Learning how to be on my own

[ChestHairParticipant 15]

Greetings fellow travelers, I’m new here to the MGTOW community and want to make a proper introduction. First off, I have been lurking the RP community for the last two years, and recently stumbled upon this website. I felt great relief finding fellow men dealing with the hardships I had encountered myself. So here we go: For most of my life I have been working hard. As the average introvert in College, I didn’t have much hopes on ever finding that magical love that is so often advertised. Then in a moment of total randomness I met this woman in the park with whom it just happened. We fell in love –or so I thought. I thought we had a healthy relationship; I loved her, took care of her, nurtured her. I even got her a job at my office, saving her from the dump that was her family and friends. This was all my own doing, not out of pity, not for my own gain but for her. And then she took all of it away from me, leading me on, betraying me, after everything I had done for her. The pain I felt when hearing her say those words of affection broke me, they we’re for me but for some other. I got suspicious already when she took a phone call downstairs so listened in from the bedroom. I overheard her calling my boss: ‘I’ll leave him, we can be together soon.’ To which I heard him respond ‘Yeah, dump the loser.’ It’s been 19 years since, only now do I realize the damage she and other women have done to me. This moment defined me, it described me. Only recently have I come upon the realization that it is I upon which I have to trust, build, to go my own way. Now I need to learn how to regain my independence, my manliness. As an older gentleman within in this community, I seek other brothers-in-arms, men of stature and of wisdom, to share ideas and reflect upon life together. Enlighten me, tell me what to do to gain true independence. Thank you.

Veritas nunquam perit

[Anonymous 6]

Waddup fool!!!

[Anonymous 7]

Hello and welcome home.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

Welcome, never too late to make changes.

[Anonymous 4]

Hi and welcome to the real world.

[Anonymous 42]

ChestHair wrote:

tell me what to do to gain true independence. Thank you.

Take life as it comes and be content, then I think you become independent. Start by using the word NO when needed, which happens to be most the time.

You’ve been programmed, time for your reprogramming back to your core being in line with the laws of nature! SOVEREIGN BEING! You’re not the queens ant to order you around at will! Because this isn’t an ant colony! This is Earth! MEN ARE KING OF THE HILL!

[Anonymous 1]

Welcome brother. Enjoy your stay in freedom land.

[HermitParticipant]

ChestHair wrote:

Now I need to learn how to regain my independence, my manliness. As an older gentleman within in this community, I seek other brothers-in-arms, men of stature and of wisdom, to share ideas and reflect upon life together. Enlighten me, tell me what to do to gain true independence. Thank you.

Like the title of your thread says, you need to be happy living alone. There is no learning to be on your own. You’re either happy alone, or you’re not. Are you someone who is lonely? Are you not comfortable being alone? Do you feel like you need someone there with you? If you can’t be happy living by yourself, it’s gonna’ be tough for you. If you can’t stand to be alone, then ask yourself if you’re happier living with an evil woman who’s screwing you over or will screw you over.

I love living alone. I can’t stand sharing a house with another person. Living in misery in the bonds of unholy wedlock helped me realize this. If you don’t love living alone, get a dog or a cat, or go visit friends………or get another female to live with and decide which is worse.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 3]

You will find the kind of men you are looking for here.
Sometimes truth can b a very bitter pill to swallow & you really took one huge Red Pill.
Invest your time & energy in yourself. Its time for that
Stick with the winners.
Stick with MGTOW

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

ChestHair wrote:

As an older gentleman within in this community, I seek other brothers-in-arms, men of stature and of wisdom, to share ideas and reflect upon life together.

Welcome. You are in the right place.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6408]

Greetings .. 99.99% + .01% of all interesting things in the world are available to anyone who follows their own path. It’s all out there and waiting to be explored. Travel, friends, hobbies, vocations and avocations .. I found that relationships just take time away from all the rest and inevitably lead to turmoil. Started following my own course about 22 years ago .. and haven’t regretted it since. It suits me perfectly .. and works.

[MurineesParticipant 704]

Nice to have you ChestHair. Sorry to hear your suffering but I can totally relate. You will find this site very therapeutic. Just to know that many men here experienced pretty much the same things will give you a lot of empathy. With that I hope you find peace and joy once again. The joy and peace you always have when you are a little kid. Remember that time you don’t care about girls and you are the happiest? That will come to you once more.

