Let The Battle Begin

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  • #475902
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    Balthazar
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    Some of you may be familiar with my situation but I’ll try to give a brief recap for those who are not.

    I have a child with two different women. The first one f~~~ed me over pretty good but has always agreed for me to have a fair amount of time with my kid. Things have calmed down a lot as it’s been several years and we get along.

    C~~~ #2 left me about a year ago, moved over an hour away and has been stonewalling me and basically torturing me for a year straight in an attempt to isolate my kid from me.

    I played it cool and let her think that she was in control long enough for me to get my s~~~ all in a row. I consulted with a lawyer last july and then retained that lawyer and petitioned the court awhile ago. The court has been really backed up, unfortunately, and it took awhile for the first appearance to happen.

    I petitioned for joint custody and to be named the primary custodian. I really only want 50/50 but my lawyer told me 95% of cases are settled before trial and it’s wise to treat it a lot like bartering, so we aimed high in the petition.

    C~~~ hired a lawyer at the last minute and didn’t get a cross petition in until the day of the appearance. She petitioned for sole custody, which actually works out in my favor because it reinforces the way we’re attempting to portray her. Her entire petition is totally unsubstantial and can be boiled down to this: He was mean to me, he’s a bad man waaaaaaaa.

    Pretty much nothing happened in the first appearance, other than the judge ordering the schedule for further dates and appointing a child advocate for my daughter.

    As part of the process of discovery the judge also ordered us to appear for an interview with the county probation department. That happened this morning and it was basically torture. They made us interview together in front of an officer who was attempting mediation.

    This c~~~ is an absolute moron. She admitted to me that her lawyer told her it was in her best interest to settle as she has no case to make for how she petitioned.

    In this interview with the probation dept., the attempt at mediation would allow for a settlement to be made and no further court appearances to occur afterward if there was agreement.

    Instead because she was a stupid c~~~ and clearly doesn’t understand what settlement means, we both have to be subject to a really invasive investigation. It was like listening to a f~~~ing broken record with all of her stupid unsubstantiated rationalizations over the past year of why there can’t be a fair schedule. Now both parties have to submit a ton of information as well as interview further with a p.o. and have a home visit scheduled.

    I feel confident, as my lawyer told me that nothing has changed. I’m basically guaranteed legal custody and the fight will be over the distribution of time. The court has so many trial dates piled up that apparently it p~~~es the judge off when petty disputes like ours go into trial and the judge will pressure both sides to come to settlement before hand.

    The lawyer also said that if it’s made apparent that we’re trying to make concessions toward settlement and the other party is still unwilling to cooperate, this judge has been known to rule in favor of one side to basically spite the other for being an uncooperative asshole in the pre-trial period.

    This body holding me is a reminder of my own mortality. Embrace this moment. Remember, we are eternal and all this pain is an illusion.

    #475956
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    VanXing
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    Good luck buddy. It’s all about negotiation tactics and anticipating the angle she’s coming from and how to counter for most effective negotiations. She will never give me anything I want. The only way I can get anything I want is to play hard ball when she wants something from me.

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    Anonymous
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    I have a child with two different women.

    How did two different mothers birth the same child?

    #475971
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    MACHO
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    How did two different mothers birth the same child

    I’m sure he meant 2 different kids 😜

    You must own a better Crystal ball than I
    #475972
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    Balthazar
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    I have a child with two different women.

    How did two different mothers birth the same child?

    haha, you knew what i meant mgtower. i was just too lazy to write out: i have two children, each from a different mother.

    Good luck buddy. It’s all about negotiation tactics and anticipating the angle she’s coming from and how to counter for most effective negotiations. She will never give me anything I want. The only way I can get anything I want is to play hard ball when she wants something from me.

    yeah, this one doesn’t really see the writing on the wall and wants to keep acting like she’s in control if she continues to fight. the worst case scenario for me is that i’ll only get the amount of time that i already do but then it will be a court ordered schedule. this bitch is stupid and sloppy and won’t be able to abide by the orders long term. i believe that if it comes to that, i will eventually be able to get an original order reversed by reporting her violating the orders enough times.

    This body holding me is a reminder of my own mortality. Embrace this moment. Remember, we are eternal and all this pain is an illusion.

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    PistolPete
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    My advice for what it may be worth—don’t retreat, don’t compromise, don’t give up–fight.

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    JustAnotherGuy
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    If you love your child (I know you do) check out “Parental Alienation” Totally sucks. If she is doing it, it is another avenue to get custody.

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    Balthazar
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    My advice for what it may be worth—don’t retreat, don’t compromise, don’t give up–fight.

    hey thanks pete, i’m with you there. every father i’ve spoke to that compromised and settled for less than their wishes regretted it. every father that stuck in there and did whatever they had to to secure their desires did not. it’s as easy as that. this dumb c~~~ can’t even rationalize the level of difficulty i’m willing to put her through if she won’t settle on a fair schedule. i need to harden my resolve and discipline as i’m more than willing to make it straight up militant.

    If you love your child (I know you do) check out “Parental Alienation” Totally sucks. If she is doing it, it is another avenue to get custody.

    hey JAG, no doubt this c~~~ has been attempting to alienate me the entire time. she has a new boyfriend that along with her parents, she ensures my daughter have more contact with than me. unfortunately it’s difficult to prove this type of stuff when your kid isn’t old enough to be put on the stand. but it also doesn’t mean i can’t make claims about it, in fact my original petition already suggests it.

    This body holding me is a reminder of my own mortality. Embrace this moment. Remember, we are eternal and all this pain is an illusion.

    #476132

    By the looks of it you have this one in the bag. Unless she’s starts making fake allegations, she may have to go kick rocks.

    Never lose sight of what brought you here.

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