Lash Out! It's Healthy…

[AlmostNiceGuyParticipant 210]

Lately stress has been getting the best of me, but I “exhaust” my anger and frustration with iron weights. But last night My sister kept annoying me, critizising every little thing I do, and then Ignoring me or turning her eyes when I said something back. I could have fried an egg on my head, I was so mad I thought I was going to combust. Then my mother facetimed us, she lives in a different country, and they started to talk about s~~~ty female things, shoes, diets, and eventually boyfriends. My land-whale of a sister rarely can hold a boyfriend, I used to have to tell them to run far, and to run fast, but she has been making them all run away by herself. So their conversation boiled down to my mother wanting her to be with a mutual friend of ours, and so my sister said something like : “I really want to be with him, but he just broke up with his girlfriend, and he said that he doesn’t want to stop being friends”. Then is when she lit the fuse, that eventually blew her up: “I don’t know why he doesn’t want me”. Too far, I’m done; Dr. Jekyll is out of the building, say hi to Hyde. “Even if he could f~~~ your walrus like body and not inmediately shoot himself, staying around to find out that you are the love child of Satan and Hitler should encourage him in investing in dynamite, to make sure he’s not going to live to see your greazy, disgusting, fat, sad excuse of a body another day.” I could feel the anger leaving my body. It was great. Now my sister and my mom had their jaws stapled to the floor. She was starting to cry profusely, as my mother threatened me through the phone. Without another word, I stood up, got in my car, drove to a smoking lounge, and had my first cigar since my prom. Sometimes it is healthy to lash out and make a person implode, especially when that person made you miserable as a child, and forgets that all you need to destroy her face is for her to pick up a knife and threaten me. While I’m not a violent person, my inner tomented child really just wants to smash her face with a brick. This, however, is the healthier and less risky, alternative.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Pulling out the truth, and letting it fly… is like a verbal wrecking ball – much more effective than an actual brick.

Former president Harry Truman had the nickname ‘Give’m hell Harry’.  In his biography, he was asked about this and said, “I never gave anyone hell.  I just gave them the truth, and they thought it was hell…”.

 

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

I realize how good it feels in the moment to unload on your intended target.  However, things can quickly and unexpectedly escalate under these conditions.  I realize it’s easier said than done but zero response (apathy) will be the most damaging tactic you can employ.  It implies indifference.  When you are indifferent it demonstrates that person has NO control over you.  Trust me…I know a thing or three about asshole siblings.   I just have nothing to do with them.   I don’t have the time (my life) to waste on their low level bulls~~~.

While we may have a choice about who we choose as lovers, we can’t choose our family.   However you can choose the level of engagement and discourse you have with them.   Be your own man.

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

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