Love

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I recently heard someone say “If you want to have love in your life, pick a person and love them.”

It’s an interesting thought, but first let me define my terms.

love – the act of helping to preserve the well being of a person, creature or thing.

Now, when it comes to buildings, statues, automobiles, antiques, pets, personal objects, books, recipes, ideas… you can love them by simply caring for them and passing them on. But when it comes to people, it’s not quite that easy.

As a man, I must admit that I do want love in my life and that some of that love I want to give to people. But I have come to this odd conclusion… that I can only truly love people I don’t give a damn about.

What I mean to say is that, in order for me to be able to give real love to another person, I must have no expectations whatsoever of them. Your experience may be different, of course, but for me, as soon as I develop expectations of a person, my ability to give them love runs cold.

I’m not quite sure what to do about this yet… but at least now I know it and can adjust my sights to match my bias.

How about you guys? Done trying to love people? Still trying to figure it out? Got some other interesting insights? I’m curious to know.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Yes. My personal definition of love is much like yours. It is absolutely not what Hollywood calls love; this is mere infatuation caused by the urge to propagate the species.

My definition of love is agape: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agape

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[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Stargazer wrote:

Done trying to love people?

I had a longer post, but as soon as I hit submit, it logged me out of the forum, and it’s now gone.

In super short form, I am done.

I gave up on the illusions of love.

[QcummerParticipant 652]

yes, you can love as many people places and things as you want.
it does not drain your energy like hate.
unconditional love is abundant.

it’s extremely easy to unconditionally love someone else.

On da flip side, I have a hard time stopping my subconscious from constantly talking s~~~ to myself and being all negative.

Good topic Doc! love ya 😉

[Anonymous 0]

I have just given up caring. If a woman comes along and wants to do all the work, I’ll talk to her but the moment POSSESION comes into the picture. I’m gone.

[Anonymous 42]

Love? First thing: Cast not your pearls before the swine! In other words, don’t try loving some pile of s~~~!
That’s all, nothing more…. Oh wait, 1 thing, most women have promoted themselves (through feminism) to a steaming pile of s~~~! DO NOT LOVE STEAMERS, DISCARD THEM!

[John DoeParticipant 743]

I am strictly speaking for myself and myself only, but to me the desire to be loved has caused more problems in my life than anything else.

In my opinion it is the be all end all of vices to overcome.

I often wonder what freedom could be found if the desire to be loved was done away with altogether.

[UntamedParticipant]

I’ve never been short on love and the majority of weemins I have had a story with were not either.
How many times have we heard “Love wasn’t the problem…”? Yeah, Love wasn’t, the PERSON wielding that sentiment like a weapon was! It can be given, taken, withheld and toyed with at the whims of a potentially dangerous nutty t~~~.
But Love, thank Goodness, is also a gift of kindness to anyone, a family member or a stranger in the street, a good friend or an enemy. It has no barriers besides the hearts and willingness of Mankind and it’s free.
It’s no wonder there is less and less of it in a world where everything is bought and sold.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Doc:

Are you talking about love or “in love”? I love my daughters more than I ever thought humanly possible. I love my 96 year old grandfather, my parents, my brother, my friends.

But “in love”? Sorry ladies, you can be chameleons for too long. You all can go for years before you show your true self. I swear women only care at the beginning of a relationship because they are doing recon work to find out your most vulnerable personality traits so they know where to attack later. You lack the character to just walk away and not get a pound of flesh somehow on the way out the door.

I put the cover of the latest “Catster” magazine as my avatar so all of the fine women that stop by and read my musings know where to go for love from now on. Because it sure isn’t coming from this guy. I’ll save my love for people that deserve it. As it says, your cat really is the perfect Valentine’s date.

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[experiencedParticipant]

Love:
The Trojan Horse women hide inside of til the gate is locked behind it and men go to sleep.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[HitmanParticipant]

Love. A concept. A construct. A word too often used. A lie we tell ourselves. An emotional response. When the s~~~ hits the fan and your on your own, the only one who can love you is yourself. .not your parents, siblings and definitely not a woman. I’m finished with the idea of loving any one or anything besides myself.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

TaxGuy wrote:

Are you talking about love or “in love”? I love my daughters more than I ever thought humanly possible. I love my 96 year old grandfather, my parents, my brother, my friends.

I’m talking about giving love to another person, not being in love with a woman. I’m sorry but I’m just not capable of unconditional love. I have no children and no connection to my family, which may be part of it, but I just can’t see having someone in my life who I just unload my goodness on for nothing in exchange unless it’s a one-off situation and I never expect or care to see them again.

Make of it what you will.

[UntamedParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

women only care at the beginning of a relationship because they are doing recon work to find out your most vulnerable personality traits so they know where to attack later.

You nailed it right on the head, Doc!

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[VarunParticipant 2981]

When you love, you don’t have expectations – I am on board with this idea. Except, romance is anything but this. Romantic love is defined as a state where you ‘love’ and expect to be ‘loved bak’…and you get sad when your feelings are not reciprocated. People say that love ‘hurts’ .. I ask them.. “how can it hurt? Unless, of course, you were expecting something in return and didn’t get it?”

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[ghostParticipant]

I agree with you. That is one of the primary reasons why I have learned to be easier on myself for past “mistakes”. The only mistake I made was that I expected something in return. If I truly loved someone the way I thought I did, then I wouldn’t expect anything back.

That gives me peace now and has helped me move forward from past relationships. Although, because of the way I was treated, I choose not to stay friends or be involved in the lives of those people. I have no regrets with this. I also don’t feel comfortable being friends with a woman who is now someone else’s wife.

By the way, this is not restricted to emotional love with females but also brotherly love with other males.

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