Kinda been lucky…

[IceBankMiceElfParticipant 124]

Hey guys, I’ve been lurking the site for a while and decided to jump in and introduce myself.

I’ve been married once and have been divorced for about 18 years. I am a single guy right at 50 with a job I like, decent income, decent shape, and contribute to a 401K every month. I got married to my high school sweetheart at 18 and felt like I really loved her but I couldn’t deal with the adultery and bipolar issues anymore so I filed for divorce. My divorce cost me $750 and I’ve not looked back since as I got custody of my son while my daughter went to live with the ex. The ex and I both had IRA’s. She made slightly more money than I did at the time as she had her own small business and I was working a job which would provide me a pension if I remained with the company so we didn’t want any of the others “stuff”. I really questioned myself when I was divorcing her, but it’s the best thing to have ever happened to me. I’ve been in three serious relationships since being married and I can say that all three weren’t bad and I don’t have the stories that some of you have. I could’ve married at least two of them, but couldn’t pull the trigger. Somehow, I believe that I was a MGHOW since getting divorced, but just didn’t know the term. I never lived with any of the three women and they had a few things stashed at my place (I gave them a drawer), but they never moved in. I recently left a relationship with a woman who was a christian and she wouldn’t have sex until she was married, so we would mess around and do other things. She also told me that she didn’t spend money on a guy in the first six months of dating because if the guy was really interested in her then he would make the effort. I told her that sex was important to me as well and if she were really interested in me then she would make the effort. This went on for a little while and we decided that it wasn’t going to work and ended it after a couple of months. I get on this site and I can now see that I should’ve walked as soon as she said no sex and for me to spend money on her. Thats okay though cause now I know and the future will be different.

I saw both of my kids this past weekend while at my son’s house and they both have the same story about the ex…she is going crazy at an age of less than 50. They both talk about her hitting the wall, jobless, her alcohol problems, and the constant fighting that goes on between her and her current husband. My son doesn’t answer the phone when she calls as he’s afraid she’s going to ask him for a place to stay. He let’s it go to voicemail and listens to it to see what she wants so if it’s the dreaded call about a place to stay he’s not caught off guard. He is also engaged and due to be married this coming summer and we talk a little about what the meaning of life and how he feels that some days he just wants to do what he wants to do and not the things that someone else is telling him i.e. fiance. It’s hard for me to tell him not to get married as I don’t want to be the excuse for him to use if he doesn’t marry her and he finds himself down the road wishing he had. I just tell him where I’m at and the statistics and other tidbits that I’ve learned from this site.

My daughter is split up from her husband and on the way to divorce. She tells me this past weekend that she enjoys her freedom and “sleeping in the middle of the bed”. I told her I do too and it really is a good life to spend money on yourself, clean the house for yourself and after yourself, watch what I want when I want, and come and go as I please. She told me “you have a good life, Dad” and I told her “I sure do”.

IceBankMiceElf

[Anonymous 18]

Welcome, sir.

You have been a mixture of both luck and wisdom. But in the end who really cares what it is so long men get a fair chance at life to be their own selves, for realizing their own worth quite detached from their utility- all under the veiled threat of gynocentric hypocrisy.

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

I recently left a relationship with a woman who was a christian and she wouldn’t have sex until she was married, so we would mess around and do other things.

Two plus

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

She also told me that she didn’t spend money on a guy in the first six months of dating because if the guy was really interested in her then he would make the effort.

Two

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

get on this site and I can now see that I should’ve walked as soon as she said no sex and for me to spend money on her.

Equals four.

Unless this woman you were dating was in early 20’s (that is being too forgiving) there is no reason she should be mooching of a man for 6 months before she spreads her holier than thou legs for you. She likely has wised up after far-too-eagerly spreading them and not getting as much as an ice cream for a treat. But 6 months is steep. Quite steep when a modern and independent woman who is post-wall would spread her legs for as much as a compliment.

Women (esp feminists) would read this and have a bout of rise in blood pressure, but who gives a f~~~. Truth ought to sting.

[Mister StealthParticipant 362]

Welcome brother.

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

I really questioned myself when I was divorcing her, but it’s the best thing to have ever happened to me.

I am a few days away till I am officially separated from my wife and having moments where I have questioned myself. Thanks for sharing always helpful to hear of others that have found happiness.

Steel sharpens steel

[experiencedParticipant]

Welcome MGTOW Brother.

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

Hey guys, I’ve been lurking the site for a while and decided to jump in and introduce myself.

