Life Update

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Hey guys, I’ve not been on in some time since I don’t have a functioning laptop and typing everything out on phone is too tiring, haha! I’ve been on vacation from work the past week, and have this week off as well. I’m finally at a friend’s laptop at the moment, and have had a LOT to say, so this might be a tad lengthy.

If anyone remembers me being stressed a few months ago over my math class (the ONE I need for my degree), I PASSED IT. If all goes right, I’ll have an Associate’s degree by the end of 2017…before I turn 30.

Saw Star Wars: The Force Awakens. Liked it, though I feel like they made Rey the “perfect chick” that could do no wrong. She barely suffered any physical damage and she knew how to function Han’s Millennium Falcon better than HE did? HUH!? Kylo Ren was pretty cool though. People say he’s whiny and emotional, but that runs in the Skywalker family! I’d love to learn more about Snoke after seeing him. I can’t help but think he IS Plagueis. He looks beat up, and I wonder if those are scars from Palpatine’s attempted murder. That, and the soundtrack of Snoke sounds eerily similar to when Palpatine was telling Anakin about the “tragedy of Darth Plagueis the Wise.”

Christmas went alright. Went out Christmas Eve for Asian food (I’m a sucker for sushi) with my father, sister, nephew, and grandmother…the very grandmother that threatened to kill me, even under a false allegation because she would “just know.” She DID throw insults and critique, but it was hilarious when I actually defended myself against her blatantly lying to my face and trying to control me. We’ll just say the argument she tried to present ended with her nearly crying and pouting because she claimed I wasn’t “respecting her” because I was “dressed like a street person.” I went mostly to see my father whom I rarely see…and we had a VERY good conversation afterward (and he’s not too happy with his mother threatening me AND insulting me). The good that came out of that day was his and my conversation about life in general. He’s having to work at Wal-Mart after being laid off, but found an online job on the side that helps him…and he gave me a reference to do the same so I could make a little extra money. I can’t wait to start whatever project they give me if they hire me.

As for Christmas Day, I went to my mother’s and got some decent gift cards…enough to help me get a PlayStation 4…that of which I’m happy to have. Other than work, it looks like I won’t be leaving my apartment much. HAH! 😀 As some know, my step-dad (mother’s newer husband) is my ex-girlfriend’s former step-dad. The ex was over for the Christmas get-together as well along with her now-fiance. It took a lot not to tell that dude “RUN FROM HER BEFORE SHE GOES ‘LESBIAN’ ON YOU, TOO!” She’s kind of blown up a bit since I last saw her.

Now, there’s one thing that’s really been bothering me, and maybe some of you more experienced men can help me out here. Again, this is lengthy, but I imagine this has happened to the other guys on here for SURE.

I posted a while back about my best friend of 16 years now having a girlfriend that seems to control his life…it’s only gotten worse. He and I have never argued over ANYTHING. He and I go to each other for literally every thing wrong in our lives. He’s told me recently they’ve argued…and they’ve argued A LOT. It was mostly because she tells him “you don’t want to go out and do anything,” and when he’d tell her “let’s go do something,” she’d respond with “I don’t like to go do the things you do!” As of yesterday, I feel like he’s taking it out on me, despite telling me he will NOT be controlled by her. He started bringing up these times that he helped me financially when I was in a rut, going as far back as 2010! He claimed I owe him that money even though he said at the times he helped me that he was helping me because I’m his best friend.

Now, he’s demanding the 400 or so dollars that he’s helped me with over the years, and is cutting me off from his Internet connection we agreed to share payments on! I don’t know what the heck is going on. He’s slowly dipped into deeper depression while he’s also been posting all over Facebook how glad he is celebrating his first anniversary with his girlfriend. He’s been taking her to EXPENSIVE restaurants, and now he’s after me for money he helped me with…money I don’t have currently! She pays half his rent, but I think he spends more than that on her each month (not to mention she has a car payment that she can barely afford)…that, and his military benefits pay him more a month than I make from my full-time job. He KNOWS my financial situation, but he thinks that just because I got my tuition reimbursement from my job, that I can immediately pay him back (that money is going to my NEXT classes). I haven’t spoken to him since then.

He and I have NEVER had a disagreement, confrontation, or argument over ANYTHING. I can’t help but wonder…does SHE have anything to do with this? Why is he coming after me now? Is it because he “knows” he has his girlfriend to fall back on despite losing me as a friend? He JUST told me not even a week ago after their last fight that he didn’t like “drama” and he isn’t a big fan of how she likes to go partying/drinking with her friends all the time…though he tried justifying it by saying it would “improve his much-needed social skills.”

