mangina friends that keep comin' back after breakups

[lonestar77Participant 406]

I would like your opinions on what to do about this. I have about 3 or 4 friends that I NEVER see whenever they are in a relationship. I’m talking for years and years. I’m totally fine with that, but then they break up and then come crawling back to my bachelor pad to hang out again as if nothing happened. I didn’t see or hear from this one friend for SEVEN years then one f~~~in day he shows up at my door because he’s single again. Then once they find someone else, they are gone again. So sick of it.

I’m sorry but in my book it doesn’t work that way.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me

[ChilledToZeroParticipant 178]

Yeah, i totally agree with your decision to drop ’em, those are the kinds of friends that will never be there for you when the going gets rough

There needs to be give and take in a friendship, not girlfriend and take

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

If there causing problems, and worshipping pussy, then drop them.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[RoyDalParticipant]

You are lucky you don’t live in a highly sought vacation resort area. They would be lined up at your door!

For my part, I always put the ball in their court. That is, I always answer phone calls, emails, or old fashioned cards and letters. But if they are so inconsiderate to drop me, then I let them go. Phones and emails do not require any real work on their part. If it’s too much trouble for them, the same goes for me.

If a long lost chum showed up — one who had dumped me years ago — then I would give him an apartment finder brochure from the rack next to the supermarket exit. “Sorry, mate, my place is full.”

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[WolveParticipant 191]

Anyone who is so inconsiderate as to just drop you for a hoe as in a hoe over a bro I say: who are you fooling they don’t see you as a friend just drop em.

[HitmanParticipant]

bro’s before hoe’s ! these guys are leeches..sponges..parasites..try keeping a weapon of some sort near the front door…nice to have just in case anyway,..to make it simple , you owe them NOTHING !

[MehParticipant 77]

Just say no. Or do you NEED them in your life?

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

One chance is what they deserve.

I am one of those guys, single and getting in contact with all my old friends, single or not. I appreciate them and i know that i have ignored them. My bad! Wont do it again.

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[MemberParticipant 323]

Its simple. When they show up on your doorstep after no contact for years be blunt. Ask where they have been and why you haven’t heard from them. Shame them a bit. Based on how they answer your questions you will know whether to give them another chance.

I know people that will only contact me if they want something. It used to not be so obvious but I eventually got tired of it and quit being so friendly. Some of them were just like your friends and they couldnt be bothered as long as they were dating someone or married……they dropped off the map. Some of that of course is the old female divide and conquer strategy where they isolate them from others but that’s still not much of an excuse.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

lonestar77 wrote:

in my book it doesn’t work that way.

Agreed

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I’ve had a few buddies pull that crap on me over the years. Literally guys you’d hang out with at least a few times a month, and then they get something going on and can’t even be bothered to return a call or shoot you a random text just to say whats up. Is it so hard to just say “Nah I can’t go out for a pizza tomorrow, gonna go get some pussy,” or just drag the woman along as a third wheel for a few hours then go f~~~ her, or have her drag some of her friends along and make a group event out of it? All it tells me when people drop you like that is you weren’t a real friend, just someone to hang with when they had nothing else going on. For the ones that came back around when whatever else they had going on ended, I just act all excited to hear from them, then tell them give me a call some time we’ll have to hang out again, and when they call or whatever just ignore them. They usually get the hint pretty fast.

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

yup, dealing and have dealt with this myself and I learned quickly.

The first dude wasn’t that much of a close friend so i let him go easily. 2 years later when he is broken up with his gf he is all “we should get together and chill” and i’m just all “yea……” in a nonchalant manner but really meaning “no” knowing his history and the fact that he just wants to hang out because he is single. Then he gets back together with that same girl and I just laugh. See him here and there and just say Hi. he has become an acquaintance.

Then the closer friend who was pussy whipped while in his relationship and would hardly chill with me because he would always be busy with his GF and buying into her toxic drama. Now that he is broken up with her, he is trying hard to lean on me and reaching out to other friends which i find funny, because when i was going through some tough s~~~ when he was in a relationship, he was just f~~~ing her all day and acting pussy whipped. funny how the tables turn. He is a close friend, so i’m not gonna completely drop him, but I know my boundaries with him now.

Honestly, you just have to gauge it. How much does this “friend” mean to you” ? You know that when he gets his next GF that chances are that it will be the same, so if you accept him, expect this same behavior…but have your boundaries. Don’t invest a lot of time and energy into your friendship if you feel it derailing you from your personal goals. Maybe even limit him to a certain amount of time per week if you need to so you don’t feel “betrayed” or like it was a waste of time when he does it again. Some people are just like that and you can’t change them, so work accordingly.

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