Looking ahead… and looking back

[acubensParticipant 13]

Hello brothers. I have read a lot of great stories on this site and it inspires confidence that this has become a movement. I’m not sure what the age range is here but I’m 39.

The past fifteen years have been a hell of a ride. Somehow, I managed to survive two marriages with all of my finances, assets, and sanity intact (okay, the last one is debatable). Also, neither marriage produced any children because I was extremely careful. Now here I am, approaching 40 years old this year, and I have to ask myself how I did it unscathed. I guess it was plain luck.

My first marriage was in my early 20’s. I was naive and had no idea what I was getting into. It failed seven years later with her cheating with her ex boyfriend while I was across the country working to support us. At first, I was shocked and numbed. But, with supportive friends, I got through it. A few months later, when the realization settled in, I was so happy I did cartwheels. It was like a great weight had been lifted as I told myself “She’s someone else’s problem now.”

My second marriage came two years after the first one ended. I thought to myself, “Hey, it could have been me. I’ll give it another shot.” Well, whether or not it was me, the second one was worse. Her drug problems and codependent parents dominated our lives. I was on the road to ruin. I managed to get a lawyer friend of mine to intervene and scare the hell out of her. We separated, signed the papers a year later, and I was on my own again. Side note; she is currently living with her parents and two kids from a junkie deadbeat boyfriend.

There’s an old Chinese proverb: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” That is how I view the two marriages. There will not be a third time. I learned a lot, and lost only a little. Indeed, I have many friends who are trapped in miserable marriages with dominating wives who are sucking them dry; and not in the good, pre-marriage way.

That’s the quick and dirty version of how I got here. I have been on my own now for seven years.

"Don't you draw the queen of diamonds, boy. She'll beat you if she's able." -Glenn Frey

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome! This site abounds in red pill knowledge. You are in the right place.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[GrumpyParticipant]

Welcome
this is a fine place to begin the next stage of the live, learn. and move ahead in our journey through life

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[EinherjarParticipant 608]

Welcome brother!

It does seem that you have been aware of womens deceptive behavior for quite some time already. Your story is similar to my own, with the exception that I have never married. A man can take only so much, before he has had enough, before he sees the true nature of all women. And in so doing, he sees that he is better of being on his own;)

As the old romans used to say: Learn as if you would live forever, but live as if you would die tomorrow!

Cheers!

The worst form of inequality is to try to make unequal things equal - Aristotle (384 - 322 BC)

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

welcome brother.
At least you survived with your finances intact.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Brother, Home at Last.

[Anonymous 42]

acubens wrote:

Side note; she is currently living with her parents and two kids from a junkie deadbeat boyfriend.

@acubens, every level of f~~~ed-up seems to be the norm with modern women! I’m watching an early thirties newly minted dad (2 kids)go through a divorce after finding out she was sleeping with a dope dealer (her dope dealer)WTF!!! He was told she has the right to invite anyone she wants into their home (including her c~~~-stick dope dealer!)DOUBLE WTF!!! The kick in the ass,,,, it couldn’t have happened to a nicer guy, she also lied through her teeth about being physically abused, so now he’s in for the battle of his life! TRIPLE WTF!!!

acubens wrote:

There will not be a third time. I learned a lot, and lost only a little. Indeed, I have many friends who are trapped in miserable marriages with dominating wives who are sucking them dry; and not in the good, pre-marriage way.

Third time’s a charm! For that I award those men the title of T-1000 Gynomangina! The most unstoppable morons to ever possess a dick!

[HawkeParticipant 197]

Good thing you held the line with that second one, could have been lot worse.
Btw I honestly can´t get how a man can marry like three to five times – and yeah I knew some of them. Those can´t be helped anymore.

Qui audet adipiscitur - Who dares, wins

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