Losing Friends After Divorce

[wyrParticipant 591]

It’s now a little over a year since my last divorce. I now understand my brother in-law and I are no longer friends. When you get divorced (or end a friendship), accept that some very good friends will find it difficult to remain friends with you, especially if they’re married to your ex’s sister.
There wasn’t any drama, I just finally realized it. I’m sure many of you can relate. I’m trying not to take it personally and the whiskey is helping with that.

Self-improvement is my religion. Sovereignty is my god.

[AussieParticipant 2509]

We call them “fair weather friends” or gutes wetter freunde for the schnitzel eaters among us !

Who the f~~~ needs them ??

" I feel threatened "

[Anonymous 3]

I think most of us ,especially after a long relations~~~ have similar experiences. It sucks, but were they really friends or simply comrades in arms?Guys you spend time with at family or social gatherings,not by your choice but simply they are there at the hive approved gathering. I can’t think of one guy I met socially in the course of 3 relations~~~s (yeah I was a slow learner) who I would bother catching up with now.
It’s hard work being friends with a cuck. What I do is call & say I’m going to a game on Saturday. After getting the standard reply of “I will have to ask ” I just reply cool & leave it at that. No follow up call I just go to the game, if they show up great.
It took me long enough to unc~~~ my life so why should I get f~~~ed around by somebody else’s problem (bitch). To me Mgtow is about self reliance, yes it’s nice to spend time with buddies

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Friends?
What is that?

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

wyr wrote:

accept that some very good friends will find it difficult to remain friends with you, especially if they’re

Not really very good friend then if they ever were.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

I haven’t lost any (mainly b/c I didn’t really like anyone in her family anyway). I’ve made some new ones and some of them have hatchet wounds – so I’m being very careful.

Don’t fret the loss off them. If you liked your BIL then reach out to him and tell him it was unfortunate that it didn’t work out with his sissy and lets have a beer, or whisky in your case.

How can he blame you if you didn’t beat her or screw around on her?

My sister divorced my BIL who I liked. The dumb ass remarried and is now again divorced and dating seriously his potential #4.

I’d like to meet him for a beer and ask him how can someone so bright and successful keep stabbing himself in the eye with a sharp stick.

[MonkParticipant 16988]

wyr wrote:

I’m trying not to take it personally and the whiskey is helping with that.

If he’s being stupid, it’s his problem, not yours.

Move on and leave him in his bubble.

[narwhalParticipant]

From my experience more friends are lost when someone gets married or enters a long term relationship than through a divorce. It’s happened over and over again. A good friend who you hang out with on the regular just doesn’t have time for that anymore. When he does, the new woman has to be there. It kills friendships every time.

I must say that I was just as guilty of that myself in the past.

And yes, I lost some friends in the divorce, but I didn’t really have good friends then. Acquaintances really. Divorce actually freed me up to go make new quality friends….until those friends got married.

Ok. Then do it.

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

All the male “friends” I had were couple friends. Met two of them a few times for breakfast or dinner after the divorce filing. Their wives were part of her hive. After her telling them all of the truth and a lot of lies none of guys had time for me. Yes, I did some things wrong, haven’t we all.

Either their wives wouldn’t let them see me or they chose not to ask for my side of the divorce. I wrote them off and am making new friends. Not a loss to me if that is their character.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Two Time Winner wrote:

All the male “friends” I had were couple friends. Met two of them a few times for breakfast or dinner after the divorce filing. Their wives were part of her hive. After her telling them all of the truth and a lot of lies none of guys had time for me. Yes, I did some things wrong, haven’t we all.

Either their wives wouldn’t let them see me or they chose not to ask for my side of the divorce. I wrote them off and am making new friends. Not a loss to me if that is their character.

TTW

Well said !
TRUE Friends are Golden! The book of Job in the bible enlightens the meaning of Friendship.

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

If your brother-in-law is such a pansy that he bases his friendships on who his wife tells him to be friends with then that is one friendship you are better off not having.

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