Men and Fathers who act like women.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Hi Brothers,

I have had a problem with my father for the last 20 years in regards to his mental state. For this topic I am not talking about blue pill men, white knights, etc. what I mean when discussing men who act like women I mean it is like they are a woman in a man’s body.

For example my father is a self centered narcissist control freak who has to create drama at every turn and he makes every topic no matter what it is about him or if there is no drama around he will create drama to cause problems on purpose. I could be talking about car parts and he can twist the topic completely to him and make it about him. One second he can be a great person and the next a complete bitch. I have tried to take him to go seek some professional help but he will refuse to do so and blame everything bad that happens on me or anyone else but himself. Nothing is ever his fault in his eyes he is always infallible. You know that person who always thinks he is right but is always wrong and thinks they are smart but actually are really not? Yup that is him as well. At one time he was really smart person but as he aged intelligence and wisdom has completely left him. He probably has bi-polar and borderline personality disorder but I am no professional but I can make an educated guess. I have only seen these same qualities in other women, the way they behave and act. I have never seen it in any other man but my father (well I have seen a small percentage of men who think they know everything but really know nothing but that is for another topic).

Does anyone else have a friend, co-worker, or father who is like this? He can be the most charming person in the world when you first meet him, he cracks jokes, and can be a good person to be around but after a couple of hours you will start seeing his other side. People really don’t like him at all once they get to know him, he has no friends unless they are my mother’s friends and the only reason people come over to visit them is for her not him. He was born without a mother or father, and the grandparents had to take care of him because his mother abandoned him. His grandparents hated him too so that is probably another reason why he became the way he did. I never got to meet anyone on his side of his family he has no one in that regard.

My parents relationship is complex it is like having two female parents. They are still married after 40 years I honestly don’t know how she puts up with him and I have no clue how I have had to put up with this for so long. I had a talk with him today and decided to post this because I am fed up with him and his antics. If it wasn’t for my mother I would have cut ties with him a long time ago. Growing up with someone like this is hell on earth I can keep going on and on but I am interested to hear from my fellow brothers to see if anyone else has or had this same problem with someone else in their lives.

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

My father ended up getting whipped after he converted to christianity and married but before then was a typical asshole (this is the reason i ain’t a fan of christianity). He tried to be the perfect father since his father died but my mother only gives him s~~~ for it demanding more and more and is never satisfied. But i have never seen in my life a man who acted like a woman unless he is a closet homosexual.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[coolthingy450Participant 1223]

At work. A couple of guys to act like women when things don’t go their own way.

Actions have consequences and consequences have prices. Cause and effect at work.

[mp357Participant 531]

Dude i swear all the men in my family are like this.Bitch ass men are an epidemic, and they always manage to breed.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

Is it considered effeminate to just be tired of it all?

[Zuberi TauParticipant 10606]

If it’s one thing I cannot stand, it’s effeminate fathers who emasculate their own sons and thrive off drama. They are worse than infidels!

[VarunParticipant 2981]

That’s normal to say the least for some tradcon fathers; yours is just one of them.

Rhino wrote:

People really don’t like him at all once they get to know him, he has no friends unless they are my mother’s friends and the only reason people come over to visit them is for her not him. He was born without a mother or father, and the grandparents had to take care of him because his mother abandoned him. His grandparents hated him too so that is probably another reason why he became the way he did. I never got to meet anyone on his side of his family he has no one in that regard.

My parents relationship is complex it is like having two female parents. They are still married after 40 years I honestly don’t know how she puts up with him and I have no clue how I have had to put up with this for so long.

Major reasons why he developed his character this way. Not trying to be a scholar here, but what I’ve learnt from reading lots of books and experiences, I could say that the amount of evil you receive at childhood will equate the amount of evil you give out later in life.

He himself was a parent-less, raised up by tradcon grand-parents (my guess) so you must get an idea how frequently he was subjected to emasculation.

The reason some people can put up with their spouses for such long times is because they make permanent compromises. Your father did… compromised his sovereignity for family, etc. You are smart, so no wonder you know how mean society can be for a man who wants to do everything according to his own terms. When he doesn’t get that freedom, he turns miserable, which might just be what happened to him. Maybe that’s why he wants to talk about himsef more? Because other people don’t really give him any chance to express himself? Maybe his behaviour is a result of all the pent-up feelings he has inside himself… there might be variety of reasons.

Sometimes you got to understand the root of all problems; understanding why people act they way they do helps a lot; it makes you less angry towards them and you focus more and ‘why they do it?’ rather than ‘why is he doing this?’ *frownface*; not that its necessary for you to know, but doing so will in turn stop making you so miserable.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

I have sat down and tried to talk to him openly about this, he refuses to acknowledge anything is wrong with him and in a warped sense maybe in his world nothing is wrong because he is a product of his upbringing and was taught only one way. I can see your point of view, I understand where you are coming from. The only thing beside what I mentioned in my first post that I know is that he grew up really poor in a Slavic country, and moved to Canada to make his life better. That is all I know about him nothing else. When someone will not communicate to you and shuts you out you really can’t get to the root of the problem.

I guess that is why I made the post to see if anyone has had a similar story to share and if said person eventually confided as to why they were like this. Maybe I will never know I am fine with that as well just figured I would ask and see where this would take me. Thanks for the responses so far it is appreciated.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

From what i have read Personality Disorders have no cure.

Sounds very much like my father and a few of my Exes.

People like that, all you can do is just stay away from them.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[HitmanParticipant]

lot’s of people can act like assholes..
usually women act like big babies,
once in a while it’s a man .
keep distance between yourself and these jerks !

