In both cases, you didn’t do anything different – or even wrong! – you only wanted to be with her. So the line between “most romantic” and “creepy stalker” is purely drawn in her head. Now think on the movie Twilight, and how millions and millions of fangirl teenagers thought it was OMG-SO-HOTT when dead vampire Twilight F~~ Edward snuck into Bella’s room at night to watch her sleep.
That’s actually how narcissism works. Everything is all about how she feels. If she doesn’t like you for whatever reason, you’re a creepy stalker (she’s seeing her own nastiness actually and projecting it into you). If you give her what she wants (telling her how fabulous and wonderful she is) then she projects that too. That’s what Scot M Peck describes. Her feelings are what’s going on.
How you really feel about something or how you really succeed in something doesn’t affect what she sees in you. She sees only what’s in herself and projects into you. If she’s having a bad day, then you feel bad. If she’s having a good day, then you feel good. If your mother died and she had a good day, then you feel good about it. If you won the lottery she might decide that you’re miserable for it. It’s only what she feels that matters. You’re a puppet of her psychiatric condition. You can see how narcissism perpetuates itself
You’re right to say this is crazy. It’s a psychosis. It truly is. It starts from early childhood, and all people get it. We’re all narcissistic when we pop out of the womb. It’s just that nature blesses us with realty. Imagine however that people tried infant girls differently than infant boys. They ignore the crying of boys even though boys cry more and embellish the infant girls. Girls are taught that all their feelings are the universe and they must be dealt with, or else the universe will fall apart. Men are taught that their crying will only be ignored so there’s no point. Men shouldn’t cry, so f~~~ you.
Women are taught to judge men. So then they do it. They’re brought up this way. They’re psychologically f~~~ed up. If I daresay, they’re victims of garbage parenting. They’re seriously psychologically damaged. Should men start treating them correctly, they’ll suffer greatly. You think women can handle it? I think no. It would be hugely devastating.
Imagine if all men decided to tell women to go f~~~ themselves. At first, silence, then cackling. Then the Internet would explode in all sorts of articles. All of the articles in denial. They mock, and ridicule. Then suddenly it switches over as women begin realizing it doesn’t work any more. The switch tactics after tactics. All of them fail. They struggle to find food, they cry for it. They struggle to get jobs, they struggle for everything. They can’t get dates, their OKCupids go silent. Some of them start to hunt men just to prove that they can get attention.
Then the women who stand up for men get torn apart. How dare you XYZ? The whole Internet fires up again. It’s chaos. Then women start crying. They start realizing men aren’t coming back. They start to realize they have to take care of themselves and they realize how hard it is.
Many of them will grow up but many of them will not. You think a woman will help another woman? Not at all. I think women will shoot to suddenly being super conservative: get it yourself. Those women will die just to prove a point. “You let me die,” they’ll say, “Now you shall forever mourn that you destroyed the most precious thing you ever could have.”
I think it would turn some around, but mostly it’ll just be a horrific onslaught of morbid depression.
sidecar 4 years, 7 months ago.
