marrying for social pressure?

[globemasterParticipant 443]

In india marriage is overhyped . Everyone who is married is sad but still want others to do it. Divorce is less here but that doesnt mean everyone is happy . Anyway because of western education divorce is raising which is a different story.

Mostly it is arranged marriages here but love marriages are also increasing ,which is kind of a arranged marriage but without parents consent first.

AFAIK there were 3 guys who were unmarried, out of this 2 guys got married recently. Reason, social pressure. Are they now happy for satisfying society’s expectation or is socirty rewarding them , NO.

Guy1,

He was in a relationship with a girl for 8 years but because of caste differences and both of them being afraid of their parents parted ways and he married a dull looking girl which his parents chose, After a week of marriage his wife and his mom started quarelling and now both wont speak with each other. His mom stopped speaking to him also. He lives downstairs and his parents upsatirs ,so its annoying for him.

guy2,

He was going to turn 30 in 6 months , so he felt it will be difficult to get a ‘bride’ once someone crosses 30 here. So he made a quick search in matrimony sites, relatives etc but cant find any bride. So he wanted to marry a girl who was his relative,his mom’s brother’s daughter(which is common in india). But his aunt rejected the proposal ,he after some rounds of negotiation made them to accept. Funny thing is this guy never liked the girl
and used to make fun of her looks. Now he married the same girl. He used to tell me how it is depressing not to get married till 30 and how people are questioning him. Now the sad part is his relatives ,neighbours,friends are laughing behind his back for marrying this girl who is very unattractive.

Both these guys easily succumbed to social pressure. Here once you reach 30 ,people will pressure you into getting married to ugly, fat or whatever girls who are unable to get a groom.

You may look good but the parents of these ugly girls will use your age to make you get married to these girls by destroying your self confidence.

Marrying itself is a longterm headache, but if one chose to get that atleast he should marry a good looking or atleast not an ugly looking one.

[Anonymous 42]

Marriage emboldens women and cucks men!

Marriage?

NO! HELL NO!

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

I don’t mean to be disrespectful, but no one else but you can be responsible for safe guarding your freedom.

Social pressures can be enormous, some of it direct and from others and some internalized from all the cultural norms we absorb as we grow up. But the solid facts remains, if you don’t want to marry someone but do so because it makes you Mom or family happy, then expect your mom or family will be happy. You, who knows, maybe not so much. Unless there is a gun held to your head, you don’t have to say YES.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[TrailbossParticipant 1844]

Nobody can *make* a man do anything. Only the man himself, for whatever variety of reasons, can make himself give in…or #MANOUT! F~~~ing ridiculous to blame “society” for weak men’s choices. I am sure there are men in that country who chose to opt out! That 1% that walk away and say “F~~~ this”!!

#MANOUT! It works…

An educated, armed populace cannot be enslaved.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Tell us about forced marriage, men married at gun point.

And 498a dowry abuse laws to put whole family in jail.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22503]

globemaster wrote:

Everyone who is married is sad but still want others to do it.

Misery loves company.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Handsome VicParticipant 1613]

I think your post gives good examples of some predictable problems that arise in marriage, and why one should never marry to please others.

But I don’t agree with your conclusion… is it still blue pill thinking?

Marrying itself is a longterm headache, but if one chose to get that atleast he should marry a good looking or atleast not an ugly looking one.

– Is a good looking woman less likely to divorce rape you? –No

– Is divorce rape from a good looking woman any less severe? — No

– Does the wall spare a good looking woman? –No

– Does a good looking woman dish out any less s~~~ in marriage than an ugly one? –No

If you ask me: AWALT

So why should anyone EVER choose to marry a good looking woman? Is it because you might get some hot sex for a little while?

I say that’s blue pill thinking…

NO MARRIAGE

I'm going my own way. Maybe I'll see you there.

[AttonParticipant]

Rather drink gasoline.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Anonymous 12]

My first observation of Indian arranged marriages was a few years back. This guy I worked with who was a security guard was getting pressured into marrying. His parents are wealthy and he is a spoiled rich kid. His mother even told him that she knows he wants to screw around and he will find a woman who will tolerate that.

So I am sitting there at work as he speaks to some of these candidate brides over the phone. I can’t hear them but I can tell that every single one of them is smarter than he is. They ask him about books, art, what he wants from life. He doesn’t read, he doesn’t know anything about art, he just wants to have a good time. He answers honestly although I was laughing quietly and cringing at the same time.

So eventually he gets married, he tells the woman he is a security consultant. She is a Doctor. He brings her out to Australia and then keeps going out and just leaves her at home. She is not as patient as his mother tells him. Eventually within months they divorce.

These traditions cannot compete with modern life and modern freedom.

I have heard and seen many more stories around this concept. None of them are good. The men aren’t happy and neither are the women. Traditions won’t save your arse and going broke will just give your parents more power over you.

Stand up for yourself and say no.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

globemaster wrote:

Everyone who is married is sad but still want others to do it.

Misery loves company.

Definitely this, this is also why people with children try and convince everybody else to have them too. Most people get married and have children due to social programming, they just assume that is what you do in life and never question why they did.

If someone doesn’t get married or have children it makes them worry that they made the wrong choice. I am divorced but it never ceases to amaze me the amount of younger men at work who tell me their girlfriend is desperate to get married and stay at home and raise children. Bet she is, send you out to the plantation while she sits at home doing nothing until she gets bored and wants to get back on the carousel.

But obviously I never say this to them as they won’t listen as “she loves me” and “she is different”……

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

If you as a man decide to surrender your freedom because of societal pressure then you deserve everything that is coming to you.

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