Last Payment

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2729]

I feel a little bad posting this in the light of WarHar’s post, but I just made my last child support payment.

For those of you in child support and/or alimony purgatory, or for those of you facing it, know that it eventually comes to an end. There was a time when my credit cards were maxed out and I missed house and car payments, but I made it through.

You can too.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Big congratulations and bet that feels great!. I JUST left a comment for WarHar about a men’s interest child support “entity” that contacted MGTOW.COM to appeal to guys like you. Spoke to them for over an hour about it but don’t quite know enough yet to recommend them.

(Looks like a need for this is worth aggressively pursuing further)

In WarHar’s particular case, the payment was just increased (+double!) which has got to be infuriating. We have a direct contact over with these people. More on this later.

In any case GRATZ on finally being able to exhale!!

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

congrats pal!

thanks for sharing your story. Rest assured that i will NEVER get married.
i swear

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Great job. Congrats.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[atlasParticipant 285]

Captain, we salute you!

“We are on strike, we, the men of the mind. We are on strike against self-immolation. We are on strike against the creed of unearned rewards and unrewarded duties. We are on strike against the dogma that the pursuit of one's happiness is evil. We are on strike against the doctrine that life is guilt.”

[Anonymous 42]

Capt. I just know it’s gonna feel like the chain on your 200 lb. bicycle snapped! Nothing feels better than being debt free! Congratulations! Have fun coasting for a change!

[Anonymous 54]

Congratulations!!

[HitmanParticipant]

so it is possible..
whew !..
i’ll post the same thing in about 12 or 13 years …
happy for you man !

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Very pleased you made it.

Now it’s YOU time. Go treat yourself.

When my daughter turned 21 I told her I will always be her dad … but … I was going back to find where I left ILiveAgain and go have fun with him.

I left him back ‘there’ …. 21 years ago … and we have much catching up.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

CONGRATULATIONS, CPT. OBVIOUS!

Are you going to celebrate?

You should have a night out in the town: a steak dinner & a lap dance at a nudie bar.

Think of how great it will be to see that money piling up in your bank account each month!

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2729]

FunInTheSun wrote:

CONGRATULATIONS, CPT. OBVIOUS!

Are you going to celebrate?

You should have a night out in the town: a steak dinner & a lap dance at a nudie bar.

Think of how great it will be to see that money piling up in your bank account each month!

Thanks to you and others. Great feeling, indeed.

I hadn’t thought about celebrating. Maybe treating myself isn’t such a bad idea, but probably not the strip club. Last time I did that, my wallet was a couple thousand dollars lighter.

I might just take the money next month I would have spent, buy a nice cigar and hit the casino after a steak dinner.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2729]

Hitman wrote:

so it is possible..
whew !..
i’ll post the same thing in about 12 or 13 years …
happy for you man !

I know it feels like forever, brother. Unless the world burns itself to the ground beforehand, I will look forward to your post saying the same.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[MoonlightParticipant 223]

Congratulations! Huge weight off your shoulders.

One of my co-workers might get out of his payments soon. He’s one of the nicest guys I know and a purple pill. His ex-wife remarried and her husband is currently working towards adopting the kids. If all goes well, my co-worker will shave off about 6 years of payments.

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2729]

Moonlight wrote:

One of my co-workers might get out of his payments soon. He’s one of the nicest guys I know and a purple pill. His ex-wife remarried and her husband is currently working towards adopting the kids. If all goes well, my co-worker will shave off about 6 years of payments.

He is one lucky bastard if that happens. EVERY instance I have seen has the ex co-habitating and milking alimony and child support for as long as possible.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Congratulations!!

I have 10 years and 8 months left, but I know that when it arrives it will be the sweetest day ever.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

Congrats to you on making your last payment!
Now you are TOTALLY and COMPLETELY free.
Captain, you now are promoted to MAJOR for this goal! Plus, you’ll feel like you just got a raise because that f~~~ing amount of “child support” will now just stay right in your bank account for you to do with whatever the f~~~ you want.
Plus, it’s a known fact that at least three-quarters of that child support money went to ONE child in particular. The grown-up one who started this bulls~~~ for you in the first place. Women get the child-support check in the mail, the first thing they do is f~~~ off to the mall so they could get those cute new shoes or that blouse that they’ve had their eye on.
Anything they might feel that they have to buy for their kids are usually the last priority, and the last thing on the shopping list.

