Just broke up – am afraid!

[GregerParticipant 7]

Hello. I just sent a message to my girlfriend of 2 years living in another country (latin country and latin girlfriend) to say that I break up. I went back to my coutnry a week ago and this is the first time she is aloen there withoput me in two years and I realize what a pussy I am for breaking up when im not geografically nearby.  She was basically a girl with daddy issues, jealousy and an emotional vampire. She had a kid and was married before me.  But, I of course do have some feelings and I am really afraid that I will go back after she convince me, I am afraid that I will go weak.

I feel really lonely right now, I have no friends nearby here that could help me and just don’t know what to do.

She is sleeping right now and haven’t seen my message and then when she wake upp hell will go loose. I feel really unstable emotionally.

Guess I’m just looking for some support to endure all this..

Cheers.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Is life so dear or peace so sweet as to be purchased at the price of chains and slavery? Forbid it, Almighty God! I know not what course others may take, but as for me, give me liberty, or give me death!
–Patrick Henry

Mr Henry said this just before the USA broke up with Great Britain.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

There will be pain, no getting away from that. The trick is realising its just an emotion …. a chemical reaction in your brain.

The world is still the same s~~~ place is was yesterday and the day before.

This feeling will pass … as they all do.

You made a choice, now stay with it. You made that choice for reasons you know are best for you.

Stick with it and you will find freedom and peace will come soon.

Be strong for now. Don’t go back … because nothing will change and you’ll still end up going through this all over again.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

Greger wrote:

Hello. I just sent a message to my girlfriend of 2 years living in another country (latin country and latin girlfriend) to say that I break up. I went back to my coutnry a week ago and this is the first time she is aloen there withoput me in two years and I realize what a pussy I am for breaking up when im not geografically nearby. She was basically a girl with daddy issues, jealousy and an emotional vampire. She had a kid and was married before me. But, I of course do have some feelings and I am really afraid that I will go back after she convince me, I am afraid that I will go weak. I feel really lonely right now, I have no friends nearby here that could help me and just don’t know what to do. She is sleeping right now and haven’t seen my message and then when she wake upp hell will go loose. I feel really unstable emotionally. Guess I’m just looking for some support to endure all this.. Cheers.

 

Read the other intros and it will open your eyes.

 

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"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[Anonymous 18]

ILiveAgain wrote:

The trick is realising its just an emotion …. a chemical reaction in your brain

That’s exactly how I got over some frustration and hang-ups from past relationship. That’s all there is to it. With time (weeks, months) the desire to initiate contact or being contacted will die a slow death. It is up to you to make it as painfree as you want.

There was a Buddhist monk I watched on youtube about letting go. He said his master once told him to pick a rock and asked if it was heavy. Then he asked him to drop it. He asked again, “Is it heavy now?”

Let go. Happiness will find you.

[GregerParticipant 7]

Thanks guys, It’s under control for the moment. She is atthe moment writing to me in skype. A lot… Begging me and saying she’s gonna change and so on..

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Greger wrote:

Thanks guys, It’s under control for the moment. She is atthe moment writing to me in skype. A lot… Begging me and saying she’s gonna change and so on..

DON’T FALL FOR IT.

They will say and do (temporarily) anything to get you back on the plantation.

Be strong and hold faith.

[experiencedParticipant]

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Send us a picture of her?

Now, before denial, was the thought, for a nanosecond even, “Well she’s not that..”

The same applies Maximally to issues jealousy emotion vampire with a kid.

There’s the fraction of a second where your brain Is Telling You the Truth, before you subdue it. That flash of truth IS the truth. Don’t get lured back in by her and the “subdue it” part of your brain, or you’ll end up with a subdued life, one of regret.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

Greger:

Why are you affraid that all hell will break loose??????   You are clearly pussy whipped piece of s~~~?????

When you make a break you have to stick with it or you loose all credibility.  Soon she’ll see you as being weak, willing to suffer her bulls~~~ and will always take her back into your life.  The fact that you left channels open for her to communicate with her such as texts, e-mail and skype are all indications that you are a Blue Pill and looking to get her attention.  You want her to plead with you to fix things up.  You are not really ready to make the break.  If you keep this up she will know that she can not only continue on without making changes, she’ll go out and cheat on you and know fine well that if the other guy doesn’t pan out, you will willingly take her back.  You are simply pussy puppy.  You need to change.  Why are you afraid???????

[GregerParticipant 7]

I feel more sorry for her, she’s really sad.

 

I’m focusing my mind on trying to stay logical, not fall back into the feelings I feel or the feelings she wants to create in me. She knows I’m a very kind person and feel sorry for persons if I feel guilty for their misery. She’s  basically making herself a victim of everything possible right now and saying that I can’t leave her as trash behind. That I ruined her life, that I can’t leave her after all we’ve been trough.

