Life Update, Yet Again

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Thought I’d let everyone know how I am, seeing how some were asking about my new job and whatnot. I am more than appreciative of everyone. It’s nice to know at least SOME people out in the world care! 😛

(Also, on a really serious note, thanks to those on here that have helped me out with my GoFundMe so far to keep me on my feet by either donating or sharing it…I am eternally grateful, you guys have no idea.)

I’m working for a contractor for the State of Arkansas right now. Good foot in the door for a state job. It’s only going to last until the end of the year supposedly, but they say I’m doing a good job, so at least I know it’ll be stable.

I have a SECOND interview on Monday for another job I interviewed for two weeks ago. This position is temp as well, but the company that I’m working under REALLY wants someone to come in, learn the ropes, and take over as a permanent SITE MANAGER soon. So after my temp contract would end, if I performed well enough, the job would promote to a site manager, and VERY quickly. It would have 40 hours and a lot of overtime (which I’m fine with). The temp position is merely an admin assistant…but get this…the pay is nearly TWICE what I’m making now. It’s $20 an HOUR (I’m pulling in $10.50 at the moment), and from what I read up on the company, I’d get at LEAST a $7 an hour raise if I got promoted to site manager. That’s over $50k a year, more than I’d ever DREAM of making before I’ve even received my associate’s degree. Being by myself with no kids, I could essentially pay off my truck I’ve been living in within just a few months (I owe another $6k or so on it) and start saving, saving, and MORE saving (as it’s the only thing I’m making payments on anymore).

I’m still sleeping in Wal-Mart parking lots and using the HUGE single person bathroom at my nearby storage unit for cleaning up when I need to, but I’m doing exactly what I need to so I can SURVIVE, and it’s WORKING. This will definitely be a learning experience for me in the long run. Living in my truck and doing what I can to make it will definitely be an experience I’ll never forget.

[ShineParticipant 1696]

Keep your chin up, keep a relaxed stance, and keep moving forward.

"Society is to blame" Denton

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Lots of coulds and woulds…. and IFs.

You put an unbelievable amount of faith in an INTERVIEW. I wouldn’t even talk about it before it happens , but perhaps that’s just me. In your mind you’re decorating a “site managers” corner office before you even have the job(!) and you’re actually counting the salary.

You need to aim WAY higher than this. You’re too impressed with a $20/hour job. You can make $10/hr plus great benefits pumping coffee at Starbucks.

Governor Megachris% wrote:

It’s only going to last until the end of the year supposedly, but they say I’m doing a good job, so at least I know it’ll be stable.

Pay attention to how you phrase these things because it’s very clear that you’re NOT IN CHARGE OF ANYTHING. You hinge outcomes FAR too much on what others think and tell you. Thats’ not a success model. It should be UNACCEPTABLE TO YOU that you would ever be terminated because you are “so f~~~ing awesome”. You should be making your boss CLAW his way into keeping you.

You follow?

Start creating your own positives.

• “They say I’m doing a good job”
Don’t you KNOW that you are?

• “It’s only going to last until the end of the year supposedly”
Supposedly?

• “So at least I know it’ll be stable”
You can make your own mind up on that. Put another iron in the fire and get a second job washing dishes in a restaurant where you can get a free meal every day. Whatever it takes. Then either of them can fire you and you’re still working!

If you were my son and I heard you speaking this way, I would show you that I “care” by shaking you by the shoulders and telling you to snap out of this “lost fart in a thunderstorm” attitude of yours. A person who cares wouldn’t send you $20, they would change your mind FOR you.

It pains me to see a young guy talking like this.
UP your opinion of yourself TODAY.

You need a few $$? I’ll send them to you. HAPPILY. But it’s not gonna help you. You have a $2000 goal and received $75 in a month. $2000 is not a goal. You can get a job cleaning toilets in a hotel for $500 a week…. and work a part time second job washing dishes and beat your “goal” if you just put your mind to it.

