Married Men Coping with Alcohol

[BDParticipant 1146]

Hello Gents,

For some reason, I just keep witnessing and hearing stories about married men who must drink everyday after work just so that they can cope with being near their wives.

Surely a study would present a link of sorts.

Does anyone have anything to add to this?

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

S~~~: Im single and do this. I thought it was man dealing with the (f~~~ed up) world handed to him. Correct me if Im wrong (other) single dudes?

Myself? Been dealt some good hands and massively poor ones in life. The latter trumped the former, and YES alcohol has been an easing mechanism. It is what it is. But I differ from women for recognizing cause and effect.

Id be shocked if MOST men on here dont use the drink. Im honest with myself, and anyone who cares to ask. Glad you did.

Resident cynic.

[MAXIMUSParticipant 15]

BD wrote:

Hello Gents, For some reason, I just keep witnessing and hearing stories about married men who must drink everyday after work just so that they can cope with being near their wives. Surely a study would present a link of sorts. Does anyone have anything to add to this?

Yeah more alcohol!

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Mmmm Wild Turkey

Alcohol and I get on just fine …. but it draws the line at my involvement with women.

It gets very jealous ☺

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

S~~~, since you started this thread (and hats off to you for it) I wonder how many guys DONT drink (?).

Serious question.

I know were all different, but F~~~ me: NO booze? Life is a BITCH, and booze helps lol.

 

Oh, how I wish it werent true.

 

Resident cynic.

[jack reacherParticipant 751]

I have been down that road self medicating. It is not the most productive method for self actualization and improvement, to put it mildly. There is great potential for MGTOW to build self awareness, self identity, independence, and a number of other positive attributes. Very difficult to achieve them with booze.

It is understandable, that when you start transitioning through the pill phases, that depression, anger, and frustration build. And an occasional checking out with some booze or whatever is probably not that bad. But regular consumption to the point where you are reliant on it, well that means the bitches and the gynocracy have you under their control.

[foolsgoldParticipant 5664]

I believe I have taken more out of alcohol than it will ever take out of me. I stole that line somewhere. But it holds true very much in my case. I hardly drank when I was married. Many friends and family members have told me that I would still be married if I was drinking a lot during the marriage. One of the main reasons I figured out marriage was a s~~~ty deal was because I was sober. Once she filed for divorce and threw me out of MY house, I made no attempt to stop her. I started drinking a lot during the divorce to drown out the beatings I took in family court. The booze helped me not give a f~~~ about anything during and after the divorce proceedings. It helped me become MGTOW. Her side of the family is bothered by the fact that I don’t care. Makes me smile.

Right now I just drink on weekends. Never on work days. I see my kids quite often so I NEVER drink in front of them. I was one of the lucky one’s. Alcohol was something that helped me. It never controlled me. Unlike the ex wife. Most of the time it’s going to hurt you by drinking. It only caused me to fall down a time or two. I believe Ben Franklin once said that beer was proof that God wanted us to be happy. Again, the main cause of my divorce was because I was sober. I’ll end the post with a sober acronym.

Son

Of a

Bitch

Everything is

Real

 

 

[RoyDalParticipant]

I drink red wine … for the health benefits. Health benefits, yeah, that’s the ticket.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 11]

I hardly drink, normally.

I think married men are stressed by the wenches and alcohol dulls the pain for them. I had an awful roommate that I had to evict 6 weeks ago. The room still smells like a barn animal was stored in it. Anyway, I was so stressed during his stay I’d drink every single day. I was in my final relations~~~ and drank like a fish too. Toxic people make it very easy to drink.

[Anonymous 0]

@Ancientwisdom

i have never drunk alcohol, and likely never will, not something im interested in doing

as for using it to deal with problems, i havent had any serious problems where i needed external factors to deal with them, having said that even if i did i dont think i would drink tbh..just me

Peace

[BDParticipant 1146]

Anonymous wrote:

I think married men are stressed by the wenches and alcohol dulls the pain for them.

Yeah, that’s kind off what I am getting at.

I know most of us drink, which is perfectly normal, and some of us use it coping and I’ve been there as well.

But I have seen so many married men that must be intoxicated after work, and on weekends, just to be anywhere near their wives. Either they are drunk or going fishing to get away from her, or they are on psychotropic drugs.