She is really good looking, working as a model, has big fake t~~~ and a really nice body.  But she also has  a temper and a need for control I just can’t stand. So much bulls~~~ all the time for nothing. She eliminated friends from my cellphone, read my diary (and got p~~~ed of when she saw the name of another girl before her time), doesn’t want me to meet freinds that she doesn’t like, don’t have respect for my money and live just spedning my money in cigaretts and other bulls~~~ she canät live without. So many things that i logically jus’t cant accept, but the she goes on and make her self a victim and palys real nice for a while. Saying that she know she has problems mentally buty she’s trying to change. But she’s been saying that she is trying to change for such a long time now, it just wont happen.

Thanks for the support guys, it really helps to see yout comments.

 

F~~~ it, I’m just reading a lot on this site right now to keep my mind straight and focused on the right thing.

[GregerParticipant 7]

Sorry for bad grammar and badly written text above, My keyboard is really bad and I’m just writing fast without trying to analyse before (outlet for my thoughts and feelings).

[experiencedParticipant]

Greger, “F~~~ it, I’m just reading a lot on this site right now to keep my mind straight and focused on the right thing.”

Truer words’ve never been spoken. knowledge is power. this site has more effing knowlege against the crap she’s trying to pull on you, than any other site.

They know that feeling sorry for them is our Achilles’ heel. Continue to not fall for it.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

Greger:

I shouldn’t waste another post on you but I have so much experience and I always feel that I should use it to help other guys who are suffering at the hands of a bitch.

Number 1.  She is never going to change.  They may promise to change, but a leopard never changes their spots.  You can not change a persons underlying character that they were born with.

Number 2.  She is controlling.  If she cancels contacts on your cell phone, dictates who you can talk to, gets p~~~ed because you had a previous girlfriend, reads your diary, and control who your friends are, and you don’t put a halt to that kind of  behavior, you deserve everything you get.

Number 3.  You are the problem.  As I said, you are a pussy puppy dazzled by her good looks, model status, and fake t~~~.  You can’t think beyond the end of your prick.  You are clearly a pussy whipped Blue Pill.  It almost appears that you are led around on a dog collar.

Number 4.  You believe all her bulls~~~ about being a victim.  Get over it, and kick her to the curb.  They all play the victim card.  Don’t listen.  same with crying, promises, pleadings, begging.  Turn a deaf ear and a blind eye.

Number 5.  OMG She has no respect for your money.  You idiot.  She’s a gold digger, spoiled brat, and you’ve been trying to placate her bulls~~~ by buying everything she wants.

Get out of this relationship now.  She’s using you.  If you can’t see that then there is absolutely no hope for you.  Women do not respect Blue Pills.  If she could sucker a Red Pill into doing what you have been doing, she’ll dump you in five minutes.

That’s the last bit of advice I am offering you.  I’m not wasting any more time on your whining.

 

 

[GregerParticipant 7]

Robert Hallam wrote:

Greger: I shouldn’t waste another post on you but I have so much experience and I always feel that I should use it to help other guys who are suffering at the hands of a bitch. Number 1. She is never going to change. They may promise to change, but a leopard never changes their spots. You can not change a persons underlying character that they were born with. Number 2. She is controlling. If she cancels contacts on your cell phone, dictates who you can talk to, gets p~~~ed because you had a previous girlfriend, reads your diary, and control who your friends are, and you don’t put a halt to that kind of behavior, you deserve everything you get. Number 3. You are the problem. As I said, you are a pussy puppy dazzled by her good looks, model status, and fake t~~~. You can’t think beyond the end of your prick. You are clearly a pussy whipped Blue Pill. It almost appears that you are led around on a dog collar. Number 4. You believe all her bulls~~~ about being a victim. Get over it, and kick her to the curb. They all play the victim card. Don’t listen. same with crying, promises, pleadings, begging. Turn a deaf ear and a blind eye. Number 5. OMG She has no respect for your money. You idiot. She’s a gold digger, spoiled brat, and you’ve been trying to placate her bulls~~~ by buying everything she wants. Get out of this relationship now. She’s using you. If you can’t see that then there is absolutely no hope for you. Women do not respect Blue Pills. If she could sucker a Red Pill into doing what you have been doing, she’ll dump you in five minutes. That’s the last bit of advice I am offering you. I’m not wasting any more time on your whining.

 

Although I donät like your attitude towards me your comments are like a burst of true to me, I feel they are true. I’m so weak it’s incredible. She’s sending so many messages all day long. It’s really hard to be hard to her.

 

I try to keep my answers short and with truths like “Want to make it clear, we’re never going back” etc.

[Executor MaxwellParticipant 591]

Greger wrote:

I feel more sorry for her, she’s really sad.

I’m focusing my mind on trying to stay logical, not fall back into the feelings I feel or the feelings she wants to create in me. She knows I’m a very kind person and feel sorry for persons if I feel guilty for their misery. She’s basically making herself a victim of everything possible right now and saying that I can’t leave her as trash behind. That I ruined her life, that I can’t leave her after all we’ve been trough.