I DO remember a mutual (former) friend of ours that he dated told me that he “secretly” told her that he saw me as competition our entire lives, and hated seeing me succeed where he wasn’t. I was always the one that “got the girl.” I was the financially and educationally successful one…well, now he’s ahead of me in ALL of those aspects. I don’t see it as a race, I’m doing my own thing…but maybe it has to do with his need to be “ahead” or the “alpha” between us?

Have any of you ever had a woman separate you from a great male friend of yours?

[RoyDalParticipant]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

If anyone remembers me being stressed a few months ago over my math class (the ONE I need for my degree), I PASSED IT. If all goes right, I’ll have an Associate’s degree by the end of 2017…before I turn 30.

Hooray! Good for you.

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Have any of you ever had a woman separate you from a great male friend of yours?

Yes, it happens all the time. In fact the exception is when she doesn’t try to drive a wedge between him and his old friends.

He is subordinating himself to her of his own free will. You just have to let him go his own way, whatever way he chooses.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Oh yes. I’m certainly letting him make this choice on his own. He knows about the words I’ve put forward about his situation, but he’s obviously choosing the other path, which is totally fine.

I will admit it’s certainly a shame, though. I’ve never let a woman between himself and I, but despite him claiming to do the same, he’s certainly bowed to the past couple of women he’s been with (save for a girl he dated who lived in Japan who wasn’t all that bad, really).

A shame. I thought despite making it through life alone, I wouldn’t feel COMPLETELY alone because I had his friendship (having him living next door had been awesome until recently). Now I really AM starting to feel alone in this. Women have been pulling my male friends from me more than with this one friend of mine.

[Anonymous 29]

Good to see you back and doing ok.
Sadly your friend is under pussy influence so pay him back as soon as you can if you can and distance yourself from him for a while.
Not all may be lost but be prepared for it.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I just never thought he’d turn around and suddenly be telling me “OH, YOU OWE ME $400 NOW.” Not after he said the first $250 he lent me in 2010 was to help me in a bad court case so I could avoid a warrant, and the other $150 was a “MAYBE” if I could come up with it (I got a referral bonus in my apartments of $300 for him moving in the same complex and I told him I MIGHT be able to pay him half of it…now he’s clung onto that “MIGHT” for 8 months now).

I’m thinking after my lease is up in exactly 4 months, I’ll be downgrading to a smaller, cheaper apartment anyway. I just have to make it through these 4 months.

I’m not one to avoid paying people back unless I ABSOLUTELY can’t. I’m in a financial situation where I’m better than I was before, but the money I save now goes to NEW needs that will improve my life (schooling and saving for another more reliable vehicle). If I was significantly better off financially, I’d be more than happy to pay him back to make him feel better…but to me, it seems more like he’s running to me for several hundred dollars he probably blew on his girlfriend on their past 3 outings they’ve had the past 3 days in a row.

[WallyParticipant]

Congratulations on passing your class!

I enjoyed Star Wars too just to see Han Solo and Chewie again.

Sorry to hear about your friendship deteriorating, when women become involved that is usually what happens.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Anonymous 42]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

does SHE have anything to do with this?

Governor MC, great to hear from ya!
The pest thing you can do for your own sanity is to pay him the $400 as soon as possible, bit by bit, piece by piece, even if you have to starve, be in dept with no man!
I know he’s your friend but he’s soaking up estrogen and taking on HER personality, he’s starting to worship the at the holy virginal temple!
It’s more important for you to stand alone and be stronger than you think you are! We all underestimate our will for resolve.
Her puppet strings attached to him are nothing but trip-lines for you!
Take out your MGHOW scissors and start cutting the lines, they’re sure to snap back and hit her in the face……

[UntamedParticipant]

Congrats on passing the Math test! Next year will be important for you looking at getting your degree, you don’t need a social life poisoned with c~~~f~~~ery and gynocentrism. As the others have said, pay your “friend” and clean house. He needs the money to spend on the black whole that is his g/f. Best you can do is stay above the insanity and let him pick his way through the minefield. You have more important matters to attend to I’m sure.
Nice of you to drop by. Will be waiting for an update.
Peace

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10977]

Great to see you back and I am happy that you accomplished your goal with the math class.
As far as a female separating me from a good male friend? On more than one occasion and once it was the girlfriend separating me and another time it was someone else’s girl driving a wedge between me and my friend. I used to take it personal and now I understand what’s going on. Good friends always find their way back as long as the woman is out of the picture. That’s what happened in every one of my instances.
Keep your head up and hang in there.

She's not looking for love. She's looking for someone to finance the lifestyle that SHE thinks SHE deserves.

[AttonParticipant]

You owe the guy nothing money wise, unless you both agreed that you would pay back afterward then its just a favor. Honestly call this guy out and share your observations, hell just send him the link to this thread.
Also good job on your math class.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

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