Welcome!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

ChestHair wrote:

Greetings fellow travelers, I’m new here to the MGTOW community and want to make a proper introduction. First off, I have been lurking the RP community for the last two years, and recently stumbled upon this website. I felt great relief finding fellow men dealing with the hardships I had encountered myself. So here we go: For most of my life I have been working hard. As the average introvert in College, I didn’t have much hopes on ever finding that magical love that is so often advertised. Then in a moment of total randomness I met this woman in the park with whom it just happened. We fell in love –or so I thought. I thought we had a healthy relationship; I loved her, took care of her, nurtured her. I even got her a job at my office, saving her from the dump that was her family and friends. This was all my own doing, not out of pity, not for my own gain but for her. And then she took all of it away from me, leading me on, betraying me, after everything I had done for her. The pain I felt when hearing her say those words of affection broke me, they we’re for me but for some other. I got suspicious already when she took a phone call downstairs so listened in from the bedroom. I overheard her calling my boss: ‘I’ll leave him, we can be together soon.’ To which I heard him respond ‘Yeah, dump the loser.’ It’s been 19 years since, only now do I realize the damage she and other women have done to me. This moment defined me, it described me. Only recently have I come upon the realization that it is I upon which I have to trust, build, to go my own way. Now I need to learn how to regain my independence, my manliness. As an older gentleman within in this community, I seek other brothers-in-arms, men of stature and of wisdom, to share ideas and reflect upon life together. Enlighten me, tell me what to do to gain true independence. Thank you.

Deprogramming yourself of everything you’ve ever believed is a process. For many, this is where the rage comes in. It’s easy to say “f~~~ what I’ve been told”, but then some get lost in the next step. Which becomes about adjusting your belief system, your values, and your overall outlook on life that is not only reflective of society, but one where those things are no longer a hindrance to you, but help you move forward in a progressive way towards a path of happiness.

Those things which are not serving you, not moving you forward are destructive. Therefore to implement systems which are productive one must uninstall the “software” on the brain. It’s a long process for some, and a short one for others. But it can always be done. New habits and ways of thinking can always be learned. That is always the next step after taking the red pill. Happiness isn’t external. It’s internal. Being happy with one’s self and leading a life of fulfillment comes from choice. It’s okay to be alone, but one does not have to be lonely.

[xanthineParticipant 4903]

Hey man, welcome to the club! Just wanna say, living on your own rocks. The trick is to find things you like doing, and then do them. Sounds simple right? But if you were married, you couldn’t do that. Instead of doing what you want, you’d be doing what someone else wants…and then listening to her complain about it.

It’s often the simple things in life that make all the difference. Like for me, the sound of silence in my house when i get home. The freedom to spend my time and money however the f~~~ i want. The fact that my toilet paper somehow magically lasts 20x longer when no females are around.

Now, its been a long day at work, so I’m about to smoke a bowl and play some Doom. You know who’s gonna give me s~~~ about it or ask me to put something else on? That’s right, NO ONE! I am not kidding when i say i could not be happier right now.

[AttonParticipant]

Enlighten me, tell me what to do to gain true independence.

Don’t be a woman’s bitch.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

IRuleMe wrote:

Deprogramming yourself of everything you’ve ever believed is a process. For many, this is where the rage comes in. It’s easy to say “f~~~ what I’ve been told”, but then some get lost in the next step. Which becomes about adjusting your belief system, your values, and your overall outlook on life that is not only reflective of society, but one where those things are no longer a hindrance to you, but help you move forward in a progressive way towards a path of happiness.

Those things which are not serving you, not moving you forward are destructive. Therefore to implement systems which are productive one must uninstall the “software” on the brain. It’s a long process for some, and a short one for others. But it can always be done. New habits and ways of thinking can always be learned. That is always the next step after taking the red pill. Happiness isn’t external. It’s internal. Being happy with one’s self and leading a life of fulfillment comes from choice. It’s okay to be alone, but one does not have to be lonely.

This is exactly what I have realised, eventually, after consuming lots of material, in books and on the Internet; but it takes a different amount of time for each person to reach that state of internal mental state. It has helped me by reading books on The Dalai Lama and his approach to happiness. I think it is also important to have a hobby, to help fill-in your free time. The important point is that you must make YOU and YOUR HAPPINESS your priorty in your life, which preferably should not be dependent on anybody else, and you must remove (or minimise as much as possible) those things/people in your life that reduce/remove your own happiness. You are living your life for your benefit, not for somebody else’s benefit.

[ghostParticipant]

Welcome home.

[autocratParticipant 60]

Looks like ChestHair is an infiltrator.
https://www.diggitmagazine.com/articles/infiltrating-manosphere-exploration-male-oriented-virtual-communities-inside

[Anonymous 3]

Yeah! Please note that chest hair is a young woman who wanted to ” check this out & see what its about ” My experience is women in general are control freaks & love nothing more than using their sexuality ( their only power ) to run a man’s life then remove it & steal from him.
Just like this little sneak. She wrote a digital article. GOOD FOR YOU
I was thinking of getting a pink pussy hat & joining a women’s march, but my man sized ass, thick legs, & muscular neck & arms would give me away so I decided against it.
MGTOW is a perfect place for a guy like me. I enjoy solitude & going my own way in the face of all the jealous, cry baby little blue pillers & women.

[Anonymous 3]

A cup of fresh brewed coffee, in silence, in my own place.
Its a good life & the best life for me.
MGTOW is freedom

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