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[BeerParticipant 11832]

My mom had been threatening my dad with a divorce for probably a solid 10 years now. I told him the first time she mentioned divorce, he should just say “Sounds good to me” and go file himself as she was either just going to treat him like s~~~ til one of them dies or f~~~ him with a divorce down the road eventually anyhow, so might as well just split what they have now and have some time to recover before he retires…but he didn’t listen.

Fast forward 10 years…my dad’s work had been offering early retirement packages trying to trim their workforce a bit, and he was considering retiring this year anyhow, so about a month ago he accepted the package and will be retiring this summer. Soon as my mom found out she filed for divorce and its final next week as they both agreed on 50% and went the mediator route. I guess the one good thing was with no minor children and neither of them working anymore it was kind of hard to argue for anything but a 50/50 split.

Out of the nearly 40 years my parents were married, my mom worked for maybe 6 or 7 years after my brother and I were both in our 20s. The other 30 something years my dad took care of everything financially. Even if you want to argue a stay at home parent is a full time job…sure, maybe for 6 years until we were both in school…then part time at best for another 14…and then she pretty much just had about 15 years worth of early retirement. Funny thing about when she had her job…all “her” money went into her own account while she still expected access to my dad’s paycheck.

Now this is a woman living in a paid off house, driving a paid off Cadillac, going on out of state vacations with her divorced spinster friends about 3-4 times a year on average, jewelry, nice clothes, play money to p~~~ away at the casino, shopaholic constantly buying dumb s~~~…pretty much live a very pampered life. My dad never hit her or abuse her, and he’s a pretty mild tempered dude…the amount of times I’ve ever even witnessed him raise his voice at her during my entire life was less than I could count on my fingers and after a great amount of her being a c~~~. My dad pretty much told her he wants to buy a place in Florida for the tax advantages and to get away from the s~~~ty cold weather for the winter, and to keep their place up here, and he’s fine just playing room mate with her and she can come and go as she pleases…but nah, she didn’t want that. Now the Florida plan gets scrapped and they end up with 2 places here as most of both sides of my family is here and neither really wants to totally leave the area.

In the end…that is what the blue pill lifestyle gets you. My dad pretty much wasted his life pampering a woman who during her entire life maybe held a full time job for about a decade of it. He literally worked a few extra years after he could have retired with his full pension just to keep health insurance for my mom as she wasn’t old enough to get on medicare yet. She just waited until he was theoretically at max net worth, as hopefully he’ll start to spend his 401k down before he’s too old to enjoy it, then kicked him to the curb.

She doesn’t realize it yet, but the joke will end up being on her. She’s not happy unless she’s making someone miserable or causing drama for someone. She was a giant c~~~ to me while I was a kid and into my early 20s until I moved out and she had no more power over me, at which point I pretty much cut her out of my life. That was around the time the cross hairs ended up on my dad and she started up with her divorce bulls~~~. When she’s on her own, she’s not going to have anyone to s~~~ on. She’s going to be miserable because she isn’t making anyone else miserable. Hopefully my dad totally ghosts her once she moves out. She’s also got a gambling problem…so within a few years I’m pretty confident my dad will be better off financially than he’d have been with her and she’ll be poor. To top it off she has some health issues and my dad would take her to all her appointments and s~~~ whenever she needed a ride. If she calls me looking for a ride, the answer will be “I can’t, I have to work that day,” even if its in the middle of a vacation week for me.

I just can’t fathom why the f~~~ anyone would get married these days. I know my dad did when times were different and there wasn’t several decades worth of divorce rape preceding his marriage…but for guys today…my god just don’t do it! This is how it ends. For the most part my family are pretty solid people as in no criminal records, educated, and solidly middle or upper middle class incomes, so its not just like we’re a bunch of trailer park trash. The apple fell far from the tree a couple times, but I’ve got a pretty big family so its bound to happen, and none of the trashy ones have married yet. Just looking at my parent’s generation…them, and my aunts and uncles, 25% of them are still married to their first spouse. Of the 75% that have a divorce under their belt, a couple have more than 1. That is f~~~ing miserable odds! Of my generation…siblings and cousins…of those who have married we’re already at a 60% divorce rate…which is f~~~ing pathetic considering my oldest cousins are only early 40s and the most recent marriage hasn’t even hit the 1 year mark yet. I’m already expecting it to increase in about 5 years when my eldest cousin’s kids are college age as I’ve already heard rumblings from various family members of her wanting a divorce. With my cousins divorces…literally every single time the women had had affairs and every single time the women had filed for divorce.

Please men, just remember, women are not worth placing on a pedestal anymore, and they are certainly not worth marrying. Its not being selfish if you just want to live your life for you and enjoy the time you have on this earth rather than stick your dick in the blender of modern day marriage, its being smart. Go make friends, get a dog, travel, enjoy hobbies, read, learn things, drive fast cars and motorcycles, f~~~ prostitutes(in places where its legal of course)…just don’t be stupid wasting your time, energy, and resources being a disposable resource for some c~~~.

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3754]

Great post. Thanks, man.

