leaving the door ajar …

[hmskl’dParticipant 6410]

… the dictionary defines the word ajar as “neither entirely open or entirely shut; i.e. slightly open”

Despite being MGTOW, even a confirmed MGHOW will probably meet a lady every few years  (maybe only once every decade or two) who he begins to trust.  This new person will appear in your world without warning.  It doesn’t matter who you are or what age you might be. It doesn’t matter what you do for a living or if you are retired. Fate doesn’t care if you have been previously married and devastated by a divorce or have chosen to remained single all your life.  Someone different from anyone you’ve ever met will appear at some point in your life when you least expect it and catch you off guard.

As MGTOW; what are we going to do when this happens?  Should the door be left slightly ajar for a new female friend or relationship later in life?

 

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Never say never.

I give every woman a chance to prove she’s not like all the rest.

So far, none of them have, but I’ll always let the next one try.

[Anonymous 42]

@sjur, I’ve had such women approach me on my path of life, the key is “time”, wait them out, you’ll see their true nature arise! Like freshly shaken salad dressing your emotions become vulnerable (ajar), Use 3 1/2 inch screws every 6in. to fasten your heart’s door shut!

How many times must a man stick his hands in the machinery of a woman, only to be torn apart? 1, 5, 9, 12, 15, 18, 22, times? How many? What’s your threshold for personal destruction? Mine is 0 more times!

Who wants to relive the same nightmare over and over again? Feminism is reaping it’s own destruction, I want no part of it; women are getting more and more desperate; they’ll say or do anything at this point in time!

Women will not surrender an inch of the gynocentric laws, rather they will use them later, after they trap a man!

The laws and gynocentric attitudes need to be changed, or abolished completely! Women always couldn’t be trusted, now they have the law to work their mischief in ways never seen in the history of man…..

The law is not only blind, it’s also deaf and dumb! Not for me!

Women have more leverage!

 

[BurgundyParticipant 1525]

I let the door slightly opened but only with this sort of lock on it.

 

So you get to think things through, while you slowly open it, if ever. I’m not holding my breath for a NAWALT to appear.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Just because you think you can trust a woman doesn’t mean you ever should. And really, what possible benefit do you hope to achieve by making yourself vulnerable to the gynocentric courts?

If a woman is truly worthy of your trust, she won’t ever want you to do that.

[Anonymous 11]

@sjur: You really must be fresh off the tuna boat.

hmskl’d wrote:

who he begins to trust.

I’ve dealt with multiple hundreds of wenches over my many years of dating and general life experience. I’d say the trust rate of women is about 1 to 2%. I only trust myself.

I’ve banged more that a few that had boyfriends over the years. I’ve also had the “pleasure” returned to me too.

[experiencedParticipant]

Door’s shut and locked. They can ring, there’s a weight sensor in the doormat that deactivates the bell above a certain loading.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Doors wide open. I would love to meet a wonderful woman. I’m 54 so that would mean a woman around 35…it’s possible.

Door stays wide open because at the first sign of trouble, and it will come, I want to be able to send her right back out the same door she came in through.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Anonymous 9]

I’ve been involved with too many women to where I know how the story ends.

To fully embrace this lifestyle I can’t let myself get caught up in hypothetical thinking. If we’re talking a friend with benefits type of thing, then maybe that’s a possibility. But how far does that really go before she turns into a monster?

I’d rather spend my time with escorts.

At least they’re honest.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6410]

weight sensor in the doormat that deactivates the bell above a certain loading

that’s a good one; but you still might get pestered by that unexpected thin woman 😉

[AntaresParticipant 208]

Romance? No. Sex? Maybe. Friendship? Sure.

And by friendship I mean equivalent to what I would have in a male friend. I don’t care if you’re a man, woman, android, or talking horse. Hang out, trust, talk to, and occasionally lend a hand. Talk about vapid s~~~ on facebook? no. Blah blah blah kids? No. Help me because “I’m female”? No.

I don’t hate, nor shun women. They are simply other people in the supermarket checkout line to me. If they want to be more they have to legitimately earn it. Something most women don’t seem to do, nor are they interested in doing so when other men shower them with attention because of their sex.

Price is what you pay, value is what you get. -- Ben Graham

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

My door is chained and locked, and requires special access to open, of which only I know about.

