Living Alone

[VectorParticipant 178]

Guys, I would like to hear your opinions on living alone.  I already know the advantages of living alone, compared to living with a woman, or male room mates.  This pertains to all you men who are currently living alone, single and never married and/or divorced and free.  Does it get lonely?  Do you ever feel like you have nobody to spend the holidays with?  Do you ever fear dying old alone with nobody sitting next to you on your deathbed?  Do any of you ever regret living alone?  Does this increase or decrease your chances of getting laid?  Attracting the opposite sex?

This should be an interesting thread as I am considering moving into my own place, by myself.

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

No, it doesn’t get lonely for me and I live alone. But that’s why many people get married, because they fear BEING alone and they want to feel useful, and that they have someone to spend all the holidays with. Not because they actually love the person that they want to be married, but because their fear of loneliness far outweighs their concerns on the risks of marriage.

I have many hobbies. Book-writing and movie collecting is only some of them. And on top of all that, surfing the internet keeps me busy as well. I have two jobs that take up most of my time. Working and then sleeping takes up 80 percent of my week. The remaining 20 percent, I like to keep up on my hobbies and don’t have time to think about what being lonely all means.

Loneliness is just a state of mind. If you don’t have jack s~~~ to do with your time, then I guess it’d be possible for you to feel lonely. And having someone to spend the holidays with?

First of all, holidays are overrated, and you are CONDITIONED by society to want to feel the need to be with someone around that time just because it happens to show up on a f~~~ing calendar. F~~~ that s~~~, and use the holidays to spoil YOURSELF like you feel like you can’t do the rest of the year. Go buy a $2,000 expense that you’ve saved up for as a reward. And think about the married men out there who don’t have that luxury of spending two thousand dollars unless it was on their WIFE. Like on the movie, “The Family Man.” Nicholas Cage is a NYC billionaire suddenly thrust into about 2 months of an alternate reality where he is married, living in a Jersey suburb, his Ferrari from his other life is replaced by a minivan, his billionaire job is now a tire salesman position, and his thoughts of wanting to buy a $2,000 suit is thought of by his wife as SELFISH because “that money is supposed to be for our kids’ college fund.”

Yep, watch THAT movie and I guarantee, all thoughts of loneliness will go down the f~~~ing toilet. Either that or your next visit to Walmart will clear some things up in perspective for you.

And while you’re at Walmart, feel free to splurge on food. Because the other married men…they might not be lonely, but anything that they buy for themselves that they HOPE they can eat later on is all consumed by everyone else in the household before that poor guy can have a chance. $40 worth of groceries can last me for 10 days on average. $40 of groceries can feed a family of four or five…for a day or two. So think about the luxuries that being LONELY means that you can afford, and pretty soon, you’ll feel happy as hell.

I was able to type all this up and post it in 2 or 3 minutes flat without a single interruption. Can a married guy say the same? Oh…and by the way, I’m spending my next holiday weekend with my nieces and nephews, which is Easter. And that’s MY choice. Not because I’m OBLIGATED to, but because I’m the favorite uncle, those kids are a DELIGHT, and their mother(my younger sister) is a f~~~ing awesome woman who has never tried to make me feel ashamed for being almost 30 and single. In fact, the only thing she has said about my bachelor status is that, “At least you have plenty of time to schedule visits with US so my kids can see more of you.”

Yep. Couldn’t be lonely when I have such a great sister and 5 great kids less than 30 miles from my house to go hang out with. And I better go call my sister and confirm our plans for Easter weekend.

[BurgundyParticipant 1525]

Living alone doesn’t equal having no contact with other human beings man. The only time you get lonely, is in the beginning, when you get your own flat, and were used to sharing it, or if you are dependant on social interactions on a daily basis, but being so, means that you are afraid to sit down and think about where you are, and where you are headed, pretty much like drowning your own thoughts with booze.

 

Depending where you are in life, it can differ greatly but a hobby or personal project, is something that will continue to build your own forte for personal freedom, or furthering your own career in life

[Anonymous 0]

Hi Vector,

you say living alone and then talk about being alone, right? Well I am living alone, but I am not alone, I am with myself. I like it, coming home to my apartement and nobody is there. That’s my private Destination. I don’t have to care, just about myself. I don’t have to hear complainings about this or that and when I am in the mood having a beer instead of dinner, I do it. I don’t have to justify.

Vector wrote:

Do you ever feel like you have nobody to spend the holidays with?

If I want to spend my holidays with a good company I go there where I can have it. Normally I do not plan my entire Holidays when I stay at home. I make a list o the things which have to be done and a time schedule when I want to have them done. The rest is for spontaneous activities.

Vector wrote:

Do you ever fear dying old alone with nobody sitting next to you on your deathbed?

Jesus Christ, NO. The worst thing I can imagine is dying and someone sitting there crying and waiting until I am gone.

Vector wrote:

Do any of you ever regret living alone?

I just can speak for myself, in this case I say No regrets.

Vector wrote:

Does this increase or decrease your chances of getting laid?

I would say it increases the chances, but it is difficult to say because in the times I was in a relationship I do not care about other women.
Living alone makes it easier for me, it is harder to make her understand that it is over when it is over.

CHEERS!!!

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

I wouldn’t say lonely, boring is probably a better description…

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[Lucas BuckParticipant 51]

It’s swings and roundabouts.  It can be boring but on the flip side, you have your own space and can please yourself, this to me is much more important.