So, is your dad planning on going back to work ? Or is he staying on the retirement course.

Also, you said “if your mom calls”… she has your phone number ? I’d change it and only tell your dad if you’re on excellent terms with him.

Anyway, just my two cents, as they say.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Do you have a dna test?

I bet my b~~~~ “dad” aint your dad, if you wanna help the men get a dna test and sue the bitch into stone age.

Sorry bro, but you are probably chad dna raised by lord cuckintong.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Handsome VicParticipant 1613]

Great post Beer.
This pattern has been seen millions of times before. But it bears repeating.
Marriage is a fool’s game for a hundred reasons.
It’s better for a man to just go his own way and to avoid the trap of becoming a disposable utility for an ungrateful wife.
When your dad’s ready, tell him he’s welcome here.

I'm going my own way. Maybe I'll see you there.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

You have done very well to see it , as you say she waited till he was max wealth and not many more options , I know a guy who raised another guys kid and she did the same to him, he must have sent 10s of thousands raising her bastard kid.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10907]

Great post.
I hope your father managed to squirrel away some money unknown to everybody else. When I was married I tried to hang in there and make things work out until it dawned on me that divorce was inevitable. We had no kids and all I was doing was creating a bigger amount of cash and assets for her and her divorce attorney to plunder through. Starting over was tough and it absolutely p~~~ed me off when I found out how much of what “we” worked for was going to end up with her. If I would’ve stayed married I pictured it playing out exactly as you wrote above and it not only would’ve been a bigger hit to take but also much harder to start over again at retirement age. Now I am alone and happier. I don’t have to worry about that crap anymore. She remarried so now she’s someone else’s problem.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

SpiderHerder wrote:

So, is your dad planning on going back to work ? Or is he staying on the retirement course.

Nah, he’s still retiring. In terms of spending my mom was the big spender of the two, so losing half but cutting his outgoing cash to 1/3 of what it was isn’t exactly a retirement breaker for him, its just the whole situation is kind of a kick in the nuts.

Handsome Vic wrote:

When your dad’s ready, tell him he’s welcome here.

I don’t think he has much interest in internet forums, but he won’t marry again. He’s actually pretty red pill and has said to me many times things like “There’s no reason to get married these days, lot’s of people live together and have kids without marriage” and how women aren’t ever happy and how they’re selfish and all the red pill stuff we all know on this forum. It probably sounds like he’s blue pill for not pulling the divorce trigger 10+ years ago when she first started talking about it, but like I said, she’s got health issues. I’ve never asked him directly, but I’m pretty sure he was just rolling the dice on her kicking the bucket before an actual divorce happened as she’s already outlived all her doctors estimates of her life expectancy.

Carnage wrote:

Do you have a dna test?

Yes actually…done as part of a school project years ago.

Carnage wrote:

I bet my b~~~~ “dad” aint your dad, if you wanna help the men get a dna test and sue the bitch into stone age.

Sorry bro, but you are probably chad dna raised by lord cuckintong.

Bet accepted, and you lose. Even though there is DNA evidence proving you wrong its irrelevant because I would consider the man that has loved me, supported me, and taught me so much over my life time to be my dad even if he wasn’t the sperm donor. Besides, what exactly would I sue her for?

Thanks for insulting my dad and I and being an internet tough guy though, you have added so much to this thread.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Mr. Spock wrote:

Great post.
I hope your father managed to squirrel away some money unknown to everybody else. When I was married I tried to hang in there and make things work out until it dawned on me that divorce was inevitable. We had no kids and all I was doing was creating a bigger amount of cash and assets for her and her divorce attorney to plunder through. Starting over was tough and it absolutely p~~~ed me off when I found out how much of what “we” worked for was going to end up with her. If I would’ve stayed married I pictured it playing out exactly as you wrote above and it not only would’ve been a bigger hit to take but also much harder to start over again at retirement age. Now I am alone and happier. I don’t have to worry about that crap anymore. She remarried so now she’s someone else’s problem.

Yeah its a s~~~ty situation…but the doctors told her years ago you probably won’t live to see 60, and well, here she is over 60 now. I think he was rolling the dice on the doctors estimates being accurate, and he lost that gamble, and hind sight being 20/20 he definitely should have unloaded her years ago. Ultimately though she’ll probably end up dead before him so whatever he “owes” her out of his pension and SS he’ll be able to keep for himself at that point, and he’s pretty smart financially so I”m pretty certain half of his savings is still more than most retire with, so he’ll be fine financially.

Strange thing is if my mom were to die in 6 months and leave her s~~~ to my brother and I, it would pretty much just be like we robbed half of my dads retirement. If that were to happen, I’m going to ask him if he wants his money back.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Beer wrote:

Thanks for insulting my dad and I and being an internet tough guy though, you have added so much to this thread.

Beer wrote:

Strange thing is if my mom were to die in 6 months and leave her s~~~ to my brother and I, it would pretty much just be like we robbed half of my dads retirement. If that were to happen, I’m going to ask him if he wants his money back.

If only more men had sons like you Beer.

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