to restock.

So – I’ve been doing laundry since I was in college. Never found it much of a challenge. But now I don’t do it “right”. I find the 20 minute quick wash cycle works perfectly, I can process a ton of stuff, but this gets me screamed at by xW for “ruining” the clothes while mini-me’s sit there nodding in agreement.

So the war commences. I now bring my clothes down in the morning, move the wet clothes out of the washer, the dry wrinkled stuff out of the dryer. Quick wash, dryer, fold, and I am done in an hour. Everything replaced.

Smoldering hatred now ensues. I compound this by taking advantage of them being away for a day to clear the entire battlefield. I open a beer, start cycling, and after an easy dozen loads I have washed, dried, and folded months of laundry. Nice – right?

They return, I tell kids, clothes are all clean – put away in drawers/closets what you want, what you don’t want we will bag up and bring to Goodwill. They do nothing for days.

I bring 20? piles of clean, folded clothes up to kitchen and arrange neatly on kitchen table. I repeat above request. xW goes bats~~~, yelling that they are too busy to do this during the week due to school demands (and Ellen, Glee, Criminal Minds, etc.). xW takes 20? piles of clean, folded clothes back down to basement laundry area.

Up at dawn Saturday to go play golf, I again bring 20? piles of clean, folded laundry back up to kitchen table and leave a note with my prior request. Its now the weekend, and when they arise around the crack of noon there should be plenty of time to process.

I arrive home to a s~~~storm. xW screaming that the weekend is their only time to relax and how dare I impose this on them.

And that ended the great laundry war.

Chores are never just chores.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Tuneout wrote:

Exactly,and back in the day women would do the three C’s around the house:
Cooking
Cleaning
C~~~Sucking
Perfect

HMM…The divorce rate was lower too…. There probably NOT connected, but just MAYBE….

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