I found an article about a study that had been done, it says that men overall drink less when married, sure that’s possible, but I’m looking for a correlation I guess between married men having to alter their mental status to cope with their wives. Not much info out there on this.

 

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Drinking every day is not really going your way, it’s going the alcohol’s way. Alcohol is a s~~~ty drug and I never thought I could get addicted to it, but I did. (I think being addicted to Xanax and Adderall paved the way to alcohol addiction down the road). I used to brew beer and I was going through 5 gallons per week. When I got divorced it got out of hand. I was driving trucks, so I couldn’t smoke bud, so I got back to drinking and smoking cigarettes to cope. Then I got a DUI of 2nd degree, lost my job and had to go through mandatory treatment for 3 month. I still drink sometimes, but it really lost its allure. I’m drinking a beer while I’m typing this, but I’m trying to stay out of liquor stores now. AA helps, but the abstinence way is not for me. It’s all about the culture of using – if you set your boundaries and keep them – drinking is not a problem. Actually, if not for beer – the civilization might have not be developed at all. All the commerce was started from selling safe fermented drinks in deserts.

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Anonymous 14]

I drink. Well enough. But I only got blitzed and I mean really blitzed on a very few occasions.

Scotch is my choice of drink and I usually have the tolerance of an Irish dockworker.

I don’t smoke. Just drink and I never abuse alcohol. So when you drink, drink responsibly and never drive intoxicated.

Heres to you gentlemen.

 

[SteveParticipant 462]

I was pretty much a non drinker before marriage. Very health conscious and wanted to be sharp at work.

After marriage I started on cheap low strength beers but quickly moved up to whiskey. I never got smashed drunk so I missed work or anything, just 1 or 2 glasses to take the edge off, but it was regular every night.

After finding this website and a some wise words from wise members I’m back down to the beers. I picked up a bottle of Jamesons at the supermarket last weekend but put it back on the shelf. That’s a win for MGTOW.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Nothing in excess. There is no such thing as a friendly tiger.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 1]

Ancientwisdom wrote:

S~~~, since you started this thread (and hats off to you for it) I wonder how many guys DONT drink (?). Serious question. I know were all different, but F~~~ me: NO booze? Life is a BITCH, and booze helps lol. Oh, how I wish it werent true.

 

I am 27 years old and have had only two shot in my life.  Never had beer or wine. Honestly, I don’t understand why people drink.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

BD wrote:

Hello Gents, For some reason, I just keep witnessing and hearing stories about married men who must drink everyday after work just so that they can cope with being near their wives. Surely a study would present a link of sorts. Does anyone have anything to add to this?

I believe with the part of fitting into the world, is always be a person who is pleasant to be around, acceptable, nice, not ever being in a bad mood, or anything.  So, I am sure to be able to fit in, men would medicate on alcohol, to be more presentable.  Also, one doesn’t want to have pain in life, do they?  So, end up medicating away the pain, so you can be happy.

My bias here is I don’t do drugs, and I don’t drink alcohol.  I also don’t do coffee.  I want to be in balance in life, and I really don’t like the taste of alcohol.  I need to deal with medicating with food though.

On my end, I have seen people tell me to do alcohol to “loosen up”.  Well, f’dat.  I recall having being told to get on medication in order to manage mood better and so on, because they do it and can’t function without it.  Well, I feel that the best way (my take) is to realize life sucks, and try to count gains wherever and focus on good.  I also refuse to allow anyone to drive myself to do anything.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

I recall the late Oliver Reed being interviewed … while completely smashed … and being asked:

Q. “So Oliver … I here you have a drink problem”

A. “Yes”

Q. “Well what do you think the problem is”

A. “I’ve only got one f~~~ing mouth” hic hic

😄

Where are they now I wonder ☺

[Dcue95Participant 78]

I live in the US where the drinking age is 21, and I’m 20 so I sadly can’t drink. However, when I turn 21 the first thing I’d probably try is something called “Sangria” as it smells pretty good. Also when I was younger, I once tried a sip of Heineken and absolutely hated it as it was way too bitter for my test; Though I’ve been told that I should try some of the Samuel Adams Fruit beers.

And I shall also be following this advice:

Russky wrote:

if you set your boundaries and keep them – drinking is not a problem.

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