I can no longer trust women. I’ll talk to them at work, sure, or to the friendly cashier at my store when she’s ringing my s~~~ up, or my bank teller when I need to ask for $10 in quarters so I can do my laundry, but they will not be playing any kind of role in my life. I will not ask them out, I will decline any date offers because it’s all a waste of time.

Some single woman at my church says “What’s the point of dating someone if you’re not going to MARRY them?”

As much as I’d love to debate her on the idea that dating can just be done as a way of having fun, and isn’t supposed to JUST be about finding a marriage partner, I also have to agree with her on one point. I’m not interested in pursuing a relationship with any woman at all, so why in the hell should I be wasting MY time dating them and then having to go through the whole awkward stage all over again of disappearing from all modes of contact from them? Why should I “leave my door ajar” for further dating opportunities?

We know what these women are capable of, we know that for every hot woman we see, there’s a guy out there who is sick of her s~~~, so there is no reason to really say anything to a woman at all beyond “Nice weather today” or work-related issues that need to be discussed. My door is CLOSED for good. And the only women who are attracted to me are the crazy, obsessive-compulsive, clingy women that I’d have to move into a bomb shelter to avoid. I don’t need any more of these types to deal with anymore.

[Zuberi TauParticipant 10606]

hmskl’d wrote:

As MGTOW; what are we going to do when this happens?

 

It won’t.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Zuberi Tau wrote:

It won’t.

LOL.

He’s Right.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

I am polite about it, but I maintain rather firmly that I don’t see what can be accomplished by getting married that cannot be accomplished as a single person. Single people can live together, have children, insure each other etc… so I don’t see a purpose for getting married. I can see a purpose for friending, dating, having sex with and possibly even committing to…

But since my divorce, I’ve negotiated many other high value contracts. When a woman wants to make me a promise and ask me to trust her, I tell her I don’t wish to hear about the promise. I wish to READ about it. The usual response is that I’m unromantic. My response is that the state already has a contract for us that applies if we do not draft our own. This is similar to the default will that applies if you die without having drafted your own.

There is a certain magic that happens when you put something in writing. I recommend this for anyone being asked to trust any promise being offered to you.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[AFTParticipant 2722]

hmskl’d wrote:

meet a lady …. who he begins to trust…. Fate doesn’t care if you have been previously married and devastated by a divorce ….Someone different from anyone you’ve ever met will …. catch you off guard.

As MGTOW; what are we going to do when this happens? Should the door be left slightly ajar for a new female friend or relationship later in life?

You obviously haven’t felt the full force of female hypergamy in this gynocentric society. I envy you for that good fortune. However that trust you speak of is as reckless as a bank manager leaving all the bank doors and vault open over the weekend, because he has never been robbed before. No-one cares if you have been or will be financially divorce raped, so you better care before it happens. You have answered your own question in your wording

hmskl’d wrote:

…. catch you off guard.

Just like the bank manager that leaves the doors open, MGTOW that “TRUST” NAWALT Unicorns don’t exist.
If you “TRUST” NAWALT Unicorns, you are not RED PILL, and therefore cannot be MGTOW. I may desire to be able to trust women and wish they had better natures, but I KNOW they don’t, and cannot bring myself to ignore reality and trust such a cunning, devious treacherous creature. I will not be caught off guard, because I can’t ignore the truth, the reality of the Red Pill. Any “agreement” I engage with a cupcake, I know I need to protect myself, trust is not an issue, there is none, its a simple cost benefit, with protection at the forefront of negotiations. The better question is, is it worth it? Truly I say depends. It is a lot of effort for satisfying a basic urge. Is $10,000 a night worth it for a high class prostitute? Is $100 worth it for 1/2 hour with a common one? Is losing 1/2 your wealth worth it to trust a Unicorn?

When the war cemeteries are half full of the corpses of dead conscripted women, only then will women have earned the right to speak of equality. Sidecar “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.” - Bob Dylan

[….Participant 305]

Every time I see my pussywhipped friends and their bitch wives ,I run home, slam and bolt the door …I don’t  know of one relations~~~  that I look at and say “I wish that was me”.  Shopping at Gunt Mart also insures the door stays closed. Even when the women aren’t big , seeing the lifeless meat sacks in tow with their wallets open would make anybody want to “close the door”. I’ll keep a peephole but it’s kind of like using a trail camera to try to get a picture of Bigfoot.

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