Vector, your opinion here is the only one that matters as far as whether living alone is something you want to do or not.  And I guess you’ll only know when you try it.  We might all love it but it doesn’t necessarily mean you will.  It sounds like you have your doubts and feel like you need a woman to be happy, which I guess means you aren’t MGTOW right?

[Anonymous 5]

Burgundy wrote:

The only time you get lonely, is in the beginning

This was true for me. In hindsight I think it was more a combination of self pity and lack of organisation than anything else.

Long before I was red pilled I realised my worst fear of living alone. It was to die and not to be found, and eventually be found stinking the house out.. You must have read of cases like these.
When I thought it through I now consider it hilarious. I hope they don’t find me for years and I hope I stink the whole neighbourhood out.

If you’re really after intense loneliness, get married.
You’ll hear from both men AND women that they’ve never felt so isolated and alone.

[davParticipant 422]

I felt more lonely in my past married days than I do living alone.

Vector,

Look after yourself, eat well and exercise. Starting out is the hardest part. You will be fine.

All the best.

[Zuberi TauParticipant 10606]

The best thing about living alone is that you don’t have to answer to anyone.

Hopefully, someday my kitchen will look like this.

 

[Anonymous 0]

Lucas Buck wrote:

It can be boring but on the flip side, you have your own space and can please yourself

Well spoken. You just can do it, knowing a Dollar is a Dollar and not just 50 Cents or less.

Zuberi Tau wrote:

Hopefully, someday my kitchen will look like this

Cool, man. Just replace the water kettle against this one

hehe.

[Anonymous 2]

Feeling lonely has nothing to do with living with someone. Why would I feel alone when I have the freedom to have friends over to do whatever we want, whenever we want, without the nagging control of a housewife telling me I can’t? That’s backward logic, your chances of meeting up with people who’s company you greatly enjoy is actually diminished by marriage.

Lucas Buck wrote:

It sounds like you have your doubts and feel like you need a woman to be happy, which I guess means you aren’t MGTOW right?

Let us not question each other’s MGTOWness because of our doubts, we are all here to fight the same indoctrination. I myself have trouble also defining a life goal now that family and marriage have been off the table for a while. Not all men have a concrete manifest destiny that excludes women entirely, but I don’t think that’s wrong. It is in our nature to desire a connection with women, it is society that expects the impossible within those relationships. As a MGTOW it is this expectancy to submit, to sacrifice, for the chance of having children (legacy) that I detest. It all comes down to your base desire to reproduce. I think it’s most important to not let that desire f~~~ over your life because it isn’t worth it, that’s the lesson I’ve been learning.

[SurlymonocleParticipant 38]

I don’t fear dying alone; because dying alone should be the ideal…at what point did dying become a “group activity?”  Everybody here is right, it is only “lonely” at first.   I like charity work, and when I help out, I meet new people everyday, and I also make new friends.  There is so much to life, being solo is just one of the steps to living a life to be proud of.  A man makes his own life, and no matter how he labels his choices, he still makes his life.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

…your chances of meeting up with people who’s company you greatly enjoy is actually diminished by marriage.

I have seen that countless times: A man gets married, and wifey makes him ditch all his old friends. I can think of an exception or two, but they only serve to prove the rule.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Lucas BuckParticipant 51]

Anonymous wrote:

Let us not question each other’s MGTOWness because of our doubts, we are all here to fight the same indoctrination.

Just to clarify, I was just asking him and no slight was intended either way, I respect people’s right to live as they want (so long as it doesn’t harm others).

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

Burgundy wrote:

Living alone doesn’t equal having no contact with other human beings man.

I second this.

I have friends and family for interaction or even online interaction. If I feel like just being around a social scene I’ll go catch a beer at a bar, usually a sports bar. I used to feel the “loneliness” of not having anyone around but eventually realized I could be happy alone. Happier even, and visits to two of my married friends often reinforce that belief.

[DanLimitlessParticipant 26]

Living alone is INCREDIBLE.

It is always quiet and peaceful, I can come and go as I please, see whoever I want, whenever I want. I feel sorry for people in relationships and those who are cohabitating. I feel sorry that they require that.

This is the next level of life believe it. If somebody asks about growing old and alone, I tell them enthusiastically with my fingers crossed “that’s the plan!”

[RennieParticipant]

Living alone is pretty cool. You can do whatever you want – even crazy stuff that wouldn’t be acceptable otherwise, cook whatever you want,whenever you want. Spend hours outside exploring, or catch the train to the big city and hang out down there without having to explain to anyone else. I usually find ways to entertain myself, like hobbies, fixing things, etc.

[ManocalypseParticipant 321]

I have had one or two dark nights of the soul but that’s out of over 4,000 so you get used to it…

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Living alone is not the same thing as being alone.  In fact “living alone” is really just an expression that means: “Having total and absolute control of your own home.”  That’s it.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.  Whether or not you choose to let people come into your home is up to you.

If I want to let some woman sleep over, I can.  If I want to go out hiking with my mates, nothing is stopping me.  If I want to rebuild an engine on my coffee table so I can watch one of my movies on my television while I do it, I can (and have).  And if the woman I let sleep with me the night before has a problem with that, well she can leave, because it’s my house.  My rules.  I live alone.  And she’ll be back.

[Sky-OParticipant 18934]

I don’t live alone. . .

I have an awesome roommate, best friend and loyal companion.

11 years old as of October 2014

A purebred Maltese that was abandoned by a self absorbed and narcissistic slut 9.5 years ago, left at my house when she left to continue her journey riding the c~~~ carousel. He’s the best thing that came from that relationship.

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