[survivorParticipant 610]

Yeah, I hear your pain, Rhinorage. I got a male co-worker like this. It is OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, maybe part of your father’s problem. In my my friend at work he is tall, thin, and wasted and severely underweight. He is 95-pounds or so and is 6″3; that ain’t good. I do remember when he was healthy he was around 160 or 170. Food just went right through him; he was one of those people who really could be a couch potato, eat all he wanted and not gain an ounce. Even then he was kind of a control freak. He suspects all his weight problems stemmed from his getting a tape worm some years ago. He would create drama, but not so much. His OCD tendencies made the problem even worse; he can’t let go, everything must be done exactly his way or he rather freaks and he does kind of have a high opinion of himself in some aspects; not all, but some; in some ways he is very humble. He’s retiring early from teaching because of his condition. I respond by trying to not deal with him very much if I don’t have to. You can’t help everyone; and really not everyone wants to be helped. They just want the drama and attention and focus of everyone on them. He creates a problem and drama to get attention. Once he is the center of attention and people have offered numerous solutions, he rejects them all outright as not good enough or not convenient enough for him or insufficient or sub-par in some way; he thereby conveniently prolongs the drama and situation so that he remains in the center of of the attention of everyone in the academic office. People will come back and ask him about it later that day or the next day or later in the week. Even students have complained to me and other teachers about him at times. His one strong point is that if something bad happens to you he is a good listener and sympathizes well. This makes up for his OCD a lot of the time. Anyway, I should stop talking about it, it’s making me aggravated just bringing it up.

"Shot through the heart, and you're to blame, You give love a bad name, I play my part and you play your game, You give love a bad name."--Bon Jovi

[Anonymous 42]

anonymousyam wrote:

(this is the reason i ain’t a fan of christianity)

Hey anonymousyam, ya really need to separate religion from asshole, ya really do. Some of the worst mind twisting assholes can be found in any religion! It’s the asshole that’s running his own program over the decency of others, they’re called WOLVES in sheep clothing, they make up the vast majority now in any religion.

Narrow is the goat path to redemption, broad is the supper highway to destruction. Look at it like that and all the animosity will melt away. Religion doesn’t cloak people into righteousness, just the opposite, it exposes their filthy hearts for all to see, hypocrites shine like supernovas! There’s many wolves.

Hey Rhinorage, I see it all the time and in every direction, men emasculated to the point of resembling a jellyfish in a net, never getting out because their backbone has dissolved under the ever prevalent persuasions of feminism, he’s feminized and will flower like a girl every time! That’s why I urge the young guys to eradicate and PURGE ALL FORMS OF FEMINISM FROM THEIR HEARTS, SOULS, AND LIVES! PURGE ALL FORMS OF FEMINISM FROM THEIR HEARTS, SOULS, AND LIVES! had to say it twice to make sure it sticks!

Hey Rhinorage, you made “his” problem “your” problem! I found using logic to dictate my filtering of personalities works best. For me most people are categorized, put in a mental box, and shipped off to eternity. The one or two stragglers that are reachable I will waste my time on. All the rest are sent into my time machine’s linear warp transducer, never to be dealt with or seen again…

[RoyDalParticipant]

Rhino wrote:

what I mean when discussing men who act like women I mean it is like they are a woman in a man’s body.

Act for yourself. Go Your Own Way.

Telling another man the errors of his ways is like unto holding up a yellow leaf and telling him it is gold. Either he will recognize your wisdom and abandon his foolish past ways, or he won’t. Either way, it is entirely up to him. All you and I can do is show him his escape route: It is up to him to summon the resolve to take it . . . or not.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[coolthingy450Participant 1223]

survivor wrote:

Yeah, I hear your pain, Rhinorage. I got a male co-worker like this. It is OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, maybe part of your father’s problem. In my my friend at work he is tall, thin, and wasted and severely underweight. He is 95-pounds or so and is 6″3; that ain’t good. I do remember when he was healthy he was around 160 or 170. Food just went right through him; he was one of those people who really could be a couch potato, eat all he wanted and not gain an ounce. Even then he was kind of a control freak. He suspects all his weight problems stemmed from his getting a tape worm some years ago. He would create drama, but not so much. His OCD tendencies made the problem even worse; he can’t let go, everything must be done exactly his way or he rather freaks and he does kind of have a high opinion of himself in some aspects; not all, but some; in some ways he is very humble. He’s retiring early from teaching because of his condition. I respond by trying to not deal with him very much if I don’t have to. You can’t help everyone; and really not everyone wants to be helped. They just want the drama and attention and focus of everyone on them. He creates a problem and drama to get attention. Once he is the center of attention and people have offered numerous solutions, he rejects them all outright as not good enough or not convenient enough for him or insufficient or sub-par in some way; he thereby conveniently prolongs the drama and situation so that he remains in the center of of the attention of everyone in the academic office. People will come back and ask him about it later that day or the next day or later in the week. Even students have complained to me and other teachers about him at times. His one strong point is that if something bad happens to you he is a good listener and sympathizes well. This makes up for his OCD a lot of the time. Anyway, I should stop talking about it, it’s making me aggravated just bringing it up.

I got a co worker like that. Only in this case, he is a heavy drinker and a drug user.

Actions have consequences and consequences have prices. Cause and effect at work.

[AntonioParticipant 142]

Yes could come from physical issues i think…or the other way…his way of beeing making him sick…parasites, infections and low immune system could be involved, specially if he is thin.

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