A friend of mine once shared a story from his time in the army. Returning from a weekend leave, he arrived late. The Sargent handed him some punishment, despite his excuses. He claimed the train was delayed, that it was not his fault. The Sargent simply asked him if there was any train before that one, and he said yes, on Sunday. Then he said to my friend: you could be here in time if you had taken the Sunday train…
My friend said he admired military logic.
I always knew that there was a great lesson here. But for years I have only skimmed the surface of this story.
In my view, if an organization allows people to come up with subjective excuses to break rules, in no time you have chaos. Subjectivity leads to comparisons, but they are complicated by the subjectivity: everybody thinks they are being unfairly treated. In the end it becomes hard to say who is telling the truth and who is not.
But today I have a greater understanding of the lesson. I can sum it with a phrase: deal only with what happened, ignore excuses or justifications.
We all know that when we screw up we need a good excuse. If it is good enough excuse then we are treated with more leniency than if we don’t have a good excuse. The question here is: what constitutes a “good excuse”? It is entirely subjective and depends on the relationship between you and the person with power over you.
Let us say that you and a friend are meeting for a bike ride. Your friend is late and wastes half-an-hour of your time. When he arrives he says he is sorry, but he had a flat tire.
Isn’t this a good enough excuse?
I would ask something else: what does that time meant to you? In face of how much you were wronged before you might decide the fate of your friendship.
Any excuse is useless. That army Sargent would ask him: as you were riding today, did you check the bike yesterday?
Accepting excuses is mostly unfair. You might have two guys, one wasting his time and care to have everything right and on time, the other without a single care in life. Yet if something happens to the second guy, “it was not his fault”?
S~~~ happens, the question is: to whom?
If s~~~ happens to one guy, and that leads to failing some other guy, then I guess s~~~ happened to the “other guy”, right? NO!
The “other guy” could be doing everything right and wasting his time to prevent the occurrence of the said “s~~~”. The first one is simply refusing to accept his own responsibility in the process, when in truth HE was the only one that had s~~~ happening.
So, no amount or quality of excuses should shield people from just retribution to the s~~~ that happened to THEM.
That is a significant departure from the modern way of looking at life. And it is especially useful when dealing with women.
I learned once that the only way to win an argument with women is to have no argument. Just state the most rigid principle (even if illogical) and stick to it no matter what. Not only they give up arguing, but they end up admiring you!
Men also look up to this kind of behavior (hence my friend admiring military logic), because it shows someone reliable that you know what you can count on.
Kids are very receptive and comfortable with this philosophy. And it is especially useful to parents, because kids are the worst in making up excuses to their screw-ups. If you allow this to happen, they might think a good excuse is a replacement to trying harder.
Forget all the psychological mumbo jumbo you ear and read. Its only talk, talk, and more talk (and that is only what psychologists do). Forget the precious feelings of others: let them handle it.
Otherwise it all leads to confused people, convinced that they are being unfairly treated, even when THEY are the ones making s~~~.
To the objection that this is not Christian enough, that God is forgiveness, then let me ask you: do you consider yourself equal to God in administering justice? Then why are you trying (and failing) to do so?
Let God deal with justice, and you deal with what happens.
Why is this useful to MGTOW? Because under this life philosophy you dont need to justify anything you do. If you do good then expect recognition and demand it. If you do s~~~, then expect punishment and accept it. Do not try to run away from the bad and don’t allow people stealing you from the good.
You also dont need to ear any justification from people: just look at what they do. If they are doing something good for you then recognize that. If they are doing something bad then punish them.
Just retribution.
This cuts the power of the whining feminist victim-hood and all the mangina blue pills of our days.
MACHO 1 year, 10 months ago.