After my mom divorced my dad, she got $1,900 a month in child support, which was roughly 50 percent of all my dad’s salary after taxes. She spent $400 a week of that on CLOTHES. And I’m not talking about clothes for me and my six siblings, but clothes for HER that she would either wear once and then toss in the f~~~ing closet in some big pile, or she wouldn’t wear them at all and add it to the pile anyway. You could never see the f~~~ing carpet in her bedroom as a result.
$400 a week on clothes is $1,600 a month out of a $1,900 monthly payment. And I was trying to figure out at the time why we were so damn poor and eating mostly just instant dinners like macaroni and cheese. My mom responded that it’s because “your father is a lazy ass who doesn’t want to pay us enough, so go ask him why we’re going without.”
I believed that bulls~~~ for the first three months until I saw one of our bank account statement papers that she left laying around the house, and saw just how f~~~ing much MONEY we were getting, and how little that remained for us after my bitch mother decided to go out SHOPPING to exercise her need for “Retail Therapy.”
What goes around comes around, and it came back to bite her in the ass. Within 6 months after the divorce, two of my sisters moved out after having an all-out fight with her. Child support payments for my dad to make began dropping down to maybe $1000, which forced my mom to get a job with the post office. By the time I finished high school(leaving home on the same day), my dad had regained full custody of the remainder of my siblings because my mom had been declared mentally incompetent to have us in her custody. She was alone in the world, and with no check to support her in the end. My dad got to be a parent again instead of just an ATM machine who had no say in how his kids were being raised. But it was too late for him. The divorce had destroyed him mentally, including his faith in the good things of life.
After I saw my dad while I was on my first leave from the army, I saw that he looked like he had aged 30 years in only a year and a half since the divorce had been finalized. He had lost 20 pounds, looked very frail, and had a vague, distant “thousand yard stare” as if he was a soldier who had seen too much combat. He remained a great provider for my younger siblings, don’t get me wrong, but the light in his eyes that I remembered was gone forever. He was a wasted fragment–a shell of the man he had once been. 11 years of marriage to a nightmare of a wife and a full year of divorce proceedings, plus another year of having to pay child support while being denied visitation rights had taken it’s toll.
He is turning 60 in seven days from now. He looks closer to 75 though, long after the youngest of my siblings has moved out.
At least you still have your health, and be very grateful for that. Enjoy your extra money, bud! By the time my dad got HIS extra money back, he was too far gone to really ever enjoy that. Some men are just plain lucky as hell.

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2729]

@mgtow_85 – Thank you for sharing that. Wow. Sad story, but I could relate to so much of it.

Before my divorce, people always guessed my age as being younger than I was. After the divorce, people thought I was a lot older. Women and divorce suck the life out of you. Stay close to your dad, tell him how much you appreciate what he has done. I can tell you, that means so much to a dad that has gone through the divorce grinder.

I was paying my ex $1,500 a month in alimony, and I had primary custody of the kids. She did not pay any child support (long story). She was living with her new boyfriend in his parent’s spare mobile home. Neither worked and she kept asking me for more money. She had already received some $40K in the divorce, but my kids said that she blew through it all on stupid stuff. She and her boyfriend just sat around all day smoking, drinking and watching TV.

Whenever the kids went to visit her, she asked for child support money. I told her that if child support were to be awarded, she would be paying me, but she didn’t want to hear it. Later, when I deployed with Army, I gave the girls the option of either staying with a friend or their mother. My youngest went to live with her mother so I had to pay $1,250/month in child support (this is what just ended). When the alimony ended three years ago, she married that bum and two years later they were divorced.

My youngest soon dropped out of high school while out there. But the mom kept telling me how great the daughter was doing in school till she finally ‘fessed up about six months ago. In addition to the child support, my youngest said that her mom was making her pay $500/month in rent. (What do these bitches spend their money on?! ah yes, the pile of clothes on the floor only worn once.) I made sure my youngest knew exactly how much I was paying.

Now that the child support is ending, the momma is threatening to send the youngest back. Fine and dandy, but it will take a while to de-program my daughter and get her on the right track again.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

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