That was my very first job on a company payroll. Washing f~~~ing dishes part time – stinking, disgusting, dishes – with steak bones, wet fries, and smelly food and sometimes PUKE dripping from the plate. The dish pit was a disgusting hell hole. And I thought it was a THRILL to be promoted to clean calamari. Have you ever cleaned calamari? You stink like a lesbian bar all day long. That was once called “a promotion”.

Nobody GAVE me a f~~~ing thing.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Hey bro, I know we never really talked much, and Keymaster already put the hand writing on the wall, but seeing that I used to be homeless, I wanted to share some of my story, going through that.

Like you, I am also from Texas, and was homeless there as well, during that period of my life. I made the mistakes Keymaster warned you about. Counting the bird in the bush type of s~~~.

Needless to say, the rug was ripped out from beneath me, and it went completely south. At times, I was so hungry, I would go into fast food places & ask if I could do some dishes or anything, for a bite to eat. Needless to say, because of laws, they told me, they could not allow that.

However, sometimes I would be given free food. I gave things I had in my car to some of them to express my gratitude. Some would not even except it, and told me to keep my chin up and so on.

Anyway, in all my times of being down & out, I have had to always formulate a solid plan, in order to get out of the s~~~. Day labor for daily cash helped a lot, seeing I was living day to day.

I lived in my car for a very long time, but I finally was able to get enough cash flow going, to get into a cheap weekly rate motel.

I hope things work out for you as soon as possible. I know it’s stressful at the very least, having s~~~ be so tight.

I don’t want to sound like I am kissing Keymaster’s ass here, but he is telling you the absolute God’s truth.

Best wishes bro!

[Anonymous 42]

Gov. Just keep on plugging away at more employment and pull your head back and chin up, you’ve been through one hell of an ordeal hitting economic skid row!

KM is right about changing over to the now, here, today thinking and try not to “frame” your future, do it by keeping your eyes on opportunity like a stray dog in a carnival eyeballing a kid and his ice cream cone or the girl dropping peanuts. You have no time to sit around and dream about anything, when they say “raking-it-in” think of a job as only one tine to a rake and we all know a rake has at least a dozen tines. Each side job gets you more contacts to other opportunities, Get it?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Phantom wrote:

I wanted to share some of my story,

Thank you.

If I could show Chris a photo of my first apartment… in a basement @ $300 a month, f~~~ing roaches…. mini fridge… 2 burner hotplate…. and a view of a brick wall….. when my parents saw it, they reacted like I was living in the gutter.

Some people would be “grateful” for that, but because I wasn’t, I got the f~~~ out of there in a hurry and worked my entire 20s away. I always had two jobs.

When I was 19 (after working abroad for a while), I moved back home and worked in a cheap chicken restaurant and bought my first s~~~box car for $1800. I borrowed the money for it. I made f~~~ing nothing and got $2 tips. $30 was a good day. One day I was serving an elderly couple and the woman puked on her plate. I cleaned up her PUKE. And after I did, the husband told me his wife seemed to have lost her dentures. By this time the garbage was already in the dumpster outside. I rolled up my sleeves and climbed into the DUMPSTER to dig her dentures out of the garbage bags with a fork(!) for a $5 tip.

It was the most disgusting experience. But it was something.

TWENTY YEARS LATER I actually went to that restaurant again to the takeout counter.
A guy I worked with 20 years prior was STILL WORKING THERE. I couldn’t believe my eyes.

True story.

Humor = tragedy + time.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Keymaster wrote:

Thank you.

Thank you as well man…

Keymaster wrote:

True story.

Humor = tragedy + time.

And also for sharing all that.

The mind picture worked for me…

Damn.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Keymaster wrote:

I got the f~~~ out of there in a hurry and worked my entire 20s away

This is what I’m terrified of. You live, and are young, only once. If you can only scrape by with constant grueling work, and there’s no time to actually enjoy life, what’s the point of being alive?

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Rockmaninoff wrote:

This is what I’m terrified of. You live, and are young, only once. If you can only scrape by with constant grueling work, and there’s no time to actually enjoy life, what’s the point of being alive?