I’ve been married once and have been divorced for about 18 years. I am a single guy right at 50 with a job I like, decent income, decent shape, and contribute to a 401K every month. I got married to my high school sweetheart at 18 and felt like I really loved her but I couldn’t deal with the adultery and bipolar issues anymore so I filed for divorce. My divorce cost me $750 and I’ve not looked back since as I got custody of my son while my daughter went to live with the ex. The ex and I both had IRA’s. She made slightly more money than I did at the time as she had her own small business and I was working a job which would provide me a pension if I remained with the company so we didn’t want any of the others “stuff”. I really questioned myself when I was divorcing her, but it’s the best thing to have ever happened to me. I’ve been in three serious relationships since being married and I can say that all three weren’t bad and I don’t have the stories that some of you have. I could’ve married at least two of them, but couldn’t pull the trigger. Somehow, I believe that I was a MGHOW since getting divorced, but just didn’t know the term. I never lived with any of the three women and they had a few things stashed at my place (I gave them a drawer), but they never moved in. I recently left a relationship with a woman who was a christian and she wouldn’t have sex until she was married, so we would mess around and do other things. She also told me that she didn’t spend money on a guy in the first six months of dating because if the guy was really interested in her then he would make the effort. I told her that sex was important to me as well and if she were really interested in me then she would make the effort. This went on for a little while and we decided that it wasn’t going to work and ended it after a couple of months. I get on this site and I can now see that I should’ve walked as soon as she said no sex and for me to spend money on her. Thats okay though cause now I know and the future will be different.

I saw both of my kids this past weekend while at my son’s house and they both have the same story about the ex…she is going crazy at an age of less than 50. They both talk about her hitting the wall, jobless, her alcohol problems, and the constant fighting that goes on between her and her current husband. My son doesn’t answer the phone when she calls as he’s afraid she’s going to ask him for a place to stay. He let’s it go to voicemail and listens to it to see what she wants so if it’s the dreaded call about a place to stay he’s not caught off guard. He is also engaged and due to be married this coming summer and we talk a little about what the meaning of life and how he feels that some days he just wants to do what he wants to do and not the things that someone else is telling him i.e. fiance. It’s hard for me to tell him not to get married as I don’t want to be the excuse for him to use if he doesn’t marry her and he finds himself down the road wishing he had. I just tell him where I’m at and the statistics and other tidbits that I’ve learned from this site.

My daughter is split up from her husband and on the way to divorce. She tells me this past weekend that she enjoys her freedom and “sleeping in the middle of the bed”. I told her I do too and it really is a good life to spend money on yourself, clean the house for yourself and after yourself, watch what I want when I want, and come and go as I please. She told me “you have a good life, Dad” and I told her “I sure do”.

IceBankMiceElf

Perhaps there is now no child support, or to Catch-22 it, no more child raising on her part? The years of looking forward to grandchildren and extended family niceties do not exist for her now. She could have stayed faithful, busted her ass, etc. like decades ago, but now she can “you go girl” etc.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 43]

you sir, suck. Your divorce cost $750? My divorce cost more than $300K and your ex c~~~ is cracking up.

I so hate you right now!

Here, have a beer and welcome.

[BoarParticipant]

Kinda lucky?

Sir, you WON the lottery jackpot. Most folks who venture down the throat of the dragon exit through the other end, but you made it back out past the teeth. As you read more, you will realize just how lucky you are.

Welcome and listen to your instincts. They will keep you alive.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, IceBank
Beer’s in the fridge.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Welcome, IceBankMiceElf. Curious as to the source of your handle. As was said earlier, you won the lottery with a $750 divorce and custody of one child. Pull up a chair and read about some of the artillery shrapnel you dodged.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[IceBankMiceElfParticipant 124]

Thanx Stealth! If you’re going through the pain, anguish, and questioning that I did then I can understand how you feel. My ex blamed me for things she couldn’t accomplish, while we were married, but never accomplished anything after being divorced. Her life actually became worse for her and she lost her business. In the meantime, I shot up and excelled in making a better life for myself. If you’re struggling right now, hold on and strive every day to make yourself better. It can be done and especially if you’re younger.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Welcome Ice

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[IceBankMiceElfParticipant 124]

That’s so funny May, but I hear what you’re saying. I remember the day walking into the attorney’s office and everything throughout the process. When the day came when my attorney said here’s what she wants I said it doesn’t get any better than this and I need to get it out now and I did.

I do realize in life around me and the stories on this site that I dodged some huge artillery shells and I’m thankful.

[IceBankMiceElfParticipant 124]

Read the handle three times quickly…it’ll come to you!

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome ice,
funny handle there!!!
you did get very lucky indeed.
pull up a chair and have some fun,
and continue to share and learn.
great intro brother-man!

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