She is really good looking, working as a model, has big fake t~~~ and a really nice body. But she also has a temper and a need for control I just can’t stand. So much bulls~~~ all the time for nothing. She eliminated friends from my cellphone, read my diary (and got p~~~ed of when she saw the name of another girl before her time), doesn’t want me to meet freinds that she doesn’t like, don’t have respect for my money and live just spedning my money in cigaretts and other bulls~~~ she canät live without. So many things that i logically jus’t cant accept, but the she goes on and make her self a victim and palys real nice for a while. Saying that she know she has problems mentally buty she’s trying to change. But she’s been saying that she is trying to change for such a long time now, it just wont happen.

Thanks for the support guys, it really helps to see yout comments.

F~~~ it, I’m just reading a lot on this site right now to keep my mind straight and focused on the right thing.

Just think what you would advise to someone else that wrote the same story you did.

You owe her NOTHING!!!

It’s all about her her her, she has shown no concern for you other than what it would take to get you back under her abusive thumb.

Don’t waste your time trying to keep up with her she is just trying to wear you down. Just put whatever form of communication she is using aside and concentrate on your own needs, either what you want to work on or something you’d like to do to relax.

Let her pile up the crazy in your message box and if you must look at it in bulk after at least a day, preferably a couple days, and then imagine what it would be like being nagged to death by that creature for the rest of you life.

The one you need to take care of is yourself.

[Anonymous 42]

Greger wrote:

Begging me and saying she’s gonna change and so on..

Bla bal bla… she let the forest burn to a cinder! Now she holds a bucket of water? After she was the one that set the fire! Let her live in the mudslides of her own logic! Don’t be captain save’a’hoe, your instincts will never fail you, but only if you act on “your instincts”. Follow your gut feelings, that’s what saves animals from destruction in nature, that’s what will save you from a future of untold misery and disappointment, RUN FAST, RUN FAR! NEVER RETURN! Your future will be eternally grateful to you and will reward you beyond your wildest dreams, or go back to her and be destroyed beyond your wildest nightmares. It’s just the way it is, I don’t make the rules, I just avoid the f~~~ out of them!

You’ll be OK! All things work in favor for the wise man that obeys his instincts. That’s why we call them blue pill fools, they obey their women, and in the face of logic they ignore their instincts, they become a useless pile of slimy wishy washy vaginal excrement!

What woman would enjoy kissing her own used tampon?

 

[GregerParticipant 7]

Having a hard time now. She’s p~~~ed of sending me messages that she will hate me for ever and I feel kind of sorry for everything, though I don’t believe in a relationship with her still. Got to be hard, just wanted to write it here meanwhile i dropped in to get my head straight again.

Getting really horny as well. Been used to have sex frequently and now not had sex in more than a month.

[Anonymous 42]

Greger, they don’t call it addickted for nothing! It always “feels bad” when we tear nature from its roots, that’s what all the hurt is from! You only need to realize that your intellect is at odds with her “nature”, you need to reboot your mind and in doing so you alter nature’s natural course. Massive rebooting is needed, and long overdue for modern women (personally I think they’re fried).

It’s mans nature to fall into a trap by being lured and enticed by a manipulative women. I know I wrestle from time to time as pussy becomes available, and I still won’t participate! Some females are like walking away from a bag of trash, others are sometimes difficult because their cloaked in beauty….

Just remember: There’s to many live hand grenades to ever play it safe.. All the carnage around me and that I’ve witnessed, is enough to keep me away from grenades for ten thousand years…. I enjoy my peace and sanity, I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world….

[larry1981Participant 12]

Greger, thanks for sharing your story with us. Going through a break up as well. I am also weak, but so far I have managed to stay strong and stick to my guns although is difficult.

Robert Hallam’s description of you also describes me nails on. Although his words may come off hash, he is so right. I also deserve those words. Women can make us men (at least most of us) so damn weak and they know it. Reading posts on this forum is the best therapy there is. Is much better than just googling “break up” because women or white knights write the advice we end up with then.
By the way, my cousin has a Colombian ex-wife. His description of her seems similar to your story.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Greger wrote:

Having a hard time now. She’s p~~~ed of sending me messages that she will hate me for ever

Ah.

When she was “happy” ……. did she tell you she would LOVE you forever???
If she didn’t promise to love you forever…. why would she promise to HATE you forever?

Then break up was EXACTLY the right thing to do. Hating you forever is only a problem when you care if a woman “hates” you. Letting a woman hate you can VERY often (almost always) mean you’re doing everything RIGHT. I have met women who hate me just because I would never sign a marriage contract AT ALL. Nevermind to them personally.

Crying is a manipulation. Threats of “hating” you is a manipulation. Women actually hate their own husbands so much they would let themselves get pregnant WITHOUT TELLING HIM. I am always amazed how a woman can “hate” so much – much more easily than she loves.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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