I recall feeling/thinking the same way when I wore a younger man’s clothes. Of course, that lead me down the path of chasing after something I thought would make it meaningful, beyond just working.

So I started my journey chasing after a woman that might love me, and bring romance and intimacy and purpose into my life, and by doing so, would answer my question, just like your question.

I have no words other than being thankful to Keymaster for setting such an awesome example. I can not imagine not having this site for us men, or maybe I just don’t want to.

Either way, it lite a fire under my ass to do something with my life that I consider to have purpose & meaning…

Even if all I ever accomplish in my life, is just being among the greats, that are here…

That will do. If I ever pull off anything more in my life, I see it as a plus. Which I have full intentions of pursuing, even if it never comes to fruition.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Rockmaninoff wrote:

This is what I’m terrified of. You live, and are young, only once. If you can only scrape by with constant grueling work, and there’s no time to actually enjoy life, what’s the point of being alive?

I’ve said it before and you didn’t really believe it, but it gets BETTER. “You’re young only once” but if you do it RIGHT, you make it BETTER – and then you don’t wish you were young again. I wasn’t kidding when I said I wouldn’t want to be 20 again. There’s a reason for that.

Thats’ when you have to start saving. When you’re YOUNG. You work, you put the money away instead of blowing it on chicks or drugs or going out and drinking…… and you ignore everyone who says “you work too hard! You need to get a life!”. Then when you’re 30, you have a nice nest egg while everyone else has no savings and they blew the last 10 years away partying being young “only once”.

So you’re young only once.
If you do it RIGHT…. once is enough.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Keymaster wrote:

So you’re young only once.
If you do it RIGHT…. once is enough.

And if you do it WRONG…like I did, and blow it on girls & s~~~ like that, you will learn s~~~ the hard way, just like I did.

Don’t be me, trust me, it sucks. After wasting my youth & 2 divorces, I live in an old beat up rv that leaks water and has mildew & s~~~.

But, the plus side, is I no longer am a slave to my xwives & am no longer living on the street.

And since I did it wrong, yeah, I want to go back and kick the ever livin’ s~~~ out of myself, or redo my 20’s. Preferably, both.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Keymaster wrote:

“You’re young only once” but if you do it RIGHT, you make it BETTER – and then you don’t wish you were young again.

I could get hit by a truck tomorrow, and spend the last three days of my life in constant agony. And I’m absolutely positive that I won’t be lying there, an invalid, thinking: “I wish I worked a bit harder.”

Life needs to be a pleasure—not all the time, of course, but at least in general. Because, if in general your life is a chore, then there’s really no point in being a life.

Keymaster wrote:

Then when you’re 30, you have a nice nest egg while everyone else has no savings and they blew the last 10 years away partying being young “only once”.

Why not a balance? I’m somewhere between you and those party people. I’m frugal, work a bit, trying to find more meaningful employment, and do small amounts of drugs just sometimes.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[SolidParticipant 7520]

Congratulations Governor Megachris for your job !

I don’t have any idea how to proceed in a situation like that because I don’t know how volatile is the corporative environment in USA.
But I’m a guy who like numbers and game theory, so you can just mix those things.

Create a table, apply some numbers, paying, estimated paying with overtime, chances of that happen, consider the average turnover time of employees in both companies (how much time they spend in their jobs before get fired/move away). Put all variables that you think that are significant together.

Where I live, by my own experience, and the experience of people that I know, ACALT = All Companies Are Like That, they will just make you work as site manager, while keep you old salary saying that “we will keep things like these, just to see if you fit”, then when you complain (after 6 months for example), they will fire you, and do the same thing with a new guy, just “promote” him, without giving him a raise, and they will keep doing this forever. So, in my considerations I prefer what is guaranteed than bet into some “maybe” from a company that already have you there.

But is my scenario, in my country, with companies on my field (IT), you live another reality, so things can be really different to you there, but is a point of view to consider in your calculations.

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