Made some great self improvements since becoming mgtow!!

[singledad984Participant 201]

I’ve made some great improvements since becoming mgtow!
1. Almost completed building my dream home.
2. More financially stable then I have ever been.
3. Closer to my daughter than ever.
4. And have greatly improved myself in my field of work.
5. Got off of online dating.
6. I’ve realized that staying home and watching the history channel is more valuable then going over to a girls house and sleeping with her!!

But all these improvements their is one thing I still greatly struggle on and that’s my self worth. I still can’t get rid of the notion that if girls dont talk/like/flirt with me then my self worth is greatly diminished!! Anybody have any advice on how I can improve on this?

[Anonymous 42]

Give it time bro, we’re not picking ourselves up by our bootstraps anymore! Each block of self improvement will help build a fortress of self worth! See modern women for what they are, a wrecking ball of manipulation and hyperworthlessness!

[HaymakerParticipant 226]

Me too buddy. I moved out of my country starting fresh. (I will make an update soon). Got a job in one month with no help, live by myself, taking responsibilities for myself, and getting better, smarter, stronger with each passing day. Its great.

Always going big, Yeah you know the kid, Call me haymaker.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Becoming MGTOW is the improvement. Everything else is icing on the cake.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

My self improvements are:
Learned a New Language
Studied and Converted to another religion and joined a tightnit and warm and friendly community
Helped build a MicroBrewery that became successful of which I am a Co-Owner of.
Increased my Retirement savings by a large amount
Bought some toys
Currently putting in a miniature Orchard and Garden in the backyard
Currently losing weight to get healthy
Next up:
Learning how to cook well
Bodybuilding and running

Followed by paying off my house, building up my boat fund, retiring, renting out my house, buying and refitting a sailboat, and sailing the world.
I figure after fees for the Property Management company, property taxes, repair fund and upkeep, I could probably clear 10K per Year, which would cut in half my living expenses aboard the sailboat while I am sailing the world.

[Anonymous 3]

I can provide you some techniques, but mostly this is a self-discovery path: why do we need other people approval? Especially female approval?
Any answer you may read is “interesting”, but has no power until you find out for yourself.

My two cents…

First Richard Bach, from Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah: “If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.”

Second, a question: how can you extract self-worth from the approval from someone that cannot understand and has no interest in any intelectual knowledge of relevance beyond clothing, gossip and “love” (controlling and ripping of men)?

Third, if your problem is self-validation then you can:
– work on improving and testing yourself;
– decide that whatever you do has to be high quality, so make it your best job ever;
– prepare with great care for whatever you are going to do.

These “small” things make a world of difference. I once was at the jury of a national STEM contest. I spent a lot of time on Google street learning about the place, the ideal would be to visit days before. Next I learned everything I could about the other members of jury. They where high-ranking university teachers and researchers, some of them from other countries. Then I prepared the best observation matrices and assessment descriptors I could.
At the event, not only I could talk with everyone on their subjects, but I was publicly praised for the quality of my job.
What does this kind of thing to one’s sense of worth?

And last, you can learn to reframe. Whenever we feel in ways that are not productive we can ask ourselves if there is a good reason for that. If we find a good reason we correct it. If we do not find it, then we say “why would I feel [insert negative here], when I can [insert skills and achievements]?” Next picture all your successes.

Keep on your path. You are doing great and achieved more than most people on this world.
I would like to be where you are, I would only replace TV with books… But each to his own thing…

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2725]

I had been married on in a relationship for 25 years. Once I got out I noticed:

– How much more time I had
– How much more money I had
– How much more sleep I got
– And How much less stress I had

It was like finally crapping out a huge tapeworm.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[VarunParticipant 2981]

singledad984 wrote:

But all these improvements their is one thing I still greatly struggle on and that’s my self worth. I still can’t get rid of the notion that if girls dont talk/like/flirt with me then my self worth is greatly diminished!! Anybody have any advice on how I can improve on this?

That’s normal. We are biologically and socially programmed to seek validation from women.

Focus more into what you do; your hobbies, etc. Whenever I feel like ‘I’m losing the good feeling of enjoying al that femae attention’ I just go out and take a long walk with my dog, breathe in the fresh air…. at other times I just start writing s~~~ on my blog… or pick up a book I already read, and read it again, at least my favourite parts of that book.

Its all in the head. Once you realize that women are just there to take a part of your resources, it becomes easier to ‘chuck’ them off and live peacefully on your own. One more thing you can do: whenever you fee like that, just go to the Introductions forum and read some of the stories from the new members. A few stories would make you forget the need for female attention, I assure you of that!

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[Anonymous 54]

There are different philosphys on worth.Does one even need worth.God gives us all one worth. Equall for all.What is your worth to youre self.But your worth to women? Who f~~~ing cares. Is it an ego thing,are they attactted to me.They are attracted to money. Congrats on the self improvement.Proud Mgtows allways reach higher .

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

As someone who has never been in a relationship, I view it like this: at the best I am avoiding a lot of drama and having fun. At worst, I am missing out on something some people claim is great, but I’m still having fun! I don’t need it to determine my self worth. If anyone trues to criticize me for not dating and says I’m missing out, I say that I enjoy strength training and I ask if they do too. When they say they don’t, I ask, “I’d say you’re missing out. Should I judge you for that? No, that doesn’t make you a lesser person than me. Me being single doesn’t make me an inferior person either. We each have our own priorities.

[OldBillParticipant]

singledad984 wrote:

But all these improvements their is one thing I still greatly struggle on and that’s my self worth. I still can’t get rid of the notion that if girls dont talk/like/flirt with me then my self worth is greatly diminished!! Anybody have any advice on how I can improve on this?

Step 1: Get a wallet sized photo of you daughter.
Step 2: Write the 6 accomplishments you posted on the back.
Step 3: Put the photo in your wallet.
Step 4: The next time some c~~~ makes you doubt your self worth, pull out the photo and read the back.

All you need is a reminder, brother. All you need is a talisman. That photo is now you rabbit’s foot, four leaf clover, lucky coin, or spent AK-47 round that fell at your feet.

Pretty soon, you won’t even need it because you’ll carry it in your heart. It will still be there though, just in case, and that’s why it will be so powerful.

Be well, brother. Your journey is forging towards the broad, sunlit, uplands of myth.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[singledad984Participant 201]

Thanks guys!! I got to thinking about it some and thought to myself….why do I care what females think of me? I wouldn’t care what a child molester thought of me! I wouldn’t care what a thief thought of me! I wouldn’t care what a murderer thought of me!! So why in the hell should I care what some manipulative gold digging female who just want to take over my resources thinks of me!!!

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Part of it could be putting women on a pedestal. Just remember most women wear makeup and like all humans they s~~~. Now they’re not so special anymore.

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[Maraudrz1Participant 2250]

singledad984 wrote:

But all these improvements their is one thing I still greatly struggle on and that’s my self worth. I still can’t get rid of the notion that if girls dont talk/like/flirt with me then my self worth is greatly diminished!! Anybody have any advice on how I can improve on this?

Just remember what those females are worth. Their self-worth is most likely zero. There self esteem is 0. everything about them is 0. So to want approval from them is a losing cause. If you do get interested in one just remember, all they want is your resources that you have built.

Women's brains and vagina have one thing in common. There is nothing in there until a man